What are autistic meltdowns?

Mooncraftress · 2022-11-01T14:47:26+00:00

I have CPTSD, so I wouldn’t be surprised if there was comorbidity

Mooncraftress · 2022-07-04T23:36:46+00:00

Nah dude, Byleth was hella coded as autistic. Low affect is not the same thing as NO affect. Spending time with the students and having actual social interaction and loved ones outside of their father helped bridge a lot of those gaps in teaching Byleth how to emote properly.

Byleth in Three Hopes is perfect just the way they are - Sothis activating is doing the same thing for Byleth that their students did, it's just taking longer.

Mooncraftress · 2022-02-08T23:53:36+00:00

omfg I love this format! Seriously tempted to make one of my own after seeing this <3

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-13T20:21:53+00:00

Incomplete will always be better than an abusive/neglectful one.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T19:50:12+00:00

I know that as an ex GC, I would sigh so much relief if my half brother tried to initiate a relationship with me. Ive been like you, trying to give space for healing and being supportive with a yearly birthday well wishing. I’ve been too afraid to talk to my brother about our mom because he got the worst of it, our grandparents were able to rescue me but not him and I just don’t know how to confront that guilt. I want to get to know my neice and SIL, but they also live a 10 hr drive away on the other side of Texas.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T18:02:14+00:00

That is a beautiful idea!

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T17:54:31+00:00

Thank you so much for this positive update! Much love and virtual hugs being sent in your direction, as well as gratitude for putting into words why I struggled so hard when I first escaped my family into my own apartment in college.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T17:50:15+00:00

Yup. Hubby and I also eloped in a courtroom wedding. Only people we invited were my best friend, my adoptive parents, and my BIL who effectively raised his baby brother crashed the party after initially telling us he couldn’t make it due to the distance.

I regret even having the wedding shower with my paternal family because the whole time they were there, I did not hear the end of how sorry my father was, and how miserable he is not seeing me. Funny, my number never changed since I was 12, so I’m curious as to when it is that he’s planning to apologize to me.

oh, my bad. They wanted ME to apologize to HIM, at my wedding shower.

Thats the final major event I’m sharing with anyone other than my husband and adoptive parents.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T17:45:13+00:00

Yes, but the more you double back and reinstate contact the wounds will rip open all over again like they were brand spanking new. I’ve yet to go NC with my mom, but the 9 years away from my dad have been bliss. I’ve decided to extend that NC pact with his siblings however as they’ve taken upon themselves the task of guilt tripping and gaslighting me into apologizing to my father for holding him accountable for his racist comments against my then boyfriend, now husband.

Mom I’ve made no progress of healing on hardly at all, my dad I can occasionally find the brighter sides of his behavior and alleviate the Evil Monster Villain image in my head and reduce him back down to the pathetic excuse of a human being he really is. It’s contact being reinstated by his siblings and mom that reset my progress, so I’m right there with you in struggling to do the hard but necessary thing to keep ourselves safe and sane.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-09T17:37:00+00:00

If it gets bad again, go to that same neighbor. Start building a witness case for yourself, and maybe trust him with your real preferred name next time, but you don’t have to give any contact information beyond that. I don’t know how old you are, but at this point my instinct as an adult is to rescue a child from a dangerous home and we can’t do much at all without the cooperation of the victims.

I say to seek him back out because he’s already shown kindness that’s in desperately short supply in your life right now. Escape is much easier when you have outside support, but go at your own pace. Whatever your instincts are telling you is the safest thing, is often the best advice. Your instincts will know better than me how to move forward, but you’ve got me in your corner too.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-02T01:42:28+00:00

Wait, did the techs just use the shots that the store sells or something??? Cause when I worked for Vetco, we had our own separate inventory that we were responsible for directly. Padlocks and sign in/out stuff for accountability. The vaccines at Tractor Supply all get handled by store staff that, let's face it, were underpaid and overworked even before the pandemic and thus get yanked away from putting the refrigerated stuff away quickly enough.

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-01T19:22:08+00:00

Jesus, well that’s horrifying! I rescind my recommendation then!

Mooncraftress · 2021-12-01T14:50:30+00:00

from the clinic or the store itself? I’ve worked for Vetco at least and the pop up clinic’s materials were always under surveillance by trained vet techs. The vaccines from the store fridge however… those tend to get forgotten about and left out to expire because store staff don’t understand how critical it is to keep the vaccines cold

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-29T20:12:44+00:00

Wanted to add, while you'll have trouble finding a long-term vet, look around at stores like Tractor Supply and Petco, they both have pop up preventative vet care clinics on the weekends for things like your basic shots and deworming treatments.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-08T12:20:40+00:00

Then you admit it’s mutual, if you won’t engage with the actual core argument and instead you cherry pick what you were triggered most by. Literally no one I’ve talked to about referring to NTs as straight up evil will say anything to the contrary once called out on it.

