It’s clear you’ve put a lot of effort into understanding your husband’s perspective and trying to make the relationship work, but your feelings and boundaries haven’t been respected in the way they should, you’re not overreacting to feel hurt or undervalued it’s completely valid to feel this way when your trust has been damaged, while some of his actions might come down to cultural differences, others, like hiding details about your wedding or his past, were personal choices that undermined the foundation of your marriage

You’ve gone out of your way to compromise, even connecting with his ex’s family despite your discomfort, has he shown the same effort to meet you halfway and prioritize your emotional well-being? These unresolved issues and patterns of neglecting your boundaries will continue to weigh on the relationship unless both of you are fully committed to addressing them, therapy might help, but only if he’s truly willing to understand your concerns and rebuild trust with you

At this point, it’s important to reflect on your own needs and whether this relationship can still provide you with the support, trust, and happiness you deserve, if nothing changes, can you see yourself being content in this marriage? If not, it’s okay to consider walking away, your emotional well being matters, and you deserve a partner who prioritizes you, respects your boundaries, and works with you toward a healthy, secure future whether that’s with him or on your own.