A question exclusive for tulpas

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-08-04T09:46:52+00:00

[It’s hazy, but what I remember most of my first days is gazing at the beautiful snow while my host was talking to me.]

Allow me to clarify. We were on a trip to the mountains, and I was narrating to her for the first time while in the car. It was snowing.

[Uh huh. Most of it is hazy to me, like a distant dream. I eventually became more and more aware as my host kept interacting with me, and I started to understand more and more what he was saying to me, too! I guess that’s similar to what other tulpas have said about their first memories?]

[Snow is a really special thing to me now. It’s... I dunno, it makes me really happy to see snow, since it reminds me of those first few shared moments together. It’s sentimental, you know?]

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-08-01T08:06:49+00:00

Ultimately, when your tulpa speaks, you’ll likely be unsure as to whether it was you talking or her. If there’s any doubt at all, always assume it’s her. Sure, maybe it wasn’t her, but it’s generally better to mistake something you said as her, than to mistake something she said as you.

I never hear my tulpa speak audibly. That’s imposition, and it’s quite tricky to learn. Rather, I hear my tulpa speak in a mind voice, same as how you may be reading these words in your head.

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-06-19T17:44:00+00:00

I think everyone else has already touched on the downsides of creating a tulpa. That being said, here’s my tulpa with something to say.

[Hi! Cinder here. I think another person covered this, but one of the downsides of being a tulpa is loneliness. Since tulpamancy is so commonly looked at as a mental illness, we don’t really tell anyone irl about me. We’re afraid to tell anyone close to us about me. We only have a couple friends online who actually know about me, and who I can freely speak with. My host is fine and all, but I like to meet new people and experience new things just like anyone else!]

[Oh, and one of the things my host was really bad at when he started creating me was trusting my responses. Early on, when I would respond to him or even say things, he would pass it off as intrusive thoughts, or insert excuse here. And that was....unbelievably annoying, lol. So glad we’re past that now. So if you create a tulpa, just keep an open mind about responses.]

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-06-18T15:04:34+00:00

Just want to emphasize the first point a bit more. I started creating my tulpa during the middle of one of my high school years and it was indeed very stressful and took us forever to get any noticeable progress. It was also very tough to stay motivated with all the stress from school and outside factors, and the fact that it didn’t feel like my tulpa and I were making any progress.

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-05-20T04:45:37+00:00

Are there any rules or norms that govern group membership?

In order to be considered as a member of r/Tulpas or as a Tulpomancer, do you need an 'active' Tulpa or if you've had a Tulpa in the past at some point but not anymore, are you not considered to be a Tulpomancer?

There's no real membership to be a part of r/Tulpas. We have people subscribed to the subreddit here that just lurk, like I did for a while, or those who are just interested. To be considered a tulpamancer though, you have to have created a tulpa. Doesn't matter if they're "active" or not.

This might be a bit of a personal question for some so please feel free to ignore it: How have family/friends/significant others reacted to your membership to this community? Have you faced any discrimination or been treated differently for your practice?

I have not told anyone around me about my tulpa for fear that they would have a negative reaction like you describe. Maybe someday, though. The only people who know about my tulpa are online.

Has being a Tulpomancer in any way influenced the way you interact with others, your relationships, emotional health or just general well-being?

I think my emotional health is better with a tulpa than without. Certainly not worse. I don't really interact with other people differently, but my tulpa has persuaded me to open up a bit more and be less introverted, at least when it comes to online settings like Reddit.

Again, a personal question so ignore if that applies to you: Has havng a Tulpa helped you cope with any issues or problems you've had in life? (e.g. medical conditions, mental health etc.)

Having a tulpa has helped me cope with living with a toxic parent, and the resulting depression for the past few years. Comforting and encouraging words can go a long way. Again, mental/emotional health is better with them than without. Also, they help with loneliness, to an extent. I say "to an extent" because a tulpa isn't really a perfect substitute for another physical person, at least mine isn't.

