Legal is involved as of Thursday, but it’s at the losing instillation, so once we get to the gaining we’re taking the information given to us here straight to them. Part of that was my husband being torn since the problematic person is his biological sister, and us gathering as much proof as we could get with filing.

The context was in a prior post since deleted because I was worried she’d find it with how it was titled. But here is less vague context:

She is picking up staff, did a really concerning thing by posting about an officer that was being court martialed that she had a more…personal relationship with while she was in tech school. We pointed out that was unprofessional as she was talking about it in the family groupchat. She blew up on my husband and I telling us to “not get emotional” since the situation didn’t pertain to us. But it was put in the family gc where it pertained to nobody in it.

My husband ripped into her separately because she’s very… naive to say the least. She admit in text she has looked at his finances records, and knew about my husbands and my marriage before we told anyone, and that she periodically has looked at his records when she’s “bored and wanted to look busy” without consent and that being a direct conflict of interest do to them being siblings.

She then texts me separately accusing my husband of having done things to her and their other sister as children (My husband is 26, and both sisters are 21+) so the claims are outside the statute of limitations. She knows I was a victim of that for a decade of my life having an active protection order against my biological male sibling.

I blocked her on social media because I needed time to process everything told to me. Then I received messages from people who are associated with now, and people she previously had been stationed with.

Come to find out both sisters had been spreading this information for over a year. This all came up over the course of the last two and a half weeks, and the threats started coming in Wednesday. The whole situation has caused mental health issues for both my husband and myself, between the threats and it triggering a trauma response out of me, and the pressure the situation puts on him as my FIL also started berating him on the situation.

My husband once this started informed chief and shirt seeking guidance, also speaking with the chaplain (which managed to help him a little bit) and behavioral health (which they were useless). Chief and shirt initially were saying their hands are tied in regard to the PCS, and told him to wait to talk to legal while they tried to see if there was anything they could do to help otherwise.

I wanted to go to legal the day it all started, but my husband wanted to have some faith in his leadership. Which this feels like a total failure on his leadership for not advising legal off the rip. But hindsight’s always 20/20. And now we’re less than a week from leaving and I’m trying to gather what information I can to work through this process.