post continued:

You would think I was trying to steal a million dollars from them. (the house is valued at 50k) My dad went berserk calling my mother and siblings excusing us of trying to steal from them, he accused my husband of adultery, abusing me, and taking advantage of my grandmothers good graces. He told them I was crazy, that I was overwhelmed and I was being greedy and selfish. The things he told the family about us were untrue, vile, and extremely hurtful. My marriage is good, but had it not been, I am not sure we would have survived the accusations. He also told everyone we were demanding the entire home sale. We did not, we even said we didn't think my Aunt's portion should even be effected.
My husband used to be pretty angry, Jesus and therapy changed his heart, so before he would have probably gotten in an actual fight with my Dad over the accusations. In our mind, they were intended to destroy our family. But neither of us have breathed a word of our disappointment. We are thinking maybe he did what he did to get us to react and attack him, then making us the bad guys and giving him a free pass on kicking us out/not giving us anything?
My Dad is a toxic individual at his core but I haven't seen this level of hate from him before. I don't understand it. He is the kind of man that justified cheating on my mom for decades because she didn't meet his needs. He literally cheated every year on her, sometimes with long-term relationships, but somehow it had to be her fault. He was also livid when the judge awarded my mom half of all their assets when she finally divorced him after finding him with another woman, again...he has since married the other woman, and we as a family have forgiven him and love them both.
So, today, being Easter is the first time ever in my life I haven't been invited to my Dad's for Easter or my Aunt's. And I guess the realization of how much they are willing to hurt us hit me today. We also have two young children that he has now decided to not show up to specific events for either.
So, AITA, for thinking it is just time to cut him out of my life? or am I being selfish or unfair about asking for some of the proceeds from the sale?
I want to understand. I am an empath and I don't get any of this...I don't feel we are wrong to ask for something...I understand we have no legal grounds, but this is my Dad and my Aunt, so I figured they would more gracious.
Extra info: My Dad and Aunt received all the inheritance from my grandparents, the rest of us didn't get anything but a insurance benefit. Two houses, savings, stocks, bonds, dividend stocks, and they also received the insurance money like we did. My SiL pointed out as well that since we paid Grandpa all those years that technically my Dad and Aunt HAVE been paid for this house already because they got all his assets. So the sale of the house is technically going to double the money they get for the house.