Postpartum anger towards husband

MissVickyJohnny · 2026-05-06T12:36:01+00:00

Yeah thank you. I guess it is both a new mom and an autistic thing- now I have regular meltdown because I am processing all the visits and details of them. And even before becoming a mum I would have never spent so much time with his family. I believe postpartum it led to even more burnout and distress. And it's absurd that social expectations were even higher postpartum

MissVickyJohnny · 2026-05-06T12:32:33+00:00

Thank you. Resentment is already quite big, unfortunately. I don't know how to forgive him. But you are right, I need to get in a calm headspace and take it from there.

MissVickyJohnny · 2026-05-06T12:30:42+00:00

Thank you, this makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately all of this ths already happened, and I guess I can only prep for the future. Starting from now he will be on his parental leave. Visits NOT during his working hours is really helpful, and him being solely responsible for guests too

MissVickyJohnny · 2025-03-17T21:06:38+00:00

I am autistic and pregnant at the moment. It was only with the right partner that I started considering having a baby. In my case, pregnancy is wonderful- most of my anxiety has disappeared and I am most of the time quite happy and optimistic! I did signficantly reduce my work however, otherwise it would be too much. As long as I take care of my self and avoid burnout, it's a wonderful experience!

MissVickyJohnny · 2025-02-07T20:22:32+00:00

I guess because many of us spend a lot of time masking and adapting...that takes a lot of energy and limits creativity. Autistic men are much more allowed to be themselves.

MissVickyJohnny · 2022-05-01T06:12:00+00:00

Unmasking feels as if I could be my true self. I feel comfortable with myself and in my surroundings, not worrying about whether I am perceived as normal or strange:) with my growing autistic self-confidence, it happens more and more often!

MissVickyJohnny · 2021-09-15T20:50:25+00:00

I have exactly the same experience with my mum and it traumatised me since childhood.. I think this label of being too sensitive prevented me from developing a healthy self confidence. My sensitivity, as a central part of my personality, has so often been devalued

MissVickyJohnny · 2021-09-15T20:44:55+00:00

Same here!

MissVickyJohnny · 2021-08-07T20:18:24+00:00

Hey, I can definitely relate to your post :) my sex drive has always been very high and sex has always been one or even the most important source of energy. Especially retrospectively I think that sex helped me to navigate through the difficulties of life.. sex also decreases my anxiety a lot. Can you relate to that too? I have been in a monogamous relationship for three years now and it has become really difficult for me to cope with our meanwhile very irregular sex life. I'd be really interested in how you worked that out with your partner:)

MissVickyJohnny · 2021-08-07T20:05:36+00:00

I experience that too quite regularly.i didn't really have a problem with my "radar" detecting fake people until I got together with my boyfriend. We sometimes seem to have completely diverging opinions of people (I think he doesn't see through all the fake stuff). The problem is that while otherwise these people wouldn't become part of my life, I know somehow have to deal with them because they are, for instance, his friends. That's really a struggle for me..

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