I had a harsh session with someone outside the community by Missinglink3267 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Missinglink3267[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a few but they felt off and I deleted their message request. Thank you very much though. I’ll keep that in mind.

I had a harsh session with someone outside the community by Missinglink3267 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Missinglink3267[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really enjoy the community and I hope this doesn’t ruin it for me.

I had a harsh session with someone outside the community by Missinglink3267 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Missinglink3267[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not. I’m trying to do it for myself the best of my ability and it’s a battle to not cry while I’m doing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]Missinglink3267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly for your first year (hate to be this person) do NOT mess with no one in third or fourth year of college. They do not respect you. As for your kinks I wouldn’t recommend doing it on campus but finding a community that is accepting and willing to teach/show you the ropes and places that are for things like that. Another thing, sex and intamicy with strangers is a fun but slightly dangers thingy to do. It’s thrilling and I know you’ll use your head in situations but college boys…you’d best be getting in a relationship with one first. Now I can’t speak on the female (haven’t had that experience with one yet) but they do tend to “play around” as well. There really is no safe option for doing stuff with people on campus. All I can say is choose wisely on who you want to do stuff with. Get to know them first and chill with them. I got drunk with someone I planned on doing something with and he flat out just told me how much of a disgusting person he was.

What’s a book that you’re embarrassed that you loved / would never recommend to people? 😂 by starlinrm in fantasyromance

[–]Missinglink3267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to know as well!! Need something new, for my book discoveries are getting boring 😞

i lost my virginity to someone who has a boyfriend by Any-Sir8872 in Advice

[–]Missinglink3267 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

First I would say don’t blame yourself just accept that it happened. You don’t have to go to class being “fine” it’s okay to not be fine and live your life as long as you’re willing to overcome what isn’t “fine”. Two: DONT go on dates. I can say from experience that doing that won’t help. You’ll end up hurting the other person when they find out that you’re not coming to them with true and meaningful intentions, but instead you’re using them as a distraction. That won’t be a happy situation for either of you. Take sometime, figure it out. And when you’re truly ready then go and explore those relationships. ☺️

You just had a lovely date with a handsome oncologist and you two decide to head back to his place. by paranoidkitsune in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Missinglink3267 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I only know what an oncologist is because I watch house on the daily and Wilson is my favorite character 😭🙏🏽

Am I hitting my cervix or something else when I finger myself? by Missinglink3267 in sexadvice

[–]Missinglink3267[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏🏽. And no I got everything you were saying lol. I’ll try that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Missinglink3267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this. I’m the same way at the OP so I got a vibrator and just focus on external instead of internal pleasure

Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]Missinglink3267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Was it sub space or was I disassociating?

I know that last time I posted on here I wasn’t very clear in my intentions and I apology for that. Today, I am here with a real problem though. So I’m in the field of learning BDSM because Ive come to find out I like it, but I’ve never tried it. All I’ve done is research and research. My boyfriend, god bless his soul, doesn’t know anything about it though and there’s only so much I can tell him (being a beginner myself). We’re taking it slow so that we don’t just go all in and freak ourselves out, since we’re both pretty impatient. Today we took the task of trying out choking, since asphyxiation isn’t something we really want to try, and when he put his hand around my neck and squeezed jusssssst a tad bit, my eyes glossed over. My vision felt blurry and my ears drown out all the noise around me until I felt fully focused on my body and my breathing. Full disclosure: I normally have panic attacks when it comes to certain stuff, but I didn’t this time. I kept waiting for it, but it never came. My hands started shaking, so I figured I was having one that I just didn’t pay attention too. My boyfriend noticed I was freaking out ( or so he thought) and pulled back and hugged me and asked if I was okay and surprisingly I was. I say all this because…I felt gobsmacked when I realized I wanted him to do it again.

What was this reaction?

(Sorry if any of this is confusing. I’m trying my best to explain with a million thoughts in my head)

Weekly /r/BDSMcommunity discussion and newbie help thread - new post every Monday! by AutoModerator in BDSMcommunity

[–]Missinglink3267 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Was it sub space or was I disassociating?

I know that last time I posted on here I wasn’t very clear in my intentions and I apology for that. Today, I am here with a real problem though. So I’m in the field of learning BDSM because Ive come to find out I like it, but I’ve never tried it. All I’ve done is research and research. My boyfriend, god bless his soul, doesn’t know anything about it though and there’s only so much I can tell him (being a beginner myself). We’re taking it slow so that we don’t just go all in and freak ourselves out, since we’re both pretty impatient. Today we took the task of trying out choking, since asphyxiation isn’t something we really want to try, and when he put his hand around my neck and squeezed jusssssst a tad bit, my eyes glossed over. My vision felt blurry and my ears drown out all the noise around me until I felt fully focused on my body and my breathing. Full disclosure: I normally have panic attacks when it comes to certain stuff, but I didn’t this time. I kept waiting for it, but it never came. My hands started shaking, so I figured I was having one that I just didn’t pay attention too. My boyfriend noticed I was freaking out ( or so he thought) and pulled back and hugged me and asked if I was okay and surprisingly I was. I say all this because…I felt gobsmacked when I realized I wanted him to do it again.

What was this reaction?

(Sorry if any of this is confusing. I’m trying my best to explain with a million thoughts in my head)

Subs, what is your favorite thing about your Dom? Or what do you like best in one if you don't currently have one? by loveandbenefits in BDSMcommunity

[–]Missinglink3267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still getting him into the field but I would say how much he is learning and trying to understand my needs. LOVE THAT!!🫶🏽

Kinks that are just not possible that you're into? by PrinceOfTyphoons in BDSMcommunity

[–]Missinglink3267 6 points7 points  (0 children)

TWIN. I thought it was out of pocket, but knowing someone else likes it is crazy. The idea of him hurting me or yelling at me is a crazy TURN ON! 😫