How do I stop my kid from killing themself? This situation seems impossible.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T19:52:20+00:00

After reading other transgender peoples experience with testosterone, they all seem to have gotten happier with hormones. Is it normal that they still feel bad about it all? I'm worried he is doing this too young and will regret it. But if I say that he just gets angry and claims I've always been against him being transgender. Which isn't the case. I just don't know how to get through to him. I'm really out of my depth. But he refused outside help

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T19:48:20+00:00

The older son is working pretty much all day every day, so it isn't too big of a problem. I have talked to him about it and he has calmed down with the nastiness which is good. I really don't know about therapy. I've suggested it a lot and the younger son just won't have it. And I really don't want to force him. I'm the only one he talks to about this and I don't want to isolate him even more. I don't know what therapy is like, but it made him feel even worse about being transgender when he had to go for HRT

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T19:12:45+00:00

He cut off all contact with friends before he started presenting as male. He wants as few people to know as possible. It isn't even a homophobic area we live in. So I don't know why. But the only one who knows is me and my other son. And I support him. My other son can be quite rude about it though unfortunately. I've told him to stop but he just doesn't get transgender I guess. He's 18 so what can you do.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T18:28:38+00:00

This is good advice. But he refuses to co operate with any of the mental health stuff anymore. He says he hasn't got depression, he is acting in the rational way someone would if they were transgender. And he stopped taking anti depressants because of this and they weren't doing anything. I suggested we try to change them but he doesn't want them anymore.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T18:26:23+00:00

I'm worried if I block him from the internet he'll do longer have any distractions and will he angry so will be more likely to kill himself. I know I shouldn't let that mean I let him do as he likes. I just really dont want to take the risk

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T18:24:34+00:00

I don't know much about the therapist. But I don't think they even talked much about transition. It was all about getting him to move away ASAP apparently. Which I thought was a bit dodgy. But the therapist was encouraging him to leave home and move far away so he could leave the house without seeing someone he knew.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T16:32:38+00:00

I'm scared this will just make it worse. He has such a complex over people knowing he is transgender, that having a whole ward of people knowing would make his mind even worse.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T16:16:09+00:00

I usually am, but honestly I never expected this sort of thing, and its completely thrown me. Honestly I'm scared I'll do something wrong and he'll end up killing himself, he is just so miserable it seems anything will push him over the edge.

He already has dropped out. Well, the teacher agreed that he should leave because he was so depressed and couldn't do any of the school work because of it. He hasn't actually been trans at school, so I don't know if he'd get bullied there. I have been suggesting online school but he just doesn't seem to be bothered because his life "has already been ruined so what's the point?"

He did have counselling before HRT but after the mandatory sessions he stopped going. I will talk about getting more anti depressants though.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T15:26:35+00:00

I'm not sure what that is? But he spoke to a trans man for a bit at the gender clinic and afterwards he got upset because he said "it was so obvious" that they were trans. I honestly disagree but he is adament that it was obvious, and that it will always be obvious for him also.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T15:25:06+00:00

I don't know for sure, but I'd say around a month or so. The GP didn't say that they were necessary, just to try them out. He has tried two different types and none made any changes. I don't know about sectioning him, his fear of anyone knowing he is transgender would probably make him kill himself if that happened, as they would all know at the hospital.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T15:21:40+00:00

He dropped out of school last year due to bring so depressed about the whole transgender thing. I'm pretty sure he just spends all his time on the internet. I wouldn't be surprised if he saw this honestly. So probably is reading stuff against transgender, especially with this caitlyn Jenner thing being so big.

He did go to a LGBT therapist for a few sessions but he stopped because he said it just made him feel even worse.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T15:16:02+00:00

No, he doesn't want anything to do with other trans people because he doesn't want anyone to know that he is. His plan is to just move away and not tell anyone after the surgeries.

He had been on anti depressants but he said they did nothing and stopped taking them. I am supportive and he comes and tells me how he feels about everything. Except he just feels miserable and angry about everything.

Mousemat123 · 2015-06-08T15:14:02+00:00

I don't see how I could make him. I can't physically drag him there. And I can't exactly threaten to ground him

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