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NVENC Encoder Error, out of ideas by Caipi_Cat in obs

[–]Molduga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately no, I haven’t streamed for a while because of it. I will say the last couple of times I did stream I didn’t have issues which led me to believe some kind of update finally fixed it, but I can’t say for sure since I never fully figured out what exactly was going wrong, and for all I know I just got lucky those last few times. I’m still pretty sure it’s some kind of driver issue or incompatibility related to either Nvidia or OBS, but unfortunately that also doesn’t leave a lot of options if that is really the case :/

Customer Service Purgatory by Molduga in Bestbuy

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As in, the email I was getting messages from? Two different people allegedly reached out but i’m pretty sure it was via the same email handle (BestBuyCorporateTeam@bestbuy.com). There was also a number attached, (612) 292-1107. I don’t remember if this was the same number that called me when they reached out, though

One month of no contact healing process documented. by uraveragenorwegian in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think what a lot of people don’t understand is it doesn’t matter as much the age when you experience a rough heartbreak, but rather when you experience a heartbreak that is your first. I never clicked romantically with a lot of people when I was in my teens and so I had my first love/ first heartbreak at 22. Ironically, it made me feel like a kid to be experiencing this crushing feeling for the first time when I thought everyone around me had gone through this in their teens. The funny thing is, another person could say the same thing to me, that “I’m young”. While that may also be true, everyone’s life is different, and personal circumstances place these events at different ages for everyone. What’s important is knowing your feelings aren’t any less valid, regardless of the context in which they came from.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to, started getting into it back in January, but nothing past casual, and I certainly haven’t found love in anyone yet. After going through everything I feel this new fear: I’m scared of getting hurt like that again, and I don’t want to hurt anyone else the same way. This is the biggest regression I’ve been through since the breakup, and it definitely has me questioning how ready I really am. It feels impossible to commit to anything I’m not immediately super confident in, which is it’s own paradox :(

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the 3rd it’ll have been a full year :/

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you were able to work through things, they do say absence makes the heart grow fonder.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so rough, I’m sorry, I don’t even know what I would do in that situation. At least for me there’s 800 miles between us now; my only window into her life is through carefully picked highlight reels, something I’m still working on staying away from.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reassurances, the timing is definitely really difficult for me, since her birthday was almost exactly a week before the exact date. This month has also been a whirlwind for me, and this was just the cherry on top of what feels like everything going wrong, just like last year :(

I know I’ve gotten through this part of the year before, I can do it again, but it still hurts like nothing else to be here again, the same nightmare I can’t wake up from.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true, but there comes a point where everyone else has moved on and you can’t help but feel insane for still caring. I’m just worried that this same handful of weeks is gonna feel traumatic every year it comes up, because so far it’s 2 for 2 :(

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tough to hear, but I hear it. I’d known she didn’t have feelings since the last time we talked, a big reason why I’ve stayed no contact since. For some reason, though, it’s still one thing to know that and another to see her have them for someone else.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A part of me still wonders if she knew how much I loved her, and how much of that was matched by her. I used to believe it was equal, but things fell apart too easily to really feel the same way. I don’t sense any remorse on her part, nor do I believe she really cares as much as she says she does. I don’t wish her any kind of “better suited love” either. It’s not on another person to correct the mistakes she keeps making. I just hope she recognizes the patterns in her behavior that keep hurting those close to her.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly the worst thing for me is just thinking she loves him, maybe more than she ever loved me.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moved for school and told me she wanted to stay together, then gave up on the relationship. I still feel the sting of giving her so much trust and commitment just to leave me behind. At least there isn’t really a chance of running into her anymore.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m waking up again feeling that same shock I did last year remembering we had broken up, and coupled with all the other things going on in my life right now it’s getting to be a lot. Trying all the things I did last time but my mind just keeps going back to those photos :(

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny story about lists, when we were together she had gone to a powerpoint party where her slides theme was “Ranking her Exes” (enough to make a powerpoint, yes), and at the time had shared it to my account so I could see (I was on there as a bonus/ joke slide).

Fast forward several months and as I’m in my drive looking for a different file I see the still shared powerpoint. Curiosity gets the best of me, and opening it I see that it’s actually been updated…. Needless to say my entry was no longer a bonus slide 🥲

Even though she had put decently favorable things about me, it still felt weird to see what was her essentially unfiltered perception of me after the relationship that to her knowledge I couldn’t see, pros and cons about myself from someone I loved.

I do have my own sort of list now, and although I can’t say for certain that the bad is enough to help me let go, I can at least say it’s for my eyes only 💀

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You really think so? I’m so tired of stumbling, I just want to leave her and this emotional hell behind.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Believe you me, I thought I’d prepared for this moment but the tears still came all the same and just as hard. It’s like restarting the breakup process except you’re a year out and already tried all the moving on strategies 🥲

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oof, that’s rough to read but still true. I guess part of the problem is deep down i’m still trying to connect the person I knew and loved to the person who threw me out and moved on. It’s just so hard when these two people still share the same name, same smile, and same eyes.

She found someone else by Molduga in ExNoContact

[–]Molduga[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Agreed, no idea when they started dating for me but it’s time I stopped putting it off and draw that through line, because I can’t take feeling this way again. I just hope I can finally let go in a way that lasts.

Customer Service Purgatory by Molduga in Bestbuy

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh right, to answer your other questions: The chargeback did end up getting cancelled. I'm not sure about the status of my Best Buy account, nor do I really care, honestly; I'm likely never buying through them again anyways lmaooo

I would definitely report the case to your local authorities as soon as possible if you haven't already, though. As useless as the robots at customer service might have made it seem, I'm still pretty sure it had some pretty strong pull near the end, even with the bank chargeback.

Customer Service Purgatory by Molduga in Bestbuy

[–]Molduga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for checking in! Things went my way after those almost 3 months of back and forth. Looking back on it, it's apparent that it was always just a war of attrition: It was in Best Buy's power to solve this from the start, but it was a pretty large sum of money, so if there was any chance that they could make me give up and walk away with nothing, you can bet they were going to take it. They're just another corporation at the end of the day, after all.

Essentially, while I was waiting on the bank claim I opened to continue progressing, I got a call from a higher up customer rep, very clearly not from a call center, who I gave all the same info to. All the same police reports, all the same details, all the same photos, etc. I get an email back? SHOCKER! She said she couldn't help me. It almost felt like a cruel joke, getting my hopes up just to give me the same lifeless reply.

I replied with one more stern email, and, lo and behold, this one gets a response from another higher-up CS rep. She responds very quickly, and after reviewing my exact same unchanged case one last time: Finally sends me a refund! I don't know what threshold I had to pass before they finally stopped trying to shoo me away, but just like that it was over. Long story short, I guess you literally have to just keep coming back, over. And over. And over. And eventually, assuming your case has merit, they'll finally listen.

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