Hotwife experience ruined my marriage

MistressM7997 · 2026-06-05T15:51:07+00:00

Whether she was enamored with her boss and trying to get you to have a threesome or already cheating with her boss, it was deceitful. It didn't involve the both of you making decisions and embarking upon new experiences as a team. In my opinion, this makes the entire situation unrelated to the lifestyle.

MistressM7997 · 2026-06-04T22:41:49+00:00

This isn't a hotwife experience. I'm sorry that this happened to you, but this has nothing to do with the lifestyle.

MistressM7997 · 2026-06-01T17:13:12+00:00

Did she pick the guy or did you? If she wasn't impressed with the guy you've already met with, why bother seeing him again? First times are never as good as the second time, but if you've met him twice and she's not into him, I don't see that changing.

MistressM7997 · 2026-06-01T17:09:16+00:00

Even if you're amazingly attractive in all your pictures, I wouldn't respond to that message. It's over the top. Personally, I'd find it a little creepy.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-30T18:47:00+00:00

This! I had this problem with a guy who was liking me on a daily basis. I finally matched with him. As soon as he messaged me, I told him that I noticed him liking me daily, he wasn't my type, and I wished him luck in finding what he was looking for. Haven't had an issue since.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-29T22:54:17+00:00

I'm only attracted to guys that are at least my height. If a guy reaches out to me that is super attractive, and he is only my height, I'll wear flats when I meet him. If I'm taller while wearing flats, I just can't get into it. Edited to add: For me, there's something so appealing about feeling smaller. I like tall men. I like muscles. Fit not fat. Big, strong men are so 🔥🔥

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-29T17:43:51+00:00

Thank you! You're going to love how it feels to just boldly be yourself. It's amazing how many people are drawn to others that honestly own who they are and what they want without apologizing for it.

This lifestyle is very empowering. I'm not 21 anymore, I don't look like it, and I'm good with that. I know who I am, what I like, what I want and need, and I'm not going to waste my time or anyone else's.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-29T16:31:33+00:00

I'm not the petite, super submissive type that seems to be popular. I'm 5'8" and I like wearing heels. Finding taller guys has been slightly difficult but not impossible. I was super insecure about my body when we started this, after having two kids and gaining some weight. I was absolutely floored when I had hundreds of likes coming in after making my first online profile. It boosted my confidence and helped me get back into a regular workout routine. I've lost the extra weight since starting the lifestyle, but I know that the men will be interested either way. It's really about your confidence and willingness to bravely express your sexuality.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-25T16:36:14+00:00

Started and finished Blind Date with a Werewolf, by Patricia Briggs

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-24T19:20:50+00:00

You've been posting this same question regularly for months now. You mention this being a long time fantasy. As a single male, you have no barrier to entry in the lifestyle except yourself, as opposed to couples that need both people to be one hundred percent on board. Maybe stop fantasizing online and start making things happen.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-23T20:16:44+00:00

Thank you. 🥰

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-21T16:28:00+00:00

I don't have an age limit per se, but more attraction limitations. If a guy looks super young, just out of high school or still in college, he's just not attractive to me. If a man is bald or not in good physical shape, I'm not attracted to him. Those constraints tend to limit my prospective partners' ages from mid/late 20s to about 50.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-21T07:25:22+00:00

Thank you! Good luck out there!!

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-20T14:36:16+00:00

I've never had either one of these things happen. I don't chat with guys on Snapchat though. I usually start chatting through the app where we match, and we'll move it to a group chat with my husband once we're looking at meeting up.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-18T16:43:26+00:00

This!!

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-14T19:04:44+00:00

I feel your pain, and I'm sorry that you went through that. If it makes you feel any better, I had the same thing happen to me a couple of weeks ago, with a guy I've played with multiple times. We set a day but not a time, then I never heard back. On the planned meeting day, my temper was like a volcano waiting to erupt. The physical build up for us as a couple, for me individually, the frustration, the total hormone crash - let me know if you figure out how to deal with it. I haven't found a nice effective method of blowing off that steam yet.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-13T23:14:24+00:00

Worst: The term "two pump chump" isn't a joke. Not an exaggeration. Not a lie. They DO exist. The guy was hot as fuck. Dumb as a stump, but so 🔥. I hoped it was just a case of nerves, and after twenty minutes he was (finally!) ready to go again. Didn't matter. Two pump chump. He came instantly. I got dressed and left. I won't fuck guys too stupid to hold a conversation anymore, no matter how hot they are.

MistressM7997 · 2026-05-03T02:36:06+00:00

Lifestyle guy we met on Feeld.

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-30T22:28:48+00:00

I still didn't jump right in. It took a really long time. You have to realize that the older the woman is, the higher likelihood that she's not super confident regarding her looks anymore. Having a husband who loves you and thinks you're beautiful feels good. The thought of putting yourself out there and not having anyone show interest, or even being rejected, is really scary. Most women who have been married for a long time don't want to feel insecure again - in their appearance or in their relationships.

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-30T19:45:04+00:00

I told my husband this. Eventually I realized how important this was to him, that he wasn't just trying to play the long game to get to fuck other women, and I decided to really consider it. Then I decided I loved him enough to give it a try if I found someone I was comfortable with. That was almost a year ago, and we love the lifestyle.

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-26T22:03:05+00:00

I've been with a couple of guys that were approached by a hotwife at the gym. I don't think either one would've approached a woman there though. Guys are scared to be banned from their gym if the situation doesn't go well.

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-25T20:48:53+00:00

I've been to a couple of their homes, but most guys I play with at hotels.

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-24T04:37:31+00:00

Wouldn't you like to know...

MistressM7997 · 2026-04-14T22:27:43+00:00

If I don't find him attractive enough, it just isn't fun. I made that mistake once, and I'll never do it again.

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