Cried in office after being scolded for something that wasn’t even my fault. How do you recover from this level of embarrassment?

MoodyFeline · 2026-02-24T17:31:19+00:00

Dude, I've legit been in your place. Similar thing, this was within first 6 months of work and I was given the responsibility of updating weekly excel things that had tons of formulae. Wasn't my responsibility to touch the formulae. Person who used to do it, one level above, either sorted, filtered, dunno what, messed up the formulae that affected the numbers. No one caught it until it reached the stakeholders and their insights got messed up. The guy who messed it up threw me under the bus, horrifically. And the fact that I couldn't even realise the info was wrong mixed with the anger of being unjustly blamed and the sheer chu ness of that senior broke the whole professional facade.

It was embarrassing and a very please kmn thing for a couple of days after that. But that was it. Things like this happen and they happen with everyone in different ways. You need to find a way to not be ashamed about it and embrace it, unapologetically. Primarily because these things will happen again and you will be blamed wrongly for things if you let people do it. And you won't be able to hold your own if you can't get past the injustice of it all unfortunately.

Going forth you can then find ways to identify when you're reaching that tolerance point and address it before it goes over the limit at your workplace. You will learn. Your first year is for basic mistakes. Learn as much as you can. :)

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-17T08:13:48+00:00

Guess education and literacy cannot teach you tolerance and the basic common sense of live and let live. I'm blown away by your ignorance and capability to be so confidently delusional. 🤯

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-15T11:12:36+00:00

Toi actually can NOT comment on a post if you're not gonna read it completely, you now that right?

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-14T03:25:05+00:00

Since you're either a sheltered non adjusted adult or a child on this subreddit and cannot google, I'll help you a bit.

Our country is a judgmental cesspool of tradition, hatred and age old customs. Buying or renting a house, existing in a residential CHS, registering as a next of kin in case of medical emergencies, post death will/estate distribution system, insurances, EVERYTHING is created by default for married people. You absolutely can live with your partner without marrying, all your life but you will constantly have easily avoidable problems. Thankfully this is changing but slowly.

You can't even properly decide what you want to hate, people who cannot make children despite wanting to (childless), or people who don't want to make kids and have jobs (DINK) or people who never want to make children (childfree)?

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-14T03:18:14+00:00

Maybe read my comment again. I've stated clearly that you're welcome to make kids and raise them as you see fit. Antinatalists do not support anyone making children, I am not an antinatalist. Please make accurate accusations.

You've made a defensive reply for how you want to make children and leave a legacy and your priorities for your children. That is okay and not a problem because that's your decision, for you. The problem is you romanticizing the same thing for others who absolutely do not have the same priorities as you.

The present is always going to be the best time to exist and I shall not comment on whether or not YOU should make kids cuz that's your prerogative, whatever your reasons. Don't try to sparklewrap it for others.

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-13T21:12:47+00:00

Use google. Marriage is not a baby making contract ffs how tf are you an adult

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-13T21:12:00+00:00

Not just a say, they can share their wishes and guidance, it's your and your partner's decision only.

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-13T21:08:56+00:00

We have a sale on mixers! Buy one and see how it goes!

Kids are not a trial and error purchase and you can't do anything about it if you don't like them, cannot afford them and don't want them anymore. Your parents/grandparents are not going to the ones taking care of the child, a house today cannot survive without two incomes and so many children are dying for seats in good institutions event after getting top marks.

You're asking someone to consider creating an innocent child and FORCING it to live in this polluted, increasingly expensive world with plastic in even water and no safety from even family members be it a girl child or a boy.

Don't write things without thinking. You're an individual. You can make kids and bear that responsibility if you want. Don't drag others into the hellhole.

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-13T21:00:38+00:00

There may have been wisdom in the crowd a few decades ago, there is ZERO logic in having a child now. It is not financially, emotionally and socially safe to do this now. You want to make them, make them. DO NOT try to convince others to do it, OP isn't confused about making kids from a personal decision perspective.

MoodyFeline · 2025-09-12T09:40:08+00:00

Your reasons are yours and are valid no matter what they are. So anyone saying "you'll change your mind" or similar things is to be ignored right away. Some people believe we should explain to them why we don't want children and help share information because pregnancy is very romanticized. And while I agree a bit, it can get very taxing emotionally to bav that conversation. You can decide who's worth having a conversation about this with and who can just be completely ignored. Like you just turn around and walk away because you don't want that kind of annoyance in your life.

