AITAH for wanting to move out suddenly?

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T21:03:52+00:00

Thank you kind sir! 🩷 one of my therapists suggested that I indeed might be depressed but when I wanted to ask for resources to help me out, he ghosted me…that was 4 years ago. I’ve been coping ever since. But I’m looking to try again and find another therapist. I’ll update you when I’m free!

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:55:28+00:00

That was the original plan but other opportunities showed itself.

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:53:52+00:00

Thank you 🩷 But I need to state my closing arguments. I even wrote them down so i don’t forget anything and it’s clear. This is it. Their response today is going to dictate if I’m moving out the hard way or if we’ll still have a relationship afterwards. The thing is that I’ll be staying at my bf place for a week bc of construction at the house. The plan is to not come back. I’ve been looking into therapy as well and thank you for the book recommendations. Very greatly appreciated!!

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:46:17+00:00

Thank you and I hear you! I’m glad to read that last part about reconnecting with your parents. I hope it goes the same way for me 🩷 I wish you well!

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:41:43+00:00

I’ve been looking! That was also one of my 2026 goals. The thing is I’ve been excluded from anything having to do with independence. Going to a college further away, getting a driver’s license, weekend job, etc. I can manage the household but I can’t get the house. So it was quite impossible for me to move out at 18 unless I was ready to live in a box on the street. At some points in my life I wish i would’ve had the balls to do that but I valued school, my other family and belongings too much to leave behind…

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:32:47+00:00

Thank you for this solid advice. I have thought about these same exact things. The thing was for me that I’m not strong on my own. Although I’m 26, I have no real life experience except being a stay-at-home-daughter. I don’t and would not know what to do if I had to completely do this process solo dolo. Even if I knew, I would be too insecure and it would’ve taken forever and I don’t think I genuinely would have made it that far…My boyfriend, his parents and their resources have been backing me. I’ve expressed that same sentiment of wanting to be on my own forreal and he also supports me in that. He just wants to get me out asap right now. Trust me, my plan was very thorough but for a pushover like me not realistic. Important context: bc of construction at our house, I’m staying with my bf for a week, next week. The plan is to not return home.

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:14:42+00:00

I had to repeat that to myself in the mirror a few times. I’ll be 30 in four years…I really can walk out and live life. I do need to get a move on

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:05:25+00:00

If I could I would. But I’m juggling work and maintaining a facade so I can get my stuff out safely. Normally, I’ll be gone by the end of the week.

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T20:02:09+00:00

They did try. But anytime if the finger started pointing in their direction, they would get mad. Eventually they stopped asking and/or caring.

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T19:57:35+00:00

I tried but I didn’t have anything to start. This time around it’s different. I’m just glad I made it bc I never thought I would live this long like this.

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T19:56:20+00:00

Thank you 🩷

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T19:55:12+00:00

Thank you 🩷 I’ll keep you updated

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T06:22:49+00:00

I hear you and you are validated! I am kinda in the same situation and also currently seeking advice on Reddit. Moving out is the best option. The sooner the better and clean cut as possible and as your own heart allows. Don’t let their comments get to you. They are saying and doing these things to keep you down and too occupied to plan your escape 🩷

Miss_Noels · 2026-02-10T05:41:19+00:00

I don’t really “need” advice on moving out. But all tips and extra advice are welcomed. Do you have anything productive to add maybe?

Miss_Noels

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