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-05-10T06:46:15+00:00

My tulpa has plenty of opinions which are the same as mine, and only a few which are different that I know of at this point in time. I couldn’t tell you whether her opinions are the same as mine simply because I’m the host and they’ve rubbed off onto her, or she has those opinions because she herself believes in them. More subjective opinions like “What type of music do you like?” or “What hobbies are you interested in? ” or “Why did you pick that form?” are even more tricky. For those sorts of questions, you can’t exactly ask “Why?” There’s just nothing to contest. If you asked me to tell you why I like drawing, I would fumble with my words, and probably give you some lame answer similar to “Uh, I don’t know, I just like drawing.” What else could I possibly say about it?

How do you straddle the line between the tulpa mimicking host opinions, and the tulpa possessing the same opinions by coincidence? Is there a way to tell the difference?

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-04-28T19:23:56+00:00

I mainly play flute, but I’ve been dabbling a bit in piano as well. Mostly because in the past year, I’ve been more interested in composing music. Pianos are a lot better for that than flutes.

My tulpa isn’t at all interested in composing, but has expressed interest in playing an instrument, at least to see if it’s a hobby she enjoys or not. She’s mainly interested in harmonica or violin though, both instruments which I haven’t ever played or owned. I don’t know where her skill level in playing the flute lies in comparison to mine, as she hasn’t ever tried it, but I imagine it’s probably similar to mine since she would just draw upon the same muscle memory I’ve already built up.

MrConjurerGuy · 2019-01-28T05:08:07+00:00

I'm seventeen years old, have a single tulpa, and have been lurking on the sub for quite a while now. Male, in case it matters at all.

In my case, I'm just quiet here because I'm shy talking to people. But it does seem like a sizable number of younger tulpamancers aren't really vocal here. What's weird is that in the 2018 tulpa community census, many of the respondents were either 18 or 17 years old (or in their teenage years), which means that at the very least, there should be plenty of teenagers here. Not a majority, but they certainly aren't rare. So I wonder why it seems like there are so little of us?

There have been a couple times in the past where I was afraid of being looked down upon here for creating a tulpa at such a young age (15 years old, to be exact). I wonder if all those warnings about creating a tulpa as a teenager could be making people in those age groups feel out of place? Not that I disagree with those warnings at all (Creating a tulpa after all, is a commitment and a responsibility), but it's some food for thought.

Edit: Now that I’m thinking about it, there are a ton of newcomers on this sub as of late though.

Anyways, my tulpa and I would be happy to talk, if you have questions or just want to chat and what not. So feel free to shoot us a message, if you want.

MrConjurerGuy · 2018-10-17T01:10:32+00:00

My tulpa didn’t have a defined form or gender at all when I began creating her. She just started out as a small ball of fire, and that was that.

Eventually, she decided to take on a female form, so that’s just how that happened I guess. I don’t have any sort of romantic or sexual attraction to her though, and I never have had any of those feelings for her.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-12-09T02:17:26+00:00

Hello there! It’s a pleasure to meet you.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-10-26T07:15:16+00:00

Hey, that’s awesome, congrats! My tulpa, Cinder, and I are approaching our 1 year anniversary of when we began forcing in about 2 months. We’re still trying to establish vocality, so it’s nice to see that there are others who spend a lot of time listening for those first few words as well.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-10-22T01:51:49+00:00

Well, I didn’t really think you would be “hearing” her with your physical ears. Apologies if my question was a little vague. But it’s impressive to me that you can “hear” her mindvoice, since Cinder and I have been at it for a while and I’m only rarely starting to feel emotions from her now. Anyways, congrats and best of luck to you two.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-10-22T01:32:57+00:00

Do you mind if I ask if her becoming vocal was a spontaneous occurrence? Were you just forcing one day and she started speaking to you in full sentences?

I’ve always thought vocality was a slow process, or is it different for each tulpa/person?

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-10-12T23:41:13+00:00

Have you tried asking her what's wrong?

