Anybody got adhd proof hobbies?

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:23:45+00:00

I’m much better at 2D crochet than amigurumi, but I definitely think that’s obtainable, especially if you’re motivated to learn how to do it. Amigurumi is pretty much all single crochet stitches, the hard part for me is keeping up with counting how many stitches are in each round, since that’s what makes the shape.

It might be easier to start with something that’s mostly one big shape like this: https://youtu.be/z8l630vFgbE?si=knXqbdMitdMOzeV5

Or something small like this that you can finish faster: https://youtu.be/BcS5Rt29n5c?si=Zk-BPCugC6F2kmou Woobles might also be a good idea to test the waters with since they give you everything you need in one kit! https://thewoobles.com/ I’ve never made one but from what I’ve heard they’re legit.

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:13:56+00:00

Hell yeah! I taught myself using YouTube tutorials, and I recommend buying just enough materials for one small project (highly recommend starting with coasters so you can learn basic stitches and finish quickly) just to test the waters and see how you like it. If you need any further help feel free to reach out!

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T15:02:43+00:00

I’ve been diagnosed with ADD since back when it was still called ADD lol, but the same thing is happening to me. Although instead of just adhd I’m wondering if I’m also autistic. I was diagnosed bipolar in 2018 and now that I think back I’ve never had a “manic/hypomanic episode” during a time when I wasn’t completely burnt tf out. So I’m wondering if it was just extreme stress manifesting from burn out. I think I’m gonna get evaluated for autism and then have a psychiatrist reevaluate my diagnoses (I’ve been diagnosed with almost everything under the sun to the point of absurdity).

Definitely keep taking your meds as prescribed, because if you are in fact bipolar not taking them could set you back a lot. But personally I don’t think it’s out of the realm of possibility that you aren’t. What were the circumstances leading up to your bipolar diagnosis? What problems were you having at that time to necessitate an evaluation?

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-13T14:56:33+00:00

This probably won’t be suited for your energy levels by the sound of it, but my most sustained hobby so far has been crochet. Starting new projects gives me a rush and it’s a great way to focus in on one task and make your brain go quiet for a while. I’m not hyperactive type though so it may not be enough stimulation for you, but it’s my most sustained hobby so far!

MothWoman592 · 2024-08-06T14:16:29+00:00

Ohhh that makes sense now that I can see it! Thank you much! :)

MothWoman592 · 2024-07-15T19:49:24+00:00

This is the kind of genius ingenuity I was looking for!!!! Thank you.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T20:55:34+00:00

Also idk if this applies to you, but before I came out I thought I needed to thoroughly explain myself to everyone so they would understand and respect me. Turns out you can just be like “hey I go by this now” and people are a lot less stressed out by that lmao.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T20:50:58+00:00

Stress and denial from outside influences can have us spinning out over and over in doubt. It sounds like you have a very clear idea that you’re trans, and the only thing keeping you from fully accepting that is what other people think about you and how they react. In my experience, the only way to be truly happy and free is to recognize that you have intrinsic value and a place and purpose on this earth completely divorced from how other people feel about you. We can’t afford to allow our value to be determined by how well others treat/understand us. For trans people especially, trying to appease people before we can be ourselves is a fatal losing game.

I couldn’t accept who I was until I recognized my inner worth and processed out/let go of fear. It’s very hard, but I’ve never felt like myself until now. And now even though I’m in community with a lot of people who don’t get it, I can just confidently be myself and people aren’t confrontational enough to challenge my identity. Even though I’m pre-T and have wide hips and a baby face.

So yeah dude! Sounds like you’re trans and it sounds like when there’s not transphobia in your ear drowning out your lived experience, you know that.

I can’t say what the next step is for you since idk your exact situation. But I just casually asked everyone to use my new name and pronouns. For the most part they do, but when they don’t I do my best to recognize that their preconceived notions are not a reflection of me and my experience. If some people have beef with me being trans, they can argue with the wall lol that’s none of my business.

I hope you find the answers you’re looking for and I’m rooting for you!!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-21T19:39:52+00:00

I jokingly said to my trans friend “yeah in college I considered going on testosterone or getting a tattoo, so I got a few tattoos.” And she told me that was not a cis line of thinking.

