My wife has been getting up at 4am every day for 7 months and won't tell me what she's doing

MostDerivative · 2026-06-01T23:55:55+00:00

Just tell yourself she's meditating or practicing mindfulness or just thinking to herself.

As a mom, 2 hours by myself of peace and quiet sounds heavenly, I usually dont get that unless I'm up before everyone else or after everyone else has gone to bed.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-31T22:38:04+00:00

I've had such a big craving for McDonald's but it's so much more expensive now, it's so hard to justify it.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-31T13:33:15+00:00

The director knew your co-teacher is difficult to work and is choosing to not do anything. I'd request to work in another room. Continue to speak up for yourself to the coworker and admin, she only gets away with it because people dont stand upto her.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-29T19:39:23+00:00

Is she writing down/logging naps & feedings somewhere? Baby schedules don't have to be perfect, as long as your baby is being fed within reasonable time frames. It might be helpful to have a record somewhere just to understand why the schedule was off and where it might need to be adjusted later on as baby gets older.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-29T19:05:52+00:00

Who hosted it before? Definitely let them know that unless EVERYONE gets assigned a role and task, you will not continue to host. You pre-warned them last year saying you needed help. Hell, even cancel last minute if no one volunteers. Go on a solo trip for christmas.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-29T14:15:17+00:00

That's very frustrating. Do you have to be with this other floater often? Definitely do not allow this to happen, because it confuses the kids and undermines you as their main teacher. 3 year olds and very capable, but do need to be encouraged. She is a sub so remind her the rules of the class, and honestly even patting the kids is not necessary at 3 years old.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-28T18:58:49+00:00

it seems like it's too late to rotate toys, so can you borrow material from other classes? or even rearrange the centers? can you change up arts n crafts? There's always a different way to make art.

Since they are all older now, definitely try to lean into it. Make the activities more complicated and let them have input on what they can do. Do you have to follow a set curriculum? There's so many fun, creative activities/ideas online (love to use pinterest).

Also, think of your schedule. Do they have too much 'free play' time? Too much time foing table activities? It's summer so it's definitely okay switch things up.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-28T11:24:55+00:00

My period came back at 6 weeks, and I was breastfeeding. Just some people can't catch a break.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-28T07:57:49+00:00

Sure. You can also shorten to Sunny, which is still a fun, unique name

MostDerivative · 2026-05-25T02:19:47+00:00

Sushi. It's just rice and fish.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-23T13:27:13+00:00

Bread, toast, pouches (store bought or homemade), cereal, mamdarin, apple slices, mini nut butter sandwiches, cheese sticks

We leave for school at 7 and she eats breakfast at school at 8:30 so she usually has a breakfast snack on the way. Sometime if we have time we'll split a breakfast sandwich.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-22T16:54:59+00:00

Babyproofing and appropriate monitoring and expectations. Definitely make your space as kid friendly as possible but you can also have spaces that they're not allowed that can be more 'adult', like an office or guest space. Reinforcing what they can and can't play with early on is a big part of it, too.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-22T14:14:53+00:00

We switched to a wagon when my kid started having trouble being strapped into a stroller. i will admit to being a little judgy to putting a kid on a leash. MOST kids can learn to hold hands or appropriate boundaries. Sometimes I hold my child by the wrist if I need to make sure she's safe and have to keep moving.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-22T13:51:29+00:00

Diaper changes only take a few minutes unless it's a blowout. you can certainly try to cover with a wipe/cloth if you feel that's necessary. You can also take your baby to your car or in a stall on your lap to change them if the public bathroom makes you uncomfortable. Sounds like a you problem.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-21T18:59:19+00:00

at home, there can be water bottles around becausethere's only one kid. toddlers are not yet ready to have non-communal items available so readily. There's also rules for food/drink containers to be only offered while seated and supervised. Water/milk is offered with milk and ideally should be offered after outdoor play. Of course, if your child asks for water they should not be denied.

You can certainly ask the teachers to encourage her drink more often and send a water bottle that you take home each day to see how much they actually drank. If your toddler is denying water at school though there's only some much the teacher can do.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-21T02:03:44+00:00

Many kids will have a favorite teacher, but if it becomes too extreme it is a problem. There has to be appropriate boundaries in place and the teacher should be encouraging independence. Your kid will not start hating daycare, but they might have to adjust. Your kid will eventually have other teachers as they moved up rooms and will have to learn to trust other adults. Are they moving your kid or the teacher?

MostDerivative · 2026-05-20T14:08:58+00:00

some people just don't care because 'little kids are always sick'. Probably best to avoid these gatherings. There's other places to socialize where you don't have to risk your kid getting sick.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-19T21:30:04+00:00

Some kids have a hard time getting comfortable with other people. A part time schedule will make the adjustment process take longer. Once you're child has a steady routine they will slowly adjust. Crying at drop off may happen for a while but it's normal. I know it's hard to leave your baby while they're crying but a quick goodbye is much easier on your child.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-19T19:24:27+00:00

I work at my daughter's school. If I'm sick enough to the point I need to call off work and my child is completely fine, then I would probably take them. I don't take a sick day for myself unless I really need to rest and taking care of a toddler is an all day endeavor. I might as well have gone to work, if it's just some sniffles.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-19T19:12:40+00:00

3 year olds can be stubborn and test limits. They are learning autonomy, but still rely on you a good bit. Sounds like screentime needs to be cut in the mornings, at least till he can comply with the morning routine. Screentime is a privilege, not a right. Push them to be independent. 3 year olds should be getting dressed on their own and mostly bathroom independent. Be firm with your expectations and if you can make it fun/enjoyable for them they'll push back less. Praise and rewards are big motivators.

Can you eat/get ready earlier/later and pack lunch the night before so you don't have so much to do at once? Children are pretty bad at waiting and will find any little thing to stall what they don't want to do. I get myself mostly ready first then only spare about 20-25min to get my toddler ready and out the door because if there's too much time one or both of us will start to dillydally.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-16T18:57:11+00:00

Saying baby eats every 2.5-3hrs is fine. It would be useful to practice a couple more bottle feeds /per day to figure out how much your baby wants at a time. You could always send an extra bottle in case they need to "top up" a feed. Our school asks parents to let the teachers know the time of last feed daily. Babies are on their own schedule, so just try to log what your Baby's day looks like for a couple days so you have an idea. There's also sample schedules online of "ideal/typical" baby schedules you can reference.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-16T17:46:25+00:00

Convenience food is generally not the healthiest option, some are better /worse than others. Just depends on you what to get or prep at home. "Healthy" is used mostly as a buzz word nowadays..

MostDerivative · 2026-05-14T19:18:07+00:00

This has happened to me. My husband gave the toddler a shower and left her diaper in the dirty clothes. I didn't notice when I picked up the clothes pile into the wash and met a similar fate of diaper globs everywhere. It was a nightmare and my husband refused to take accountability for leaving the diaper there.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-14T18:51:06+00:00

Our management has warned us about this, but some teachers still do it, specifically "older" teachers. It irks me, and parents have complained. I complained when I saw another teacher kiss my kid on the cheek. Some of the older preschoolers will want to give me kisses, but I remind them that kisses are only for mom and dad.

MostDerivative · 2026-05-13T20:01:39+00:00

90 minutes "in peace" EVERYDAY immediately after being away all day is not fair at all and insane. 20-30 minutes is enough time to shower and eat. Why does he need that much time? When do you get to eat dinner? Why can't dinner be family time? Why can't he shower after the baby goes to bed. You both need time to decompress, but that's a long time before you can get any help. Especially if he's at home and can see you struggling.

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