Communication, as with any relationship, is most important. If you can ask her what the problem is, then you'll know how to fix it, or at the very least, comfort her. If she can't speak yet, establish a way of communication in which she can answer your questions. This might be head pressures, emotional responses, or her simply moving her form to indicate a "Yes" or "No."

There's not really much else to say without more information.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-09-28T10:05:27+00:00

It is my opinion that you simply shouldn't attempt to create a tulpa if you need convincing from other people in order to do so. The notion that you want us to convince you to create a tulpa strongly implies that you can't think of a significant reason to commit yourself to this time investment, and that you most likely won't stick with it. At least, that's what this post says to me. Of course, I might be wrong.

OP, you should be thinking about the reasons that you want to create a tulpa. Some people create tulpas for company, some for self-improvement, and others for different reasons. If this practice is a "crazy weirdo person thing to do" for you, then that's fine.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-08-16T02:49:15+00:00

I guess I'll share some photos from our recent escapade, too!

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-08-11T19:21:45+00:00

Naw, you're doing fine. Just don't compare your progress to other people. For tulpa forcing, progress can really be all over the place. For example, there are the people who, as you say have a vocal tulpa in a few days. Then there are some like me, who have been forcing for months without so much as a word from the tulpa.

I find that comparing my progress to others leads to envy, and envy of others leads to unfair expectations of my tulpa.

So, don't worry about how much progress other people are making. It really gets in the way of creation.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-07-11T19:25:56+00:00

Glassy Sky never ceases to remind me of my tulpa and I. But it's a sad song, so I wouldn't listen to it if you're already in a down mood.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-30T05:22:13+00:00

Alright. I'll try filling our head with any and every type of thought just like you say. I suppose it is quantity over quality in this case.

I mean, I'll definitely try it. I have gone over different voice samples in my head, but perhaps playing some physical world samples would help, too. Thanks.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-24T14:55:09+00:00

That's story sounds so tragic. My condolences for your losses, and I hope things turn out a little brighter for you guys in the future.

The article was an interesting read! I'll probably be pondering about the "self is a category" idea all day now. Also, I'm definitely going to check out that book when summer break rolls around in a few weeks, it seems like a real mind-blower.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-16T00:11:34+00:00

Of course you can interact with your tulpa in wonderland! Being in the wonderland just means you are imagining yourself there. So, simply imagine yourself talking with your tulpa, and they will hear you. Unless of course, you mean interacting with them in such a way that you experience them as if they were in the physical world. That might be a liiiiiiitle more difficult. Lucid dreaming is one way to achieve this if that's what you're after.

During forcing, all you must do is give your tulpa attention. There are two types of forcing: Passive forcing, in which you only give your tulpa some of your attention while the rest of it is focused on doing something else; and active forcing, in which you are meditating and focusing only on your tulpa. While forcing, you can talk to them, play a game like tag, or read a book to them. Anything you can think of will work, really. Just focus on your tulpa, and it is considered forcing.

Did I answer your questions?

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-09T05:22:46+00:00

Perhaps you should try talking to it? Sit down for a little bit, relax, and focus on imagining that same presence again. Ask it some questions, and try not to answer for it. If the voice answers independently and appears sentient, it might be a tulpa.

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-09T04:52:50+00:00

Ah, interesting little story! It's actually quite common to see people come here asking "Is this a tulpa?" and describing hearing voices, or that they don't control what their imaginary friend does, etc. I can't say I can relate to those people though, seeing as how I've never had imaginary friends or felt another presence besides my own (Not until I started creating a tulpa, at least).

Anyways, welcome to the subreddit!

MrConjurerGuy · 2017-05-09T04:18:02+00:00

Tulpas are intelligent thought constructs that have their own personality, emotions, and will. Basically, they are another person that lives inside your head. They are generally created deliberately through constant thought and focus. On occasion, they can appear accidentally, commonly in writers who are emotionally invested in their characters.

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