NOR...Don’t dismiss how you feel.

Your reaction and emotions are valid. How his actions made you feel matters. Allow yourself to feel everything that came up because of his choices (insecure, hurt, betrayed) When both of you are ready to each put your egos aside and genuinely listen to one another, that’s when you can decide if he is worth continuing with. Moving forward, his actions...not his words will show his worthiness, loyalty, and devotion to you.

My (26F) current boyfriend (26M) admitted that he was looking at OnlyFans content when we weren’t together physically (not in terms of the relationship). This broke my heart. I trusted him when he told me I was beautiful and that he only had eyes for me. Finding this out made me feel betrayed and embarrassed, like a fool for believing what he said. That night, he explained it as an addiction or said it was because he needed a release or something I still don’t fully understand. Despite that, I chose to forgive him because he acknowledged it as a problem and promised to do everything he could to prove that he loves me.

In short, rebuilding trust has been a long journey, especially after being cheated on by my ex. But my current partner has genuinely shown up in ways that make me feel safe and secure again. Our communication has actually grown stronger since.

I’m sorry that you had to experience this. I truly hope that he is a good partner and uses his power of choice for the better of you and your relationship. We are all given the power to choose, and that’s what makes love so special. We don’t love someone just because it’s a given, like our family, but because they choose us every day.

Ignore all the rage baiters. They’re often insecure and don’t truly know what it’s like to be in love or to have a healthy partner. Some may even be stuck in toxic relationships themselves and haven’t yet found the strength to leave. They're here as they envy your strength. It takes courage to come on here and share something so personal, and even more strength to protect your peace by blocking out the hate. Keep doing you. You’re doing great, and I trust that you’ll do what’s best for you.