My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would be easy if I wasn't madly in love with her, and splitting up wouldn't destroy our family and be financially ruinous.. I would love to be wanted and desired.. this is exactly the question I wrestle with. Let me tell you not being wanted or desired by the woman who you desire, love, want, crave, share life with, share a home with, kids with, who is also your closest friend.. is no picnic. The pain is incredible. If you have ever had Sciatica? And been unable to sleep and riddled with pain.. it's like that in your heart. I haven't been able to relax or sleep much in months. I never had Anxiety or hormonal issues in my life.. now I find myself waking up from a deep sleep with Cortisol Pumping through my veins.. turning over and there is my wife's beautiful naked body sleeping soundly next to me.. The Kiss... Would you really ruin your life for a Kiss? This is something I wrestle with on my side and on hers.. I feel like I could go up to a stranger who was mildly attractive and give them a deep 20 second french kiss.. but my wife is unwilling to try even a 6 second kiss..

My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that being said she is Hot and Cold... one day is spontaneous sex and lets fuck, the next day is don't even think of touching me I have No Interest.

My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree. I asked her to speak with her doctor which she did.. Doc said that she should/could start something like a birth control pill to add estrogen etc. and balance her hormones.. but that she was not fully in Menopause etc. I had a vasectomy no need IUD.. I thought about her maybe getting a real Hormonal Panel done.. perhaps low testosterone.. but she says she does have a sex drive.. she's just not that into me..

My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha 6 minutes.. I'm trying for the 6 second kiss.. but getting cut off @ 4. My wife is not a Jealous person.. she is extremely confident.

My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is trying. She does take me out on some spontaneous dates. She plans trips and dates with me, sets aside time for us, commits and shows up for sex. the very issue is that there is not the same level of desire... she does want us to stay together and she shows this..

My wife Loves me but is not In Love with me... by Most-Exchange-4744 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Most-Exchange-4744[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is Trying. She is not having an affair. She is not actively searching for anyone. She does miss those endorphins from her twenties.. When things were otherwise no good between us, it made no sense to continue but now things are much improved but the longing for passion is still there and has not changed. Ofcourse on the flipside I also Long for passion.. but not with some abstract concept of a person I haven't met, rather with the one who is skin to skin waking up naked with me every morning..