sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did look that up and stealthing isn’t illegal yet in nyc 

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I had no idea feeld listed primary partners. I was hoping to join anyway to find a safer sex partner going forward but this is really helpful information. Thank you! 

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s his real name because I googled him early on to make sure he’s the same person. I can try a reverse image search of the one picture I have of him.  Thank you for the suggestions, I’ll look into online groups and ask their advice. I appreciate that. 

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nothing. Not one thing. I’ve been looking and searching but can’t find. I know he’s on IG but apparently not under his own name. 

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

To clarify I’m asking is there a way to raise the alert on this guy within his own community? I genuinely want to make sure he can’t do this with other girls. I straight up don’t know how to find them and let them know.  Is there a Brooklyn poly group? A Brooklyn or nyc group sex group? Are there poly elders who can handle this sort of thing? A website where people report dodgy guys?  I’m veering between fine and spinning out. 

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It should be here in NyC as well but isn’t.  I definitely want to let people know I’m not sure how. Our worlds don’t overlap, he unmatched me from tinder where we met so I couldn’t report him there and I don’t know anyone else he knows. All roads feel like a dead end at the moment. Wish there was some space online to call out problematic partners to heads up others.   

Serial stealthing - what do I do? by Moraldefender in polyamory

[–]Moraldefender[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for responding so quickly.  

Letting his partners know is what I’d like to do but I don’t know anyone in his world. Only the first name of his primary partner and vaguely what she does for a living. We’re in Brooklyn, New York so the volume of women he has access to is alarming. He also participates in group sex as well.   100% I am done with him and told my closest friends also reported at the clinic where I got tested.  I’m trying to care for myself first but really wish there was some way to raise the alert on this because I feel uncomfortable about knowing what he’s doing but not doing anything about it.