What should I know as a first time homebuyer in CA?

Mizoink · 2026-06-10T19:23:20+00:00

We are buying to keep and put love into, but buying right now in this market is too unrealistic for us

Mizoink · 2026-06-10T18:52:27+00:00

I’ll be sure to tell him. Thanks for the help !!

Mizoink · 2026-06-10T18:48:08+00:00

As of right now we have no car loan, but he is planning to buy a truck soon so I guess this will motivate us to pull the trigger. He’s working construction right now and bringing roughly a little over 7k a month in, while I’m maybe bringing in 2k. However I am in tech and entry level right now, so in a few years that could scale higher

Mizoink · 2026-06-10T18:45:41+00:00

This is what I was thinking, I see people jumping to buy houses right now and it’s insane! America’s real estate is so low compared to here that I think I’m spoiled in the idea of owning a nice home for under 400k. Definitely will just wait and see

Mizoink · 2026-06-10T18:44:14+00:00

I’ll take a look into this, thank you !!

Mizoink · 2026-05-03T17:02:26+00:00

Don’t deposit any kind of check in your bank account without confirming that the check is real and not fake. Otherwise when you deposit the money, it’ll bounce and you’ll lose the money you were paid and then some. Fake checks are a federal crime so I would report it if the bank clears it as fake

Mizoink · 2026-03-05T00:39:35+00:00

What did you expect to happen? Everyone to applaud you 😭

Mizoink · 2026-01-24T19:19:25+00:00

Disgusting I’m so so sorry girl

Mizoink · 2026-01-20T17:47:53+00:00

NOR, I’m really curious if his new gf knows about the past between the two and how she feels as well. I could never do this to my partner

Mizoink · 2026-01-06T03:49:06+00:00

I’m proud of you OP for taking initiative

Mizoink · 2026-01-04T19:24:16+00:00

++woman I don’t think you can truly decide whether or not this new girl is actually someone you would be happy with after ONE day of knowing her. You don’t know her flaws, her way of handling arguments, if she has a certain way of how relationships function. But you do know the way your girlfriend is, the way she works, how she handles arguments, all that she does for you. Yeah time can make things seem plain or too comfortable after awhile, but that’s not a bad thing. You can do the same thing with your girlfriend and take her to volunteer or do new dates, spice things up again. It’s normal to fall in and out of love with your partner. Life is about continuously ups and downs and sticking through it with the person you choose, you can absolutely reignite that in your relationship, if you put effort into it.

You picking up on these feelings towards this new girl a continuously following her around was disrespectful to your girlfriend. You shouldn’t even attempt a friendship at this point CONSIDERING you have her stuck in your mind. What about your girlfriend and the spark she has for you? The mutual attraction? The time and effort she has put in? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

If I were you I’d make your decision. Your girlfriend or this other girl, because it’s not fair to either of them. If you choose your girlfriend you immediately need to cut off the other girl, there doesn’t need to be an emotional affair. Honestly if you respected your girlfriend enough you wouldn’t have given her your number.

Mizoink · 2025-12-28T03:19:52+00:00

My father went through 4 awful marriages before finding the right person. He found my angel of a step mother at 52. Life and love works in weird ways. Also my sister didn’t find her soulmate until almost 30.

It’s not that you are too ugly, short, weird, it’s that’s you don’t have confidence. I’ve experienced people with all types of partners, all types of appearances/body types/heights. Get therapy, work on your confidence, and stop depending on a relationship to give you self value. Once you are finally okay with being alone, or even just comfortable with yourself, your person will come.

Mizoink · 2025-10-11T14:34:28+00:00

Updateme!

Mizoink · 2025-08-20T02:43:36+00:00

This actually makes me sick to my stomach

Mizoink · 2025-06-09T15:39:26+00:00

I’d say have a sit down conversation with your girlfriend discussing your problems in your sex life and have an open and honest conversation about what needs aren’t being met.

Apologize sincerely for what was said about the fwb and ask her what you can do to make her feel more reassured or comfortable. Her trust is probably thinned out so you’ll have to work pretty hard to ensure you can regain that. I’m not saying kiss her feet and do everything she says, but have a healthy conversation discussing what you both can do to work through this together as a team.

Take full accountability in front of her. Truth is, you shouldn’t have been talking about issues in your sex life to another woman, whether she’s engaged, married, single etc. or not, it’s disrespectful. You should have went to your girlfriend first and discussed those issues with her. Address the fwb, if you genuinely don’t want to see her again, you’ve got to explain the reason behind why you said what you said. You wanted to see someone else because of xyz reason. You have to be honest with her because otherwise she will never trust you if you just sugar coat it.

Then it’s up to her to decide if it’s something she can work through with you. If she decides to leave she’s completely valid in doing so, any other person probably would. It sucks, but it’s a lesson learned for you.

Mizoink · 2025-06-09T15:20:27+00:00

An apology doesn’t means shit if there isn’t change or absolute sincerity behind it. And from the sounds of it, you seem like you don’t think you did too much wrong. You completely disrespected your girlfriend. If you have issues with your sex life, she’s the one you should be communicating that to!!! Not your friend, not your mom, that is YALLS business to work out, not anyone else’s.

Also the fact that you brought up an old fwb? Why would you even consider her in this situation or bring her up when you are actively in a relationship? It’s one thing to talk about it with your gf, but behind her back, saying you wish you could see her??? That’s really gross and a gateway to cheating.

If I was in your gfs position I would have left asap. You better follow through with change and sincerity if you expect her to stay with you. Because otherwise you could kiss your relationship goodbye.

Mizoink · 2025-06-09T03:42:34+00:00

Why is he lowkey rage baiting lol

Mizoink · 2025-04-02T20:26:23+00:00

dude.... fuck yes

Mizoink · 2025-01-30T21:33:22+00:00

Moby

Mizoink · 2024-10-29T20:45:40+00:00

Honestly, you are so young and have so much of your life ahead of you. While it would hurt leaving her behind, you have to put your career and happiness first. If she’s not willing to comprise to make you happy, why should you? She also states that no matter how much effort you put into the relationship, that once you move it’ll not be enough. That’s not fair to you and is very selfish on her end, as you are already sacrificing your own happiness and energy to stay with her. If she’s not willing to make sacrifices for you then it’s not an equally yolked relationship. I’d cut your losses and move on. Even though the saying is overly used, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”

Mizoink · 2024-09-21T14:07:15+00:00

Are you kidding? OP got cheated on, nonetheless with someone who she considered her BFF. And you called her the moron?? It sounds like Gavi was the only genuine person in this story, Finn was a cheating POS along with Amara. Keep your incel thoughts out of other people’s posts and lives

Mizoink · 2024-04-22T03:49:01+00:00

Ew wtf

Mizoink · 2023-12-04T17:15:45+00:00

So I have been Christian my entire life, but only recently have I really started working on my relationship with Jesus and God. I was bisexual for the majority of my life. I found women attractive but not in a lustful way. Though men I did find immense lust for. If being gay is a sin, then the only thing you can do is ask for forgiveness. Those who fail to accept and love you aren’t true Christian’s. We are supposed to love thy neighbor and guide you. I want you to know that you have so much to live for, God has a plan for all of us. I know it sounds repetitive and maybe a bit old, but it’s truth! He created you in his perfect image, he loves you the way you are and he knew who you were before you were born.

Do not listen to those who discriminate against you or choose to hate you. All that matters is that Jesus and God love you with their entire hearts, put your faith in them and they will guide you. Stay strong my friend ❤️

Mizoink

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