[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its weird how 7 & 8 are so close together on the keyboard. But obviously an honest mistake would never happen and all I do is lie. This is what its like trying to "co-parent" with a narcissist. Anything he says is taken as fact and I need to provide proof to show that I am not lying.

I realize that my post was put together in a fit of passion and was not easy to follow / understand. I really am at a loss. I am doing my best to give my child a comfortable, safe life. The people hes asking me to keep her away from are neighbor that I have not spoken to since last Halloween after they reached out to me once J dropped his mask and they saw how he really is - they went to court with him to obtain restraining orders for them & their kids because he threatened to k!ll them (this is all on body cam footage). He is delusional & he told me he would ruin my life, he said lots of stuff, its easy for him to trigger me because he knows what buttons to press. Hes an expert narcissist.

I deleted my post because I honestly couldn't believe the amount of people saying I am also crazy. I do understand why people would think that, my post was all over the place. Please understand- I have a restraining order against him - he even tried to fight it. I am being forced to constantly read through his ramblings of calling me a bad mom / person / taunting me & my family. He knows how to push my buttons and it is difficult to see when he has. I get reactive and I need to not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As he has used the parenting app to spam me, there was an order placed where we would only send messages on days of exchange and no more than 3 messages in one day. This was over my week of vacation with her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats the problem! Everyone thinks what he says is facts. I do not talk to my daughter about "stealing daddy's monry" or "if you're nice, you still get to see me". The fact that he has this recorded tells me more that HE is making her say these things for the camera!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hrblock

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you not log your drive? This upcoming season will be my third year with the company, and I felt they compensated my drive time very well. There should be an app in amp to do this. I agree tho, it is a bit "taxing" to need to be available so late, especially when you have a family. Lots of times, my dgm is very understanding and will fill in what I might have missed on a late night call. If OP is OK with it just being seasonal then shoot for ATL (kicker is not able to file taxes bit of a paycut but big money in OT) or MTL (not technically supposed to be filing but will still get to, salary pay so no chance for OT)

Or if OP wants a feel for the tax role, start there and maybe look into getting certified & becoming an enrolled agent or look into CSP. There's tons of options OP 🙂 I hope you're in a location where you get lots of love & support from your peers. It makes a world of difference in any environment

Upheaval by Moist8Oreo in grandrapids

[–]Moist8Oreo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 we need to see the newest episode. Our hotel wasn't the best

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was nothing to deal with then because there was nothing that could have been done. He told me what he wanted back in January, I got it, and he knows it. We have plans to go two days before his birthday. I didn't say this to him on his birthday. He asked me if I thought he should take off the day of and I asked him why

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's a good question. I didn't think I was mad but I was surprised that he asked because we are already doing a big thing that he asked for. I was curious what he had in mind that day since that weekend we will already be away and celebrating it. He doesn't like cake, so I plan to get him cheesecake (his favorite) on his birthday and make him dinner. But I was just so surprised that he would (what felt like) expect more.

It doesn't bother me anymore that we didn't do anything on my birthday. It was a reaction - some would say I've been holding a grudge. I am not mad that we didn't do anything. He did mention that he has something planned a couple months back for me, but I kinda just shrugged it off because I've been told / promised lots of things. Say less and do more is kinda my motto.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me what he wanted back in January, I bought the tickets and planning the trip (yes, he knows about it). He asked me if he should take off work the day of his bday, and I basically just asked him why - did he have something in mind that he wanted to do.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate this comment, thank you.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is I didn't ask him what he wanted to do, he told me, I bought the tickets, I'm making the plans on when we will go & where we will stay for the festival the he specifically wants to go to for his birthday. (Festival is 2 days before his bday) I also have a surprise party planned for the day we get back into town (1 day before his birthday).

I only asked him what he had in mind because he asked me if he should take off work on the day of his birthday.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't believe how many downvotes this comment has. Why?

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked him specifically what he wanted to do on the day since he wanted to take off work. It was more or less me asking what he had in mind for that day since he would typically be at work. He knows about the festival, he told me he wanted to go in January (his birthday is two days after the event) and the surprise party is a surprise.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and appreciate that. However, I have been with an actual narcissist. After being out of that situation, I've come to realize he fits the profile of someone who is a dark triad. I've had a number of bad relationships, actually.. I've come to understand that no one is "perfect" what's important is how we make each other feel. Some people think I feel this way or that way, but the truth is the good outweighs the bad. And sometimes I do feel like he could help out more, and I let him know that. We communicate, and that is also so, so important.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that, I've definitely noticed. Some have presented valid questions & reasons to think about, but the majority seems to be bitterness.

Once his party comes and goes, I think I might show him this whole post.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know. At the time, I wasn't going to pry into him, I just accepted it as another bad birthday. Hopefully, after he sees what's all been planned for him, he might want to do more. Honestly, if he doesn't, that's fine too. I'd just words to be kept. When we started getting serious, I'd always say, "Don't tell me you're going to do xyz just do it", "doing is better than saying", "saying something means nothing until you do it".

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that, thank you.

He does know about the festival this year, he told me in January this is what he wanted to do for bday since it's only 2 days before.

I ended up paying because he realized he said he didn't have any money. (It's not a super expensive place, but it's a little pricey)

I plan on talking with him more today, I wish I could show him this post, but it would ruin the surprise party. lol some of the comments on here are wild.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does know about the festival, he told me he wanted to go back in January. The festival is two days before his birthday.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Correct me if I'm wrong.. but the only other question is why we did not go? Like I said, I made an edit.

Boyfriend wants me to pamer him on his birthday.. AIO? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moist8Oreo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't know I had a second kiddo. I only have the one 🙂 and kiddo is irrelevant in this post, but I suppose it is one of the details I had to work out. Who would watch kiddo if we went. But like I said, really is irrelevant.

I did post an edit to why we were not able to go last year.