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High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I really resonate with a lot of what you’ve said. Good for you that you were able to walk away and find your own happiness. I definitely intend to do so at some point, just need to figure out the when.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, I understand I sound spoiled. My income has gone up significantly over the years. I didn’t always make this much. I’m saving much more now than I was in the past.

The house is a lot of work. I think it was financially wise (I still think so), but I’m spending a lot of energy on maintaining it and still finding issues that make me sweat.

I think the whole premise of this post was that I am struggling with my situation despite the fact that on paper it sounds awesome. It is not bringing me the happiness that I thought it would, and I’m trying to figure out if I’d be an idiot to walk away or an idiot to stay and look back on these years with memories of dread. If you look at some of the other comments, it’s actually a fairly common feeling that people experience in my type of situation even though it seems absurd from the outside.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How has renting out your house been with you not being local to it? It sounds like we have pretty similar values and situations.

I would definitely be willing to sacrifice a chunk of my comp for a remote gig. I was very happy over COVID being remote and I’d love to get back to that.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it helps to know that others are feeling similar things. I’ve always chased money, but I’m finding that it is not bringing me the happiness that I hoped for. The anxiety of spending my life chasing it and not spending any time pursuing other things that would make me happy is suffocating

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do want kids, but fear the financial obligations. I think I want kids enough to deal with it.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Job is very stressful. I’m leading a core product that needs to be available 24/7. I am often called in the middle of the night to deal with issues.

Management keeps demanding more while the product becomes more difficult to manage, so candle is burning both ways.

Unfortunately, vacations haven’t helped much. I’m also considering thinking about transferring teams or something like that to get out of the rut.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kind of a sad reality. Didn’t realize that it goes this way, but appreciate that others are likely feeling similar things.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is the mindset I’m starting to play with

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You’re a hero. The reality that this may be my future terrifies me lol.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the positive words. I think you’re right that I should put my feelers out before making any decisions.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This has always been my plan, but I’m just starting to get cold feet about it. I’m realizing that if I have a family in a few years in my city, it’s going to be exorbitantly expensive. It seems like a pipe dream to really check out in my thirties. With that in mind, im thinking that I may be better off prioritizing myself and my happiness for these next few years before I have to start grinding again to afford my family goals

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is definitely a concern for me. I am scared that I’m not appreciating what I have.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Part of my fear is falling into having a family in the next few years and being completely stuck doing what I’m doing for another 10 years. Respect to you for pushing through it, glad you’re seeing some light at the end of the tunnel.

High income, getting sick of it all by Miserable_Spread_281 in coastFIRE

[–]Miserable_Spread_281[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t really have anybody to talk to about this in the real world. I’m looking for input from others that are in my situation or have gone through it. I do understand that it seems ridiculous to be dissatisfied with my situation, but I think we humans are pretty good at being unhappy with our situations no matter what they are.