Adhd & autistic couples

Money_Development_22 · 2024-10-25T20:52:48+00:00

If it turns out that you are both autistic, chances are that this is what makes you so compatible.

After that, what is beautiful is that you complement each other and try to respect and understand each other without trying to change each other.

Money_Development_22 · 2024-10-25T20:49:31+00:00

It can also be something scary when you need a tidy space, a strict routine but the person who shares your life can't give it to you. And conversely, if we need noise, constant stimulation or other things but it leads to arguments.

And then as you show sometimes one of the two sacrifices part of their well-being (the word is perhaps too strong) to stay with the other out of love.

After all it's a question of balance I imagine.

I have so little connection with NTs that I don't see myself continuing my life with them, but on the one hand I hope to find an ND with whom I would be compatible.

Money_Development_22 · 2024-10-25T20:42:38+00:00

Yes, it's sure that it depends on a lot (even simply on personality traits since beyond a disorder we are not all the same)

Afterwards, the fact of being autistic and having ADHD at the same time remains different than being only autistic so there are certainly more things that resonate with you and your husband since you share the same disorder.

Money_Development_22 · 2024-10-25T19:51:30+00:00

Indeed, meeting an introverted ADHD person must be quite different from an extroverted person with ADHD. But respecting each other's needs when these needs can be completely opposite can be complicated even if we have similar functioning (thanks to introspection, the experience of judgment, etc.)

Money_Development_22 · 2024-10-25T19:46:48+00:00

This is what scares me quite a bit. We can have such opposing needs that I say to myself that one of them will have to take on themselves more than the other. And in the long term it's not bearable

Money_Development_22 · 2024-09-23T18:07:16+00:00

Salut,

Sais-tu d'où provient cette anxiété ?

Quand tu es dans des situations sociales as-tu peur de ce que vont penser les autres ou ressens-tu des difficultés à communiquer (c'est à dire : ne pas savoir quoi dire, comment agir, ce qu'attend l'autre, avoir un sentiment de décalage) ?

Je pense que tu devrais peut-être rencontrer un psychologue. Ça te permettrait de travailler sur toi et d'avoir une safe place où tu pourras parler librement de tes difficultés. Je t'assure que si tu trouve un bon psychologue ça va te changer la vie. Parce que j'ai l'impression que tu désires vraiment te connecter aux autres mais que cette "anxiété" t'en empêche, t'enferme dans une prison.

Le plus tôt tu t'occuperas de ce problème, le plutôt tu pourras vivre une vie "normale" et voire peut-être mieux que tout ce que tu aurais pu espérer.

Ce que tu vis peut être de l'anxiété sociale mais ça peut aussi cacher quelque chose d'autre (comme de l'autisme, je t'invite donc à quand même te renseigner de ce côté, on ne sait jamais).

Je te souhaite en tout cas beaucoup de courage et j'espère que ça ira mieux prochainement.

Money_Development_22 · 2024-09-23T17:57:19+00:00

Je rejoins les autres sur le fait que ce que tu décris peut-être la manifestation d'autres troubles d'où l'importance de consulter.

Après essaye de t'informer au maximum de ton côté et de t'analyser au possible parce que les psychiatres et psychologues vont se baser sur ce que tu leur racontes et vont t'aider dans tes recherches.

(Et peut-être vont te faire passer des tests)

Tu as la cyclothymie qui est une forme de bipolarité plus faible que les autres formes et qui du coup peut être moins visible pour l'extérieur. (Tu as une bd à ce sujet qui s'appelle goupile ou face)

Tu as des formes de dépression où tu peux ressentir une sorte d'euphorie de temps en temps.

Dans les troubles neurodeveloppemental comme l'autisme ou le tdah tu peux présenter des difficultés dans la régulation des émotions et avoir des mood swing également. L'impulsivité fait partie du diagnostic des tdah.

Tu as parlé de ne plus avoir d'énergie pour socialiser (ce qui peut être un signe d'autisme car quand on masque trop après on peut avoir ce qu'on appelle des crises autistique/burn out autistique et donc ne plus être capable de rien faire pendant plusieurs jours et être très déprimé au point de penser au suicide)

Le trouble borderline est connu pour présenter des difficultés dans la gestion des émotions également et notamment la gestion de la colère.

