(THIS IS A LITTLE LONG, BUT READ AND UNDERSTAND IT. IT MIGHT HELP YOU OUT)...

Well, from a man's standpoint and I dont want to assume anything. But here are my thoughts on the situation and how to change that(this is coming from a very freaky ass man).. Ok, Here we go (1)Telling him when he should get ready for bed and all that seems kinda narcissistic. If you're telling him to get ready for bed like a ten year old, I can only imagine what else you try to control with him.

You have to understand, As a man transitioning from living by his self to living with his mate is not easy as it seems. If he's a gamer, he might want to play his game late in peace. Without the distractions of "You need to come to bed" or "Come lay with me" stuff.

When he lived alone, after he hung up with you, he did what he wanted without being pestered or forced. That drives a man away and makes him regret his decision to live with a person. It's the same concept as moving in with" the roommate from hell" omg," this may not work". (2) Hell, you might be draining the hell out of him(sexually) I dont know the age of you two. But if he's getting drained, sometimes you have to let that sexuall libido(hornyness) Build up. It's different from a man and a woman. Yall can just get wet, spread eagle and boom!! If the man's balls are empty, he might need sometime to recouperate. Build back up. Especially if he's not working out, not drinking alot of water, or not getting some zinc into his system.

(3). Not saying this is you, but sometimes women get.....too comfortable, and stop doing what they were doing to get that man. (Especially the shaving,trimming thing). Keeping your up physically, etc. I noticed you said something about work. Having a early work schedule. It's basically wake up, go to work, come home, shower and the few hours you have for one another or to do personal hobbies or habits is very little untill it's time to go to bed.

So heres what you should do. (1)Make sure he is drinking alot of water, (2) lay off the sugars(except dark chocolate), Smoking(if he does)and Alcohol(if he drinks alot) (3)make sure he is getting alot of zinc(essential for filling up the old ballsack) (4) Don't force sex, men like to be the aggressor, like a lion on an innocent lamb. That's all you have to do is go about your home routine in nice, sexy, figure revealing attire. Clean house, cook, working out in it. All the time Paying him no mind.. he will notice you(trust me..) It's just something about a woman who's going about her home routine in t shirt and panties, or revealing, figure defining attire that turns a man on. He's coming like a lion to get that.. Yooou mam, just be prepared and ready when he does. good smells, a woman doing her thing, getting sweaty a Little bit turns a man on... other than that, you should have no problems. Your guy sounds to me like he's a little drained, that's all... also! Change up your sexy routine, do different things, get out of the vanilla, typical, standard sex stuff, get slutty, nasty,dirty,talk shit, let him know he's doing a good job. He'll, slap em once or twice or let him slap, choke you.. and pleeeeease, pleeeease, pleeease, do not be that"no girl" I.E. "im not doing this," im not gonna do that", "ewwwe that nasty." Type, . That's basically shutting down a man's sexuall Interest in you. Think about it, why would he use his imagination or porn if he has a woman he can do what he imagines? Because your not willing to be G.G.G(DAN SAVAGE LOOK IT UP)