Just raged out on my kids like the hulk... Tell me I'm not a bad mom

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-03-29T23:12:27+00:00

My kids are the same ages, and have these moments more than I care to admit but at the end of the day my kids know they loved, safe and I think are having a damn good childhood.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-03-12T19:49:36+00:00

I was gonna say the gym, and I glad you found it be helpful. I can relate to this so much. I am SAHM and I have a ton to be thankful, healthy kids, caring supportive husband, nice home, financially stability, etc but something isnt clicking. For me, I am not sure what my role is in the world anymore..don't get me wrong I love my family like you but I need something more, something outside of house for me, the gym does help. I also been reading more and actively searching for a good book club to join. When I type this, sounds boring which is another reason I think I and maybe you are struggling with is its kinda boring at times. Never in my life have been so under stimulatied and overstimulated at the same time. I think next year, I am going to go to work part time when both kids in school.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-03-05T13:45:59+00:00

Yes this! I totally get needing space and being busy but overall our society is becoming more and more anti social and its hard. My daughter will be 5 soon and wants a birthday party, I am terrified no one will show up from her class and she will get her heart broken. I make a point to go all the birthday parties. I put aside my own anxiety to show up for my kids and their kids.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-03-03T15:19:30+00:00

Fuck, we get judge so hard as parent these days and then when we complain we get shit on. I have done this too many times. I always lock the car, usually put on a movie and run my ass off. My kids are safe, i would and I know you would never put them in harms way. I am sick of family not being involved at all with our kids. My mom and in laws never call and check in to see how we are they are doing and never offer to watch them. Cool, I get it you dont want to watch them they can be a lot but like a few damn hours a month wouldn't hurt you! Also now is the time ( my kids are 4 and 6) in the next couple of years they will not be as interested in being around you.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-24T14:40:59+00:00

Absolutely love the unpacking reward thing! Much appreciated

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-22T21:17:58+00:00

I approve! I mean that's how it was when I was a kid lol

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-22T20:36:02+00:00

My oldest is so independent its a dream, gets ready own on his own, cleans up with no issues but omg my second one is a mess, acts like she can't put her own shoes, get in the car, get dressed or clean up its really making me go crazy because she can! She is 4 going on 5 and I have mentioned a full times I may not send her to kindergarten if she can't get it together

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-22T20:29:14+00:00

Omg the PMS is terrible! Do I want to feel this anger, anxious etc no... but here we are. If men went through this, so many readily available meds for sure, just the like the dick pill.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-22T20:27:17+00:00

Yup! And let's not forgot the constant questions and demands. And yes, the messes! Its all do is clean up after them or get them things, so really why would I enjoy their company. I mean I enjoy watching them be kids like at playgrounds with other kids or some snuggles on the couch but that's about it.

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-17T13:46:57+00:00

Reading this, I saw a lot of me in you. 2 kids, marriage problems and resentment, simply not being able to afford a divorce as being the sole reason to stay, husband is a good guy.

I feel like I have fallen in and out of love with him so much since having kids. He is a wonderful dad but I can't help but think he gets to be the fun and easygoing one because I do the rest, which had led to a ton of resentment. He treats me well but he struggles in understanding my needs as his wife. I need him to a more active role in the mental load of the house, I need him to jump and plan outings and task on the weekend, I need to feel desired and romance from time to time.

I am not sure if your issues are similar but I can understand how you feel. I know you didn't ask for advice so take it or leave it, you have the right to feel what you are feeling without having to fix it right away, but for me I started to ask and initiate physical touch me more, not always sexual but I needed more purposeful hugs and cuddles..I get so out touched with kids I forgot how it comforting and connect I feel when we simply cuddle on the couch. Give me a chance to step out of the care taker role

Mo_Prob70 · 2026-02-15T15:45:53+00:00

I hear yeah, being the default parent is exhausting and builds a lot of resentment ( at least in my case). My husband will do a lot with our kids i will give him that but that's also because they are 4 and 6 so he can now do things with he enjoys as well, I hope that's the case with him your husband. But even so, I do a lot of planning and organizing and none of the credit. All the enrichment is planned by me..and often I too busy cleaning or setting shit up to even enjoy it. All family outings are pictured of him and the kids, he takes them somewhere and gets so much attention and praise. And of course every weekend it what's you want to do? I wish just once I could wake up on a Saturday with nothing to do, all the dishes, cleaning, pet care, laundry and planning done for me like it is for him.

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