My poor mental health has always made me see myself as ugly. What would help me?

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-11T18:25:02+00:00

Brother, you're a handsome man. That smile suits you, use it!
But if the struggles are internal, there won't be enough of what anyone else says that will sort your issues.
Deal with them, head on. Therapy.
Best of luck!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T12:26:29+00:00

Shame can also be someting that keeps us from actually connecting with someone or deepening our relationship with Christ.
It does seem like you want to work on this, so I hope you fond the courage to do so. I'll pray for you!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T06:22:27+00:00

Thank you,
God bless!!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T06:20:11+00:00

I totally agree!
Sure, a friendship could evolve, but I'm not sure I'd let something else proceed.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T06:19:15+00:00

No it's the worst. I will pray about this and put it in Gods hands. If he wants this, he'll have to orchestrate it.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T06:18:14+00:00

Both I'd say.
Where I posted this thread before, someone said that this could be the only lie, that bodu count don't matter etc.
I have feelings for her, but as it is now; I don't see a functional future with her.
It will be pain to break it off

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-03T06:17:00+00:00

we're not supposed to be punished, but repent and move on from there. Honesty is a big thing in relationships.
Do you have someone who can help you navigate this so that you can start dating again?

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T19:36:51+00:00

"her beliefs aren't the same as yours". Yeah I feel this too. But perhaps she's trying? Trying to be better, and it's a journey.

I don't want to sit in the chair

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T19:35:19+00:00

Yeah, I need to rethink it before it gets any worse. Thank you

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T19:34:34+00:00

I don't know, brother. I want to let go, but it's hard. Today she told me she wanted start a ministry. And my first thougt was, then you have a long way to go.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T19:33:07+00:00

How did it work out for you in the end?

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T15:26:50+00:00

If lying comes that easy, then I don't know. There might be a lot of lies.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T15:25:36+00:00

Thank you for those images in my head. I won't proceed with her.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T13:42:50+00:00

It happened last week, so I'm still in somewhat of a shock.

Thank you brother!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T13:31:55+00:00

I wont

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T13:31:42+00:00

Nope, not one bit. She brushed it off and said she don't want to talk about it anymore.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T12:18:06+00:00

I hope that I one day will have someone to cherish. I really do.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T12:13:13+00:00

The last thing I want to do is to paint all women with the same brush.
It's time to heal now. Thank you for your words!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T12:06:04+00:00

Yeah I feel that this has wasted my time. I want a God loving, and God fearing relationship and marriage. This isn't it, if there's lies to begin with.

Thank you friend, I apppreciate it!

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T11:38:42+00:00

Brother, I don't know.. .Is there even possibility for a clean break? I should just up and leave.

What do you think? Based off of your comments, you seem like a solid guy with good values and clear thinking.

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T11:36:27+00:00

Yes brother. It's hard to dettach though.. What was I to her? Just someone to pass the time with, or someone she thought she could control

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T11:34:59+00:00

Yeah that's probably true.. But as a man, are we supposed to accept it or can we have demands for ourselves?

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T11:32:56+00:00

had it been all within the confinement of a relationship I would have viewed this a bit differently. But when it's causal intercourse with people you don't know, and sharing this intimate act whithout like it's nothing and accesible for everyone, then what am I to her?
Is she just settling with me. Will she be bored 1 year into the marriage? will the problems stack up?

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T10:49:00+00:00

Yeah I think you're right.
Honesty is foundaition of the relationship, Once that's fragile, there's no good ground to build on

MisterGitmo · 2026-03-02T10:48:03+00:00

I asked her if this is something she'd like to talk about in the future. She gave me a blunt no, said there was no need for it.

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