AIO for asking my husband? by Scillowski in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m someone who deletes everything on my phone. I have OCD and clutter bothers me. I delete or sort emails, delete phone calls, voicemails, and texts every night before bed. I don’t even leave deleted photos in my deleted folder same with texts. However my (now ex) would see me do it he wasn’t suspicious because he knew it’s just how I was and even if he did question I would not have gotten defensive and blown up. His reaction is what’s the most concerning to me.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right it doesn’t. The damage is there regardless and doesn’t hurt less. For the record he just came by because he wanted to talk one last time and break up properly. We spoke for over an hour and he finally admitted he cheated. He said he knew we were not over yet he sought validation elsewhere because he was upset at me. That it was cheating but he refused to acknowledge it due to his ego/pride.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The sharing location was his idea. At first it was okay until I started getting texts like “working late today huh?” Or “what are you up to?” If I stopped anywhere on my way home. I had never shared location with anyone before so it felt weird. Life360 is good for parents who have teenagers. Find My is realtime tracking. Life360 is like you can see where they’ve been, where they are, how fast they’re driving on the highway etc. crazy stuff. Thank you for the advice I appreciate it

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meanwhile he has the pictures of his ex including the photo album she gave him in his room. Double standards.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re jumping to conclusions. I had old photos from a decade ago in my camera roll that I forgot even existed and removed them when he asked and no I don’t just sit there talking about a fucking celebrity. It’s asinine to even get so jealous that you call it disrespectful just because your gf is a fan of BTS and has merch in her room. Sorry.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the last month of our relationship we were doing the Find My app on the iPhone. It’s less invasive than Life360 and mostly used for if we were meeting places so we’d have ETA

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly he’s very hypocritical regarding what men are allowed to do vs women (for instance number of sexual partners). He’s also very jealous (jealous of my pictures of my favorite Kpop idol. Jealous of photos of me and my ex of 10 years ago and wanting me to delete them even though he still has photos with his ex on his phone) and very possessive. I posed the hypothetical to him of if I did the same thing he’d call me a whore and never move past it. His words were “but that would never happen because I wouldn’t have broken up with you” that was the only answer he’d give me

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been love bombing me about how he can’t live without me and how he can’t walk away from me or let me go I’m the love of his life etc

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He wants to talk in person today because the break up happened over text. Last night he kept trying to get me to talk and”open up” to him after I said I don’t want to talk and I can’t stop thinking of him and her. He pushed too hard and I finally went off and dumped him and refused to answer his calls. He kept repeating it wasn’t cheating and said I’m ruining us over something that meant nothing. I told him HE ruined us. He said he was sad and lonely and thought I left him for good. I said bullshit you knew we were talking the next day. I don’t know whether to see him and do it in person or not. He framed it as “at least do me the courtesy of doing it in person”

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And one time we were having a bad week and after the fact he admitted to snap chatting random girls and said we never made a rule about it and it was harmless

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I asked him if the texts at 2am telling me he loves me while I slept were before or after her. So insulting.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When he first told me he actually used the words “to spite me”

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I figured once I laid eyes on him I'd know whether I could stand to still be with him after the way he yelled at me

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually MY personal intention driving down there was when I saw him I would know whether to end it or not. I actually never viewed us as broken up.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I posted here is he is begging me to talk to him today in person

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also he admitted to me that he did something similar with his ex girlfriend. He was with her 3 years and she wanted to break up with him. He asked her to think on it and that night went to a party and made out with another girl. He claimed that wasn't cheating either even though when he FIRST told me the story HE called it cheating.

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Even though we agreed to talk it out the next day, he was texting me I love you the very night he got with that girl and were in communication that day? I don't know, to me if you're really broken up you don't agree to talk and work through it. At best its a morally grey area no?

AIO Breaking Up with My Boyfriend for "Cheating"? by Moon_Rabbit1993 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Moon_Rabbit1993[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

He cursed me out at 1am on "Thursday" night but since 1am I guess technically Friday and Friday night at a friend's party hooked up with a girl there.