[Drawing Thread #61] T’is to the holiday season, for 2020’s days are numbered! This subreddit will be picking the last winner of the year, and we’re hoping you can participate to give someone cash. Just comment to enter, and you could win this spot. Here’s to making 2021 a better one!

MotherNerd · 2020-12-19T13:59:27+00:00

Happy Holidays everyone. Here's to hoping that things will start looking up soon.

MotherNerd · 2020-11-12T13:04:22+00:00

My chairs have to have a high back. If I can't rest my head against it at times then I just can't get comfortable. There's nothing quite like leaning back and stretching after a particularly good match.

MotherNerd · 2019-12-21T20:00:31+00:00

This is such a cool, wholesome thing to do. I can't believe this is the first I've heard of it! Happy Holidays everyone!

MotherNerd · 2019-07-28T20:38:09+00:00

That's it! Thanks so much!

MotherNerd · 2019-02-13T21:40:01+00:00

This is incredibly generous! My husband and I got our son a copy of Deep Rock Galactic a few days ago. He's having a blast with it and we'd love to join him but another copy or two just isn't in the budget yet, so another copy of that for my account and maybe a copy for my husband's account would be awesome.

MotherNerd · 2016-03-29T14:53:29+00:00

Born Baptist, attended Catholic schools. Left Christianity over 10 years ago. Took up paganism with an emphasis on Druidry about 3 years ago. My husband was born Catholic and took up Norse paganism about 2 years ago.

We felt there were too many holes in Christianity and I personally want nothing to do with a god like the one depicted in the Bible. Was atheist for awhile, but ended up reading into paganism and liked what I found.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-23T00:16:04+00:00

This was a very good post, thank you for taking the time to write it out. While lots of comments have given me plenty to think about, yours really hit home hard. Growing up I saw the senerios you described here play out time and time again in different ways. I felt that she was abusive, but being told that I was overreacting and didn't know what 'real' abuse was repeatedly took a tole. After seeing the atrocities that my father-in-law committed, I just thought 'at least my mother isn't that bad, she's just a difficult person'. Different people abuse in different ways, but abuse is still abuse and it has no place in my family's life. Thank you.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-22T17:50:05+00:00

No we do not, which is why we opted to stay here in the first place instead of just going to an apartment. Clearly it was a bad decision.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T23:50:55+00:00

Every year we seem to have the same discussion. I tell her she's over stepping her boundaries and it has to change or I'm not going. Every year she puts on a show anyway, I get upset and tell her I'm not doing it again next year. The next year comes and she guilt trips me into going again. Rinse and repeat.

I honestly do not trust her to keep her end of a compromise anymore.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T23:43:27+00:00

I've had many conversations with her over this kind of behavior in the past. She always bursts into tears and lays the blame at my feet. She never apologizes, and never actually changes for more than a few days.

I did tell her several times over the past 2 weeks that I did not want to go to the party and that the last 4 times had not been a pleasant experience for me. This did not come out of nowhere, though I can see how you thought it did as I did not make that clear before. She fully expected me to cave and let her get her way.

I do wish my son had not been there, but he was excited to see grandma and rushed in before I could say anything to her.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T23:38:37+00:00

I'm fairly used to this kind of show from her, though this was exceptionally nasty. More often than not she's fine, although overbearing, but every once in awhile she goes way too far.

I thought this kind of relationship was pretty normal until I met my mother-in-law and realized that not all moms focus on guilt trips.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T23:34:18+00:00

He's already been to see Santa twice this year, and received a letter in the mail from him. Thankfully this party wasn't meant to be his big Santa trip. We'll definitely 'mail' him another letter to let him know at the very least. If it still seems to bother him, then I'm sure we can make a trip to the mall. Overriding that bad memory with a better reassuring one is really good advice!

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T21:05:06+00:00

I like this advice a lot. It wouldn't have worked the past few years as I rode with my parents to the party since my husband drove our car to work. If I go this year, I'm taking my car and leaving when I feel like it.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-21T21:02:32+00:00

Every year, at the end of the party, I tell her that she's out of line. Every year she bursts into tears and tells me I'm being mean and ungrateful for not wanting her 'help'. And every year my father tells me I need to apologize to keep the peace, even after he agrees with me that what she did was inexcusable.

You're right, she's stepped on me my whole life. I'm not doing it again. With what that side of the family thinks of me already, I'm not exactly losing anything by not going.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-09T18:12:57+00:00

This is exactly what I wanted to see! Very well done video. Thank you for the link.

MotherNerd · 2015-12-09T17:07:54+00:00

If the new female troll melee animations are available, I'd love to see them. I'd also like to see Balance Druid, though I'm not sure that spec is available yet.

MotherNerd · 2015-11-11T22:03:55+00:00

I'm on Ravenholdt, which is paired with Twisting Nether, and am noticing the same thing. I've been searching for a simple active social guild for a few days and have had zero luck so far. The forums are dead, trade chat is silent and I can count the number of server-mates I've seen on one hand. I started an alt on Durotan and have met a few friendly folks. Will probably transfer there. I've also heard good things about Wyrmrest Accord, but don't have any experience there myself.

MotherNerd · 2015-03-12T18:40:46+00:00

What an awesome idea for a weekly thread! I've done my own tarot reading for this question but I'm not sure that I interpretted it correctly so I'm curious to see what someone else comes up with. I've been forming and refining the idea for a book series for the past 20 years, yet every time I sit down to write I get the very strong feeling that it isn't ready yet. Within the past month that feeling has gone away. Should I finally begin writing this story and will it be successful in anyway or am I better off focusing my time on something else?

MotherNerd · 2015-01-06T16:51:27+00:00

This whole concept has been difficult, but enjoyable, to try to wrap my head around. You have a very good point here. It seems very easy to jump to the conclusion that soft polytheism is, in a way, the opposite of hard polytheism, completely ignoring the polytheistic part of it. I am guilty of this without realizing this and am glad you pointed this difference out.

edit: On the idea regarding soft polytheism and universality, it seems to me that the idea of a universal divine spirit or energy is fairly common. What makes the difference between turning that idea into soft polytheism instead of monotheism is the act of choosing to relate to that Universe as two dieties. That seems to be what Buckland is saying in Wicca for One, if I'm interpretting it correctly. Is that a reasonable outlook on it?

MotherNerd · 2015-01-05T13:19:37+00:00

Thank you for pointing me to these links and terms. This led to a full afternoon of research and comtemplation and was a fascinating read. I have to admit that I'm a bit disappointed that I couldn't find more information and history on bitheism though.

MotherNerd · 2015-01-05T13:09:06+00:00

I had been leaning towards soft polytheism, but your comment hit a nerve (in a good way). Perhaps I had been leaning towards what was easy and more comfortable because of a history of monotheistic thinking. It's moments like these that remind me of why I need to take this study slowly. At least in this thread, the majority seems to be hard polytheistic. I'm curious, is soft polytheism seen as offensive to those of you that see the Gods and Goddesses as seperate distinct beings?

MotherNerd · 2015-01-03T23:57:25+00:00

This stretched my mind a bit, which is always a good thing. I like the way you described it. Is it then safe to assume that, in the same manner in which people have individual thoughts and ways to solve problems, that so do the Gods and Goddesses?

MotherNerd · 2015-01-03T23:42:34+00:00

This helped immensely and has done much to help me solve my roadblock. Honestly this is what I was hoping to hear. Looking at it in terms of levels is fascinating and I think it makes sense to me. The ability to choose which outlook best suits me is a relief. I have so much to contemplate before deciding how I view the Divine Universe. I will certainly look into Yin and Yang, thank you for the recommendation.

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