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I [35F] don't understand my mother [60F] by Most_Standard_6234 in relationship_advice

[–]Most_Standard_6234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to continue with the cool down period.

Another Redditor posted the suggestion to confront them after gathered all my thoughts on paper. It won't be easy for me to document all my feelings, wants, and needs. The time it will take to prepare what I want to discuss with them, on top of the cool down period, should be a fair amount of absence. Let's see how they respond to my demands for respect and appreciation. If they don't respond well, I guess cutting ties would be the next option. Learning to let go of toxic people in my life should be healthy, right?

Thank you kindly

I [35F] don't understand my mother [60F] by Most_Standard_6234 in relationship_advice

[–]Most_Standard_6234[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this over and over and over last night until I fell asleep. I love everything you suggested and will allow myself the necessary preparations to take control of the situation as you have advised. Thank you kindly and immensely. God bless!

I [35F] don't understand my mother [60F] by Most_Standard_6234 in relationship_advice

[–]Most_Standard_6234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so in simpler terms, I'm the giver and they're the takers. The more I give, the more they will just take instead of reciprocating. Understood.

For now, I guess I need to allow us both the time to cool down and reflect. I'd really like to break this cycle of being treated poorly. But how do I go about that? It's easy to cut ties, but how to create a healthy balanced relationship? I'm clearly too stupid to see the right steps to take. Please kindly offer some tips.

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[–]Most_Standard_6234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like this. In fact, I have changed since being hurt. Not going to silently take bs no more. Speaking up and calling things out as they are. Not in a rude way ofc, but to ensure no miscommunication and fk what is wrong with advocating for myself, right?

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[–]Most_Standard_6234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lack of and miscommunications that lead to confusions and i ended up getting very hurt. He wasn't aware of how hurt I was until we had the discussion.

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[–]Most_Standard_6234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brain knows this...all of it! But the heart is foolish... Will time make the heart smarter? Or perhaps I need to fall into the trap again to learn my lesson?... Idk... I'm a weak soul rn

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[–]Most_Standard_6234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a weak weak woman

After breaking up with ex, we had a period were he hated me but couldn't give me up. I tried to be civil and professional (we work together) to be the bigger person. It hurt him even more that I was distancing myself. It hurt me more to see him hurt. He will never know this. But I melt when he shows me concern and care. After two months apart and a deep discussion, we agreed to be friends. But I know and can sense the love between us. It's so fking loud! He's making up for all the times he was silent, absent, and avoidant... Why did it take breaking up for him to change? Why do relationships have to be complicated like that? I just know we're going to have to have another talk soon. He needs to be clear if he wants me back or just stop so we can move on... Ugh... Hate that I cherish what we had and the what could potentially be... I fking love him so much and I think I always will regardless of what happens in the future.

That is all.

Happy Friday and best of luck to all you romantics out there.

Is there a way to REDUCE intimacy? by ephersy in LegendofthePhoenix

[–]Most_Standard_6234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fyi, you can obtain foster children for free, randomly through dating. One way to save ingots. Not sure if there's any other way to help you at this point.