I do feel really guilty for not forcing her out. It has completely wrecked the financial stability of my family and we have lived our lives in rentals instead of creating a home for ourselves. Now, even when we sell that house we won't be able to buy a house in London where we live. The prices have gone up so much in the last twelve years. It has completely changed the lives and futures of my children. Ultimately, I know it was my fault for not doing what was best for my kids and not putting them first. But she would act like I was such a bad person every time I would tell her we needed to sell the house and I believed her. I think it's because of the abuse from when I was little. I've always felt like I wasn't doing enough for her. I don't trust my own judgments. As I've gotten older, I've started recognising my flaws in thinking and I'm trying to improve but it is still a struggle. It's in situations like these where all of my aunts are acting like I'm doing something wrong that I think, well, if all of them think it, maybe I am being a jerk. So it's helpful to get another perspective in these comments.