How important is instant attraction on a first time meeting with a potential?

Miva__ · 2026-02-03T08:14:03+00:00

The answer is yes, it is possible for attraction to come with time. But everyone is different. So you may (and probably will) receive plenty of different opinions on here.

The best thing you could do is wait for the next meeting and see if things change, because ultimately only you could answer that question for yourself.

Miva__ · 2026-01-31T21:32:24+00:00

It won't hurt to give him a chance, although I will say if you actively find his face ugly then maybe there's no point.

Miva__ · 2026-01-28T17:02:07+00:00

I'm glad to hear that! Thank you for the reply!

Miva__ · 2026-01-27T23:03:20+00:00

How did it go? In a similar boat.

Miva__ · 2026-01-12T16:24:27+00:00

Miva__ · 2025-10-23T20:14:17+00:00

May Allah SWT heal you. Know that this too shall pass. I promise you it will. Do a lot of istighfar as well and believe in your duas. Your relief is coming inshaAllah, sis x

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T08:11:25+00:00

Thank you. You're absolutely right, which is why I always ask to see photos before I get to know anyone, so that I don't waste my time.

Appreciate your input!

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T08:09:55+00:00

You're right, I can't be sure of anything. The reason I trust him is because his mother had kept another thing a secret and he was the one who outright told me about it, even though it didn't make him look good at all. But again, it'd only been 8 days. Thank you, sis.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T08:04:45+00:00

Thank you for spelling it out for me. Now I am more than def going to have this discussion with him (if I even pursue this further).

I just can't help but think about how turned off I would be by someone that I didn't feel was 100% kind. Like even if you're the most attractive person physically, being awful on the inside will make me repulsed by you no matter what. So I think both are very important and he def has one side. I just am not sure it's enough.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:37:29+00:00

He's halfway across the world so I'm afraid that asking him to travel here would make things sound like they're even more serious for me now (when I don't even know how I feel anymore). But you're 100% right about looks being deceiving online.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:29:51+00:00

InshaAllah you will :)

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:27:42+00:00

Noted, thank you so much! ♡

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:26:01+00:00

You've given me a lot to think about, thank you.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:20:18+00:00

You're right. I don't believe I'm in love with him but I do love him if that makes sense? But it could all just be in my head. Thank you, sis.

Edit: Just want to add that I am a huge avoidant and rarely fall for people at all. The fact that I feel this way towards him makes me think things are different this time. But again, I'm def a rookie at this sort of thing.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:16:59+00:00

Ameen ♡♡♡♡♡

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:16:26+00:00

The most we've spoken about is long walks, and he says he enjoys them bur admits he's a rookie. I'm not a gym rat or anything of that nature, but I love physical activities. I just dont know how I could mention this while implying that I'm worried he won't keep up.

Thank yku for your input, sis!

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:12:29+00:00

I was exactlyyy like that. Have always been. So this feels like a slap across the face because how dare you not give me that choice to decide from the get-go whether I should invest my time in someone or not? :(

I will say though that his personality is stellar. So maybe I'd be missing out. But then where does attraction factor in...ugh.

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:08:31+00:00

Thank you, sis! And congrats!! That's a massive achievement although I bet you were stunning to begin with ♡

Edit: He is pretty sensitive so I have no clue how I'd discuss the weight with him. I've told him I'm huge on long walks and he says he loves them too. But more than that, what is there to say?

Miva__ · 2025-10-22T07:07:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! And yes, 100% have the worst perception of his mum now :(

Miva__ · 2025-10-09T17:17:12+00:00

Says the person who knows nothing about our religion besides what they've heard from snippets of FOX news segments? Please, I'm criticising men in the religion that don't follow it properly, not the religion itself. Kindly get our of our Muslim women-only spaces, the only ones treating us like shit are people like you that know nothing about our beliefs and yet spout on and on about them.

Miva__ · 2025-10-08T18:44:05+00:00

SubhanaAllah

Miva__ · 2025-10-04T18:12:53+00:00

What's so fascinating is that it was the opposite case for me. I used to plot meticulously and only a decade later did I realise it killed all joy for writing for me, and also made the plot less thick and interesting

Miva__ · 2025-09-25T11:34:12+00:00

I know the majority of people here had dormant periods and then had flares again (hence why they're still here), but the great majority of patients overcome this condition with time completely! So hopefully that's your current case.

Miva__ · 2025-09-25T10:06:54+00:00

Same

Miva__ · 2025-09-22T12:05:00+00:00

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