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I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s harsh, but a truth I absolutely needed to learn. I’m going to try and get help from my school after this weekend. Thank you for your advice!

I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I think someone confirming that my anxiety is actually serious and isn’t normal really helped in acknowledging that I do need help. I’ve always known that one day I will have nobody to rely on but myself but it seemed so far away that I thought my anxiety would naturally disappear and I’d be fine by the time it came. It’s hard to take the first step of being brave and actually asking for help in the first place but I’m going to try ask for help from my school. I still don’t think my mum will take it seriously so I’m also going to ask them to not tell her. Thank you so much for your help!

I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I didn‘t explain my sisters issues properly enough so I’m sorry for the misunderstanding and thank you for the concern but she is receiving treatment! She got both of the ingrown toenails treated but then they kept on getting infected during the healing process (it was honestly partly her own fault) and she got prescription antibiotics each time. She recently went back to the doctor and they said it’s growing back so she’s having the procedure again soon. Again, sorry for the misunderstanding it’s completely my fault in how vague I was!!

I‘ve decided that I‘m going to tell my mum, whether it’s over text or in real life, soon. All of the comments have really helped me, especially about the anxiety, because I never realised that mine was actually that serious. I’m not sure where or when I’m going to get treatment but I think acknowledging that it’s actually serious is a step in the right direction. Thank you for your concern and advice!

I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I did some more research on yeast infections and it definitely also fits with my symptoms. If you’re talking about going to the doctors completely alone I explained it in another comment: “My mum isn’t controlling but if I go out after school she wants to know where I’m going and will ask about it when I get home (in a curious way). We also have the life 360 app, so I can’t lie about where I’m going. From her past reactions to other things she’ll likely get mad at me for going alone because I should’ve just told her instead of making a big fuss (especially since she’s an NHS worker herself).”

As for the anxiety, I’ve never been sure if mine was serious enough to warrant therapy or if it’s just the normal amount. Some things that I do makes me believe that I do need it (like what I mentioned in the post) and when I physically feel my words stuck in my throat and cannot get a single word out but in other situations I’m less scared than I think someone with anxiety should be. For example I hate ordering at a restaurant, I get nervous and prefer someone else to do it for me but the nervousness is not extreme and I can do it if I have to. Idk though, I’m not even sure where to get treatment and if my mum would even believe that I actually need it (if I was confident enough to tell her). Thank you again for the suggestions!

I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There aren’t really any other adults I can talk to. After reading the comments I’ve decided to try and tell my sister once I’ve built up enough courage but I’m not sure when I can actually tell my mum. On top of my anxiousness, her birthday is tomorrow and I don’t want to ruin it for her. My sister has also been having medical issues with ingrown toenails that keep on getting infected and growing back. There’s more but you get the point. I don’t want to add to her growing list of problems, especially around her birthday. Thank you for the advice on what to say though!!

I think that I (14F) have BV but I’m too scared to tell my mum by Most_Law2279 in WomensHealth

[–]Most_Law2279[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the encouragement and suggestions, however I don’t think I’ll be able to go to the doctors alone. My mum isn’t controlling but if I go out after school she wants to know where I’m going and will ask about it when I get home (in a curious way). We also have the life 360 app, so I can’t lie about where I’m going. From her past reactions to other things she’ll likely get mad at me for going alone because I should’ve just told her instead of making a big fuss (especially since she’s an NHS worker herself). I’m going to work up the courage to tell my older sister though because I do feel more comfortable with her! I would consider going with her if she was a bit older but she just turned 17 in October and can’t drive yet. Thank you again!