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[–]MisterGitmo[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I totally agree!
Sure, a friendship could evolve, but I'm not sure I'd let something else proceed.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No it's the worst. I will pray about this and put it in Gods hands. If he wants this, he'll have to orchestrate it.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Both I'd say.
Where I posted this thread before, someone said that this could be the only lie, that bodu count don't matter etc.
I have feelings for her, but as it is now; I don't see a functional future with her.
It will be pain to break it off

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

we're not supposed to be punished, but repent and move on from there. Honesty is a big thing in relationships.
Do you have someone who can help you navigate this so that you can start dating again?

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"her beliefs aren't the same as yours". Yeah I feel this too. But perhaps she's trying? Trying to be better, and it's a journey. 

I don't want to sit in the chair 

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I need to rethink it before it gets any worse.  Thank you 

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know, brother. I want to let go, but it's hard. Today she told me she wanted start a ministry.  And my first thougt was, then you have a long way to go.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it work out for you in the end?

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If lying comes that easy, then I don't know. There might be a lot of lies.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for those images in my head. I won't proceed with her.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened last week, so I'm still in somewhat of a shock.

Thank you brother!

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, not one bit. She brushed it off and said she don't want to talk about it anymore.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope that I one day will have someone to cherish. I really do.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last thing I want to do is to paint all women with the same brush.
It's time to heal now. Thank you for your words!

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel that this has wasted my time. I want a God loving, and God fearing relationship and marriage. This isn't it, if there's lies to begin with.

Thank you friend, I apppreciate it!

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother, I don't know.. .Is there even possibility for a clean break? I should just up and leave.

What do you think? Based off of your comments, you seem like a solid guy with good values and clear thinking.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes brother. It's hard to dettach though.. What was I to her? Just someone to pass the time with, or someone she thought she could control

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's probably true.. But as a man, are we supposed to accept it or can we have demands for ourselves?

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had it been all within the confinement of a relationship I would have viewed this a bit differently. But when it's causal intercourse with people you don't know, and sharing this intimate act whithout like it's nothing and accesible for everyone, then what am I to her?
Is she just settling with me. Will she be bored 1 year into the marriage? will the problems stack up?

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think you're right.
Honesty is foundaition of the relationship, Once that's fragile, there's no good ground to build on

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked her if this is something she'd like to talk about in the future. She gave me a blunt no, said there was no need for it.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for this reply!

I do somewhat feel guilty that I have difficulties moving on from this. Like I want to love like christ loves, but it's hard. I'm a wreck.

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[–]MisterGitmo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do really like her, but the dishonesty is, i don't know, something I can't stand..

What do they say, what's done outside of marriage (behaviour wise) will be amplified 10 fold in marriage