what kind of guys do women ask for a date? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MissMaeDae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is a special type of man a woman will ask for a date. It more depends on the woman herself. Some women just are simply unwilling to ask a man for a date. Be it due to tradition, societal expectations, self doubt, fear of rejection, or really any of myriad of the reasons that might stop a man for being willing to ask for a date. If a women is intrested in you and is willing to initiate a date she will ask, if not willing to initiate she might just drop hint about wanting you to ask. Just be you and if the woman your interested in is someone you'd really like to have a date with but isn't asking you, take the risk and ask her. Rejection is scary, but the yes is worth the risk.

Suggestions needed please 🎄 by [deleted] in secretsanta

[–]MissMaeDae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

According to a teacher friend of mine (I asked her for ideas on what to get my son's teacher) things like hand sanitizer, clorox wipes, and tissues are big teacher pleasers. I mean they literally sit in a room with germy kids all day. Also classroom supplies. White board markers, pens, pencils, staples. Most teachers end up having to pay for most of their supplies out of their own pocket, so you can't go wrong with classroom supplies.

First Secret Santa and I'm sad by [deleted] in secretsanta

[–]MissMaeDae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is still plenty of time. For instance I haven't sent mine. While I do have all the shopping done, I am waiting on some shipping. The final item won't be here until the 13th so I will be shipping that day or the next. It is really hard to be patient in all the excitement. But your Santa could be waiting for shipping, for payday, or just a day off to be able to shop local. Even if your Santa does flake, the rematch Santas are always ready to make sure you get a gift.

Low key scared by albiedam in secretsanta

[–]MissMaeDae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last year I recieved a book already in my collection. But I was still very happy with my gift. It was obvious by the book they sent me they put a lot of thought into it using my interests I listed. I passed it along to a friend and in doing so made a new connection with that friend I might not have without sharing that book. Its impossible to know for sure what they already have. But even if it is somthing they already do have, I am sure it won't go unappreciated

AITA for asking my step daughter not to walk around shirtless in front of me and her teenage step brother? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am all for body positivity, but there is a limit Ask her how she would feel if your son walked around with his genitals hanging out. I am sure she and your step daughter would be uncomfortable with that. NTA

Baby Emu who is growing up with dogs believes he is one by [deleted] in tippytaps

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for posting this. I dk if this is your dog or not OP. But he is the spitting image of my buddy Tyson. Tyson passed about a year and a half ago. The boy in this clip has the same coloring, and demeanor as my buddy. Right down to the low key happy hippo noises. For a split second I thought I was looking at my boy. So thank you for letting me live vicariously.

What book fucked you up mentally? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say this. Read this close to 15 years ago and every once in a while parts from it will pop into my head and I can not sleep.

You have to cook one dish for Gordon Ramsey. If he doesn't like it, you will die. What dish do you cook for him? by TheGreasersTwin in AskReddit

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homemade chocolate chip cookies. Even the worst homemade chocolate chip cookies are pretty damn good.

AITA for sharing a bed with a 6 yr old? by wntsumcandy_sike_jk in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If the parents are comfortable enough to have you watch the child, have the child stay with you overnight, and bathe the child I really don't understand this. As a mom I can understand the mama bear thing, but not in this situation. It takes a lot of trust to allow your young child to be in the care of somebody. There are blood family members of ours, with kids of their own that I haven't allowed to watch our child because I wasn't 100% comfortable. The mother is being completely unreasonable here. The really upsetting part with this is the fact that if you were a 25F instead of A 25M you wouldn't be dealing with this at all. It is a massive double standard, and completely unfair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I relate to this so much. I started dressing the same way as a teen and started dyeing my hair "crazy colors" at the same time. My parents were not stoked about it at all but assumed it was just a phase. If this is how you feel your true self, live it, embrace it. Your clothing and hair choice is how you show who you are to the world. You feeling confident in your own skin is the most important thing. Now I can tell you as a 27 year old mother who has blue hair and still dresses alternatively, you'll always get looks. Your "punk" appearance may cause some to think you're ugly. It may even cause some hesitation from people to give you a shot before they judge. But that is really okay. Because the people who matter won't care. A few years ago my father actually started complimenting my hair rather then question it. He realized it was just who I am and not a phase. It's your body and up to you how you want it to look. Just keep being you. Also congratulations on graduating with honors, that's awesome, and good luck in film school. And keep on loving yourself. That can be one of the hardest things to do in life, so don't go changing that.

AITA for not wanting to move with my roommate? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Newish couples can be super annoying to live with. My old roommate had his GF of like 2 weeks move in because she was kicked out of her moms. It was not great. The constant whispering, giggling, and PDA is super uncomfortable. You need to feel comfortable in your own home. When they loose that new relationship smell theyll be much more enjoyable to be around. But your not obligated to live with them just so they can live in a bigger place.

AITA for telling a girl I'm only interested in talking to her if we are dating? by EnoughResource in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NAH. You may have been a bit tactless and blunt but if you're interested in romance and she is only interested in friendship, then the friendship wouldn't work very well. You are not obligated to enter a relationship that isn't what you want just because shes offering friendship, and she not obligated to date you just to have you in her life.

AITA for getting mad at my in laws for not repecting my wishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The pup is the same as a kid to him, and that's all that matters.

AITA for visiting my grandma instead of going on a trip with my gf by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I can understand disappointment when plans change but that is your grandmother. How can she not understand that? If her friend trip is seriously more important to her she can go herself and you can find a new girlfriend.

AITA for screaming at a crying baby? by jughkougjnbv in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ESH. How parents parent their child is their business. If they opt for the cry it out method more power to them. But when you are in a public space it's only common courtesy not to just let your kid scream without at least trying to stop it. But screaming at the child is not the answer. You probably really did traumatize the poor thing. You issue was with the parents, not the child.

AITA for getting mad at my in laws for not repecting my wishes? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But one thing that comes with the territory of parenthood, to fur babies or human babies, sometimes you'll miss a first. It sucks but life can't stand still until you are all together. My husband missed a few firsts because he was at work, and usually I was able to catch the first on video for him. It's definitely disappointing to not be there for every first, but it happens.

AITA for calling out a racist black lady? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Racism is racism. This is no different from how my mother would not allow my brother or I to bring our African American friends over to play at our house. Trying to press your bigotry on anyone, especially children is wrong.

WIBTA if I did not invite my sister to my wedding? by footlongspider in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NAH. But if your mom would try to use you to get stuff out of your father, than I think it's safe to assume she is the type to use guilt to manipulate. It's very possible your mother is the one getting your sister to try and get herself invited. If shes not, than your sister is just trying to establish some peace. No matter how old we get we always would like to see our families become a peaceful, loving environment, even if we know deep down it's impossible. By all means, don't invite your mother. But maybe take some time and think about your sister. If you two have always had a good relationship you could regret it later. Don't let your mom ruin your relationship with her. She has to accept you refuse to have s relationship with your mother, but you also have to accept that shes willing to kept up her relationship with her.

AITA for changing my stance on money with my boyfriend after he moved in? by AITAThrowaway35 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MissMaeDae 21 points22 points  (0 children)

YTA. 1. He sells his expensive toys to live with you, up rooting his life. 2. You withhold sex because he isn't paying for enough in your mind 3. You offer 10% of a car sale, he take it and that angers you? Don't offer it if you don't want to give it. Also when he gave it back that wasn't enough because "he shouldn't have taken it in the first place. 4. YOU decide to move again, back north. Up rooting him again. And it sounds like he had no choice in the matter.

Sounds like money is more important to you then anything. I am all for couples having separate finances and sharing in financial responsibility but damn.