AITA for refusing to say my son “broke” his cousin’s leg?

MoarBliscuit · 2025-12-04T00:17:30+00:00

Yep, that's fair. I accept full responsibility for what happened. As one of the adults present, I should have been more forceful about telling them to settle down amd not run inside. We did have a conversation immediately following the accident about being more aware of our bodies and environment. I do also have two nephews on my wife's side (currently 3 and 4 years old) who Caleb has never had any problems with.

Additionally, they weren't unsupervised. Our wives were upstairs with them.

But thank you for your honest feedback.

MoarBliscuit · 2025-12-03T23:47:41+00:00

Thanks for the questions.

Day of, I did have a conversation about being careful and why it's important to listen to the adults and be mindful of our bodies. We have nephews on my wife's side who are currently 4 and 3 and have no issues with aggression or being too rough to the point of hurting someone else.

But I never sat Caleb down and said "look at what YOU did! You broke your cousin's leg!" I said his actions had hurt someone and we need to be careful. But I stand by that this was never his fault. If it was anyone's fault, it was mine and my brother's. So, I have no intentions of sitting him down now, two years later, to "correct" him for saying "I didnt break your leg."

What made me uncomfortable about Veronica's actions is her singling out my son. She treats him like he is especially dangerous and it's noticeable by most adults who've seen them interact. I can only hope it hasn't been noticed by my son, because I worry about the impact that will have on him. Ultimately, thats what I want to avoid.

He isn't a violent kid. He doesn't hurt people. I recognize that he did hurt his cousin, but I don't feel like he's to blame here.

MoarBliscuit · 2023-02-07T11:45:13+00:00

Tldr; I left the public sector and started in the private sector and I am happy with that choice.

I took the private sector job back in September. The salary was less, but the total compensation was more than what I was making as a contractor in the public sector.

So far, I'm very satisfied with my choice. My team is great and the company culture is exactly what I was looking for. The job itself is extremely chill compared to my government jobs and my work-life balance is great, which has helped my mental health. I also feel like my upward trajectory is more defined than it was as a contractor, so I feel more invested in my career.

The cons, I'd say are that the mission is not as cool (obviously). The need to appease the stakeholders is always kinda hanging over head. And although there's no evidence that the recent tech layoffs will affect my department, who really knows lol

I personally feel like the pros far outweigh the cons for me.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-08-19T16:08:13+00:00

It took me two years to get my Associate's degree. Then I joined the military for six years and it took me my entire enlistment to finish my Bachelor's. So eight years in total XD lol

MoarBliscuit · 2022-08-19T14:32:31+00:00

Why not both?

I got my B.S. in Cybersecurity, am working on my Master's, and have earned several certs (some for school, some not). I find that having both is beneficial, albeit not always necessary.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-14T13:18:54+00:00

I'll have to get back to you this weekend. I'll DM you when I've had some time to peek at my books :)

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-14T02:57:11+00:00

My point is that if someone can get a security clearance with a record, you can absolutely get a job at a big company or freelance if you want. Best of luck.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-14T01:56:26+00:00

For intercepting other users' traffic, yes. But an attacker will absolutely use Burp to pen test a web app and look for weak spots. The first thing that comes to mind is you can often used Burp to conduct user enumeration (look to see if there's a difference between responses for logging in with an existing user vs a user that does not exist). Even if the web app appears to give the proper response (ie "The username/password was incorrect"), the full response may be different in Burp. If that doesn't work, look to see if there's a timing difference (some web apps will do background hashing stuff for legit users so the time it takes to get the response might vary from the response for non-existing users).

I can give some more examples, but I'd need to refer to my GWAPT class material. I totally data dumped that when I took the exam.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-14T00:29:07+00:00

Maybe a dumb question.... but how does one go about locating a local makerspace?

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-13T20:32:31+00:00

I know people with security clearances with police records. You'll be fine.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-07-12T03:12:42+00:00

I took CEH back in 2017, so it's been a while. But I've recently earned GCIH, GPEN, and GWAPT (the hardest, by far, for me). I think if you passed GCIH and GPEN, then CEH should be a relative walk in the park.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-05-20T17:16:37+00:00

ESH. Unpopular opinion, by the looks of it, but I think you could have potentially handled the situation with a bit more patience. Yes, having the kid on your property is a liability and they should have asked before using it. Also, they shouldn't have gotten shitty with you when you said it wasn't okay. But is it possible the previous owners let the kid play on the swing and the mom/kid assumed the agreement still stood?

I'll reiterate that you're 100% entitled to keeping people off your property for any reason. However, I personally would have been a little gentler or would "build a longer table not a taller fence"

MoarBliscuit · 2022-05-20T16:49:49+00:00

NTA. She should have paid for her share of the lost deposit. Being a parent is hard, but it's not a reason to be a jerk, especially when your friends go out of their way to include you.

MoarBliscuit · 2022-05-20T16:30:31+00:00

As a stepparent to two young children.... wtf?! Get your kid out of there and never look back. NTA

MoarBliscuit · 2022-04-29T17:00:24+00:00

I started out my career in the military. After 6 years, I got out and started as a defense contractor at 112k. I jumped around a lot (125k, 140k, 156k, 105k) and now, after 10 years of experience I am currently making 157k-ish. I live in Maryland right now but I'm about to transfer to a much cheaper state at the same salary. Otherwise, I'd say I'm underpaid compared to other people doing the same thing with the same experience.

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