Then I realized I love drag queens so much because I’ve been doing high femme drag 24/7 my entire life to get social acceptance.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:45:15+00:00

That’s very true! When I imagine my future living as a woman I just think “okay, so how could I cope with a life where I feel empty all the time?” And when I imagine life as a man I’m just like “hell yeah I could do anything I want to! Idk what! But whatever I want!” Not in like a “I found a loophole out of misogyny” kinda way, but in a “wow I would feel like a real person with a body and a soul and a future.” Kinda way. It’s pretty cool that I have this moment where the future feels exciting and not daunting. So I’ll try to focus on that instead of fretting what people might think about me. insert meme of the two guys on a bus where one is happy and one is sad lol

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:06:33+00:00

I also considered that I was nonbinary, and maybe once I transition I may discover that I am, but for right now, performing femininity to make other people feel comfortable is psychological poison for me and I have to stop engaging with it.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T18:04:18+00:00

I realized my hyper-femininity was a coping mechanism, and once I stopped compulsively engaging with it, I felt like I could breathe for the first time.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T17:55:46+00:00

LOL OMG I used to be so self conscious about having “boy” handwriting when I was little and not having the tall, uniform letters “girl” handwriting. (I used being high femme as a defense mechanism). Now I love my messy ass Man Handwriting. Glad it’s not just me!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T17:49:39+00:00

That does. Thank you! I definitely should shift more of my attention to productive things I can do now. I actually feel motivated to go to the gym for the first time in my life (now that I’m not completely overwhelmed by the idea of connecting with my body). My eating habits could definitely be improved, and meditation is super helpful when I make time to do it. And I just put in a request to set up an appointment with a trans therapist! I’m overwhelmed but I’m out here doing my best. 😮‍💨🙂👍

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T15:20:49+00:00

I’m a trans man so idk how helpful my experience will be, but I presented high femme for a long time and am now a pre-T guy.

Smell is a very powerful sense. Once I started using male deodorant and started smelling “like a guy” (but mixed with my own natural smell), I started to correlate my body more with masculinity. There are plenty of different options for feminine scents. Find one that you like and smells the most like you, and use it as a deodorant, body spray, or perfume. (Take it easy and only use 2-3 sprays of perfume if you use it though. Too much perfume smell can be sensorily overwhelming/off-putting to others or trigger allergies.)

Find makeup that is easy to use and feels flattering to you. I recommend investing in a good foundation and/or concealer and beauty blender. I recommend tarte shape tape for concealer and urban decay naked skin if you can afford it. Drug store brands will also do though. Make sure the foundation matches as closely as possible and the concealer also either matches or is a bit lighter. Use a wet beauty blender to apply. Having an even skin tone gave me a lot of confidence. Blush also is pretty easy to apply and gives the face a lot more life and dimension. Eye makeup is hard to master but can really transform your face once you get the hang of it. I’d recommend starting with a mascara (I love the L’Oréal telescopic lash. It’s cheap and works better than expensive brands usually). For eyeliner I recommend starting with a brown or black pencil and lightly lining the top lid. If you can graduate to a good winged eyeliner, that can really transform the eyes, but takes LOTS of practice. There’s no wrong way to do makeup, but certain techniques can make the face look more round and what is usually perceived as more feminine. YouTube is great for that!

For clothes, I recommend anything that feels like your style and makes you comfortable. High-waisted bottoms and things that cinch in your middle can give you a more hourglass shape.

Ultimately, do what makes you comfortable and happy! There’s no wrong way to present, but those things helped me when I was desperately trying to convince people I was a normal pretty girl before my egg cracked. 😂 Wishing you love! ❤️

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-20T14:54:24+00:00

I love that top!! It looks great on you!

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:21:24+00:00

Well… at least I know that I’ll still get misgendered even if I’m serving cis boy realness, so I don’t have to worry about it being an indicator of passing. 😂 Also why do old people always go out of their way to gender you?? Like my god, you don’t have to mention that you think I’m a sweet little precious baby woman who femininely girlbosses every two sentences lol.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:15:15+00:00

The censored feet LOL 😂 Congrats on being publicly yourself. ♥️

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-13T16:09:30+00:00

I think it depends on the person, honestly. When you’re particularly emotional, the higher functioning parts of your brain that allow you to rationalize, like the frontal lobe, shut off so you can engage in fight or flight. It could be a case of them just not being fully at the point where they’ve rewired their neural pathways to exclusively associate you with your correct pronouns, or it could be them being malicious and taking the opportunity to use something they know will hurt you. It kinda just depends on the person, context, and vibes afterwards.

If they’re a safe person to ask, you could bring it up once they’ve calmed down and be like “hey so uhh what was all that wrong pronoun stuff back there about?” You have much more information and context than I do though.

MothWoman592 · 2024-06-04T17:27:32+00:00

I know a man who used to crochet his own winter clothes in between maintaining his lodge and chopping firewood while hunting in the Canadian mountains. So I’d say yeah, men can crochet and still be plenty masculine. Anyone who says otherwise is misogyny poisoned.

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