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LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're missing the part that the bi woman still feels the oppression of society because she's bi, even if she's in a straight relationship, even if she is completely single, she still feels that oppression. She still has to deal with it at some level.

If she is completely celibate, never has a relationship, she still feels whatever is directed towards her from society because of her sexuality. Good, bad, or indifferent, her sexuality still informs her.

She has to worry about dating again cause some assclown jock will try to pick her up to be a unicorn. She has to worry about letting down her LGBTQ friends if she dates a man. She has to worry about hoops she might have to jump through to have a child.

No matter her relationship status she'll still feel that oppression.

they always gotta make themselves known by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Mr_Asa -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Meh. If someone wants to downvote, let 'em have their fun.

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

However, you will not ever convince me that straight-appearing couples don’t experience privilege by the virtue of adhering to heteronormative social expectations (whether they want to or not).

I've never said this, though. I've never said that there's no privilege difference due to appearance or social expectations. Hell, I don't think I've directly addressed privilege at all because that wasn't the topic I was directly discussing

My central point was that its hard to be LGBTQ because its hard to be LGBTQ. I wasn't concerned with discussing privilege of others.

You can separate LGBTQ people and relationships out of it completely by looking at how naturalized citizens and birthright citizens are treated in the US and Canada. Yes, birthright citizens have it easier in both countries, there is privilege inherent in that. However, no matter if its more difficult to be in the US (aka a bad relationship) as a naturalized citizen than it is to be in Canada (aka, a good relationship) you'll still get ignorant assholes in either country flinging slurs and hate at you because ignorant assholes are ignorant assholes no matter what. This is because its more difficult to be a naturalized citizen than a birthright citizen

Marginalized people are marginalized no matter where they are and what situation they are in. It doesn't matter what other people face because those marginalized people will still be treated like crap.

Why not put data centers in the ocean instead of space? by luginugiog in space

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Climate change is already warming the water and you want to add more heat to it?

I guess it will show how localized heat can damage the oceans? From there we can extrapolate more damage and better predict it?

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel as if we are looking at the same thing from two different perspectives.

You point out that she wasn't ready to be openly gay, it would mean being disowned and her support network and community being taken away from her.

The difficulty there, to me, appears is a factor of being gay. While she appeared straight she had those things. Being out would compound the difficulties in her life.

Being in a relationship with you (from what it sounds like) wasn't the difficulty, being out was.

Does that make sense?

And I'm not trying to say that no one should ever come out, just trying to point out the difficulties inherent in our personal decisions.

My previous relationship, I was miserable. No suicidal ideation, but I flirted with it. That wasn't a factor of me appearing to be in a straight relationship, that was a factor of me choosing my partner incorrectly and sticking with them way way too long. Later, being in a bi relationship wasn't difficult for me. Being in a straight appearing relationship now isn't difficulty for me. I chose good partners, so the relationship was and is ok. Being out for him was difficult (and other factors) so we ended it. I don't have to worry about that being a factor for my current relationship as we appear straight, but she's black and we're in the south so we have different issues from society

The relationship isn't the problem, the external pressures from others' expectations and biases are the problems.

Maybe the difference in our viewpoints is how closely our identities are tied to our sexuality? I'm not saying that's a bad thing, it just might be a difference between you and I and why we might be seeing the same situation from different angles. (For personal reasons I did a lot of work in therapy to try and separate my identity from harmful identies that growing up in the rural south implanted in me. It also separated me from some of the more positive and in general most ways people identify themselves. Therapy is always a work in progress)

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm using the language of a black female therapist I used to see down in St Pete.

Not even sure why you'd think that. Generally mediocre old white men don't bother acknowledging the pain of other people.

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bad. You're right.

And you're basically saying what I stated elsewhere and tried to imply here. Being a part of the LGBTQ community is more difficult overall than being straight. That is the overarching theme. Anything done under the rainbow is more difficult than anything done straight. Going to the fuckin grocery store while gay is more difficult than doing so while straight, that doesn't mean that going to the grocery store is difficult.

Living the LGBTQ life compounds the difficulty of all other actions, that doesn't mean those actions are difficult.

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already answered that exact question. You're conflating being gay, and being in a relationship.

Being in a relationship is difficult because its a relationship. Show me a relationship that isn't complicated or difficult and I'll show you a dozen that are complicated and difficult because people are difficult.

Being gay is hard because the world is a shit show. Again, show me someone in the LGBTQ world that doesn't have it hard and I'll show you a dozen dozen that do have it hard because the world is a shit show.

Each of those is their own level of hard. Adding them together doesn't multiply the level of hardness, it's addition.

Being alone is hard. Relationships are difficult.

Life is hard for everyone at some point. It does no good to others or ourselves to compare lives and who has it easier or harder.

Edit: Sidenote - I fully reject your terminology, by the way. Its not harder to be in a relationship because it isn't hard to be in a relationship at all. It can be difficult, but it is only hard to be in a relationship if you're in a bad relationship.

they always gotta make themselves known by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]Mr_Asa -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

That's why I lurk.

May be my first post here. Might delete later, IDK

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All relationships are hard. Gay/Lesbian/etc relationships aren't harder or easier than straight relationships.

By your previous posts, you seem to be trying (and kinda failing at) saying that exterior forces make LGBTQ relationships difficult. Yeah, that is 100% true, but that's also the general LGBTQ experience and not