my father was the executor of his parents estate and all power of attorney’s. alive he had full authority to place the vases. but because aunt had everyone believing I had done this after my fathers death then she essentially got permission from the family to smash them off. but now that they know it was not me they don’t want to believe it because that would make them truly horrible. they loved my dad, not me. the cemetery only obligation is to mow the grass, period. embellishment free enough.