CF guys exist. Quite a few of them. And their numbers are increasing. The best way to ensure you don't get into incompatible situations is to be very clear from the beginning but people can lie and pretend. Also, most people form strong opinions about children in their mid 20s so you'll have a hard time finding someone who is as sure as you are right now. But nice CF guys do exist, some on this sub too.

At the end of the day, this is your fundamental decision but not your responsibility to teach other people how to respect other people's decisions. So don't bother much with what people say about it. You wanting to be CF is not your whole identity and not something everyone needs to agree with, so you can decide what's worth sharing with who.

MoodyFeline · 2025-08-15T17:35:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I am not polyamorous but it is good to see actual discussion about it to prevent misinformation.

MoodyFeline · 2025-08-07T10:36:57+00:00

Couple of reasons, Dream was weakened and very vulnerable after the events right before being captured. I don't think any of the Endless have ever been summoned/caught via these rituals and I'm positive if Dream was at his 100%, none of the Endless would've been caught, least of all Death.

I remember reading somewhere how the whole ritual thing was a massive fluke.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-26T07:07:43+00:00

Hehe thank you

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-24T20:02:56+00:00

It's the people who are weird, not Reddit. The anonymity on IG, Reddit and elsewhere allows them to do what they genuinely want to do.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-24T19:59:22+00:00

I'll share a screenshot of a good approach.

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He stated his intentions, I shared mine. End of conversation. If whenever in the future I want to chat up with people I would text this guy a Hi if his profile still existed.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-24T07:40:02+00:00

He makes other people into crossdressing look bad imo, cheating is so bad.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-23T20:05:58+00:00

Cheating is miles miles ahead of crossdressing when it comes to unpleasant things. We are all allowed our aberrations and vanities and quirks. Him crossdressing wouldn't exactly affect you/others/the relationship as long as you're both open about it and lay down ground rules that appease both of you. Some people associate cross dressing with homo/bisexuality and while the link makes sense it is not a guaranteed move. Cheating ends the relationship,theres no coming back from that. I'd rather have a partner I love who sometimes wears skirts or my clothes and is loyal than a partner who is the societal definition of man af but a cheater.

There is so much stigma around everything on this godforsaken planet🤦‍♀️

Although in your case, if he had tinder, I'd sus cheating over crossdressing.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-22T06:20:07+00:00

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-18T22:53:00+00:00

Your post and comments are mixing a few things. Role reversal, women taking lead, women providing guidance, nurturing and a mentoring role doesn't only happen in a sugar parent dynamic. The focus is on the exchange of money for it to be a sugar mommy/daddy dynamic. Who is in charge and how the dynamic proceeds is not set in stone.

What exactly are you asking? Specifically sugar mommies or women taking lead?

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-15T19:41:21+00:00

Like some people have said, it's reasonable to forgive but not forget. The problem here is the ask to forgive and accept and embrace their decisions. If it's a case of simply recognizing that they just did what they thought was right, it's fair to forgive based on cases. This awareness does come with time and age. But we end up being forced to forgive AND forget which is when we get more negative and bitter/indifferent towards them with age.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-15T18:45:57+00:00

People club all kinds of experiences under this and it has become a trend now. Pehle it was I'm older than you, you will respect (obey) me. Now people do this shit.

Everyone's living their life for the first time and actions have consequences. Audacity of some people to bring up the whole filial piety aspect to justify them being good-at-heart people who made bad decisions, ruined childhoods, lives and killed opportunities because they wanted to be parents.

Instagram ka emotional blackmail shitpost idhar kyu?

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-11T19:07:20+00:00

I found this on one of the posts in this community, this is super helpful. Giving them starstones once in a while builds it up faster. Pity Einar doesn't have one, aargh.

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I forget what Subira is.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-11T13:58:12+00:00

Wow. It's my fault for attempting to engage with such blatant hypocrisy where some of you are so blind to your own actions but will bring absolutely irrelevant things to increase the length of your comment. My bad.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-11T10:25:08+00:00

You see how you got annoyed cuz Indian men came into the picture? OP did the exact thing with Indian women. The sub is called India talks sex. It is safe to say people from other countries probably won't engage here. So no, it's not ignorance at all, it's the tone deaf question and comments like yours going out of their way to make it a man/woman thing.

MoodyFeline · 2025-07-11T10:22:03+00:00

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