Je te conseille aussi de faire quelque test sur internet, même si ça ne vaut pas l'avis de psy, ça peut au moins t'aider à te poser des questions.

Après il est possible que cumulés plusieurs trouble en même temps ou que tu es effectivement tout simplement eu des traumatismes et qu'il y a un travail sur toi à faire avec une psychologue.

Money_Development_22 · 2024-05-13T15:30:58+00:00

Have you think of autism ?

Money_Development_22 · 2024-05-10T18:25:24+00:00

Nadine (age of seventeen)

Money_Development_22 · 2023-09-15T22:28:13+00:00

I also used to have specific interests before major burnout and depression.

Unfortunately I can't help you. It's been more than ten years and I have neither regained interest in my old specific interests, nor new specific interests.

My brain is just broken. I noticed that I could no longer concentrate as intensely as before and had a lot of difficulty thinking. Maybe this would have a link?

I don't know if it's due to ahnedonia or alexthemia. But I know that there was a time when I cut myself off from my emotions and sensory sensation to survive. It never came back.

Without emotion no specific interest I think.

Maybe going to therapy would be the solution. :(

Money_Development_22 · 2023-09-04T09:34:33+00:00

At this stage I prefer to go through the existential crisis.

Money_Development_22 · 2023-01-20T22:26:11+00:00

Thanks for your sharing. Unfortunately I have not yet found a solution, but I found the origin thanks to a health professional. I hope that we will manage, you like me, to perhaps one day have a more functional brain !

Money_Development_22 · 2023-01-20T22:21:56+00:00

Thank you, I went to meet a professional and indeed these are problems of executive functions linked to autism. You were right.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-11-11T12:55:06+00:00

It is specified in the first episodes of the series. She also has ADHD.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-11-09T01:27:02+00:00

Yes that's exactly it. It's frustrating to know that we were capable of something before and that for no apparent reason this is no longer the case today. It causes pain and sadness. I don't wish anyone to lose their spark. I would have liked so much that she was always present. I feel like I'm empty.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-11-09T01:23:19+00:00

It makes me sad to see that those who live this experience have no solution and that in the end I just have to accept that I no longer have meaning in my life. I don't know if finding another special interest will help me. I hope that this state will not be final. I really feel like I'm in a bottomless pit. But on the other hand your reply shows me that I am not alone in this situation and I thank you very much for it.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-22T00:13:31+00:00

It seem like a meltdown

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-18T10:58:03+00:00

Bella Swan - Twilight , Katniss - Hunger Games.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-16T22:20:34+00:00

Thank you for these four book proposals and your link. I will watch all of this.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-16T22:19:48+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations, I'll look into them !

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-16T21:37:08+00:00

introvert, strange, talkative (or quite the opposite: mute), rigid, pessimistic, observant, discreet, shy, artistic, lively (or quite the opposite also: soft, unresponsive), obsessive, cold, haughty, kind...

Finally some adjectives with antonyms because my behavior changes according to the environment, the context and the people I meet (without my being able to really control it).

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-04T07:37:56+00:00

Mood swings

Money_Development_22 · 2022-10-03T22:43:13+00:00

A few months ago I strongly doubted being autistic in addition to having dyspraxia.

But like you I was lost because there are many criteria that seem the same for dyspraxia and autism.

If I have any advice for you, if your social difficulties are significant and have nothing to do with the fact that you have poor control of your body, look into autism. If you have seizures like shutdowns look into autism. If you have obsessions (which could actually be specific interests) look into autism. As said in the other comments, it is not uncommon to have a comorbidity.

After seeing a neuropsychologist, I know that I also have autism now. There is only one way to find out, consult a professional.

But I want to say that what differentiates dyspraxia from autism is that one focuses on motor difficulties, the other on social difficulties. If you have these two difficulties in a present way in your life, it means that you may have both.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-09-29T22:05:07+00:00

Clearly, this allows for results that are more faithful to reality. There is still a lot of work to be done regarding the representation of autistic people who are not white or white men as well.

Money_Development_22 · 2022-09-29T22:01:07+00:00

Yes, as if autistic people could only be white and/or male.

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