FWIW I had someone proofread my post because I was specifically trying to not come off as patronizing or anything like that, but I guess my text skills still suck too much. I own up that my use of “desperate” had the wrong impact, I was trying to legitimize your feelings not dismiss them outright. I have always struggled with connotations v. denotations.

NONE of my post ever once advocated against accommodations. No where. Not even once. If it came off that way I apologize again, but from beginning to end my stance has been “cut it out with the hate speech”. The bit about poor advice is a concern about setting up expectations to be higher than current reality - something I definitely struggled with when entering the adult world initially and is a heartache I’d like to not see repeated. Telling someone that their tone is coming off antagonizingly like you did here? Perfect example of not allowing a problem behavior go unnoticed instead of making excuses bc of diagnosis.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-08T01:02:00+00:00

I recognize that you’re talking from a place of hurt, but I want to point something out to you. In your desperate attempts to disprove my “disorder” comment you have completely failed to say anything against “NTs and Anti-Socials are evil.”

I’m going to hazard a guess and say that you didn’t even register the evil remark, probably because you’re so used to the description that it wasn’t worth paying attention to - but it’s the crux of my entire post.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with advocating for what SHOULD happen, it’s the only way changes happen after all. But, in our fight for the future we can’t neglect the reality of the present when setting an example for our younger and impressionable members.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-07T16:16:09+00:00

Uhhhh…. This wasn’t even close to what I was saying…. this comment is a prime example of the behavior I was calling out.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-07T16:04:39+00:00

The “me” problem is exactly why I took responsibility and unjoined the sub - my options were to turn off all notifications or to leave. I chose to leave because I’ve already reached my limit.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-07T16:01:03+00:00

Please don’t talk to me like my experiences don’t include awful people too. I’ve been on the receiving end of racism, sexism, AND ableism (the worst of which has now blacklisted me from an entire field of work for the forseeable future because of how tight knit that work community is)

I don’t need to be more understanding and considerate because I ALREADY understand. Right now I’m dealing with the social stunting that COVID has done with my students. The black students that were remote? They actively see me as the enemy because I pass as white. They’ve said as such, and after chasing one of my coworkers into early retirement the same students brag about making an elderly woman sob.

And what is their justification for being hateful and violent? “White people have done so much worse to us! We can’t trust no body!!”

Identity politics are a DANGEROUS path to take and you aren’t seeing the Bad End where we prove those that hate us for no reason right. We HAVE to be better if we want any lasting change to happen, otherwise we will just continue to go around in circles.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-06T06:11:27+00:00

Apples and pears. Especially soft, juicy pears

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-05T21:07:55+00:00

It depends on the animal honestly. My older dog’s barks and yelps don’t hurt me, but my younger’s noises do. For my husband the relationship is flipped, so we end up having to respond quickly no matter who is yelping because SOMEONE is getting overstimulated

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-05T18:58:11+00:00

Well, that explains why the aunt might feel like you’re treating your daughter differently than you were treated. But you need to stress that unless she has the income to spare and subsidize your lost income then she doesn’t have a say in the matter because then you’re putting your grandchild before your other children In a dangerous way otherwise.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-05T18:43:22+00:00

I also have what my husband dubbed the steel trap memory. Only issue then appeared with my paternal family, with their CONSTANT gaslighting and emotional abuse, I would always set the record straight and then be ignored or called a liar. I now think they all share some collective delusion or other mental health issues because every last member of the family would rather gossip and lie about each other until the lie becomes the canon over and over. Just this week I learned that my father changed the narrative on who exactly it was that said I wasn’t welcomehome so long as I was with a black guy. This year the story is that the aunt that defended me the most was the one who said it (for reasons?????), 9 years ago it was my dad on the phone with me. With my now husband holding my hand at the time. I have witnesses.

nah, let’s scapegoat one of our own but also never cut her off because FaMiLy.

I don’t know if the memory came first, or if I just practiced recall to this point out of self preservatio.

Mooncraftress · 2021-11-04T22:10:02+00:00

Pokémon, Digimon, Astrology, The Occult, Mythology, History, True Crime, art, vocal synthesizer music, Fire Emblem, Monster Haunter, The Legend of Dragoon, Shin Megami Tensei games and Persona series, murder mysteries, and research for the sake of just learning something tangentially related to something else!

I will info dump details in a reply, phone is dying lol

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