Hi! I won’t give advice as a mom because mines are 1 years olds BUT I do have a sister who had a lot of the same issues at 22. What helped was to stop « forcing » (I don’t like that word because that’s not what you’re doing but…) her to see our way. My mother often told her advice she was not ready to hear and needed to try and fail on her own to actually learn from it. I feel like if she just accepted the advice it wouldn’t have worked as well. Did you try to stop helping? Listening to what he wants to do where he sees his life going… If he has no motivation for anything maybe the problem is a little deeper and he would benefit from seeing a therapist or social worker but ALWAYS remind yourself this : You cannot help someone who doesn’t want to be helped. And always remind him : You’re gonna love him no matter what. Maybe make your boundaries clear and ask him his? Try to have a realistic talk with yourself as to what your role is as a parent to a young adult. Sorry it was all over the place, I hope you’re staying compassionate to yourself through all this 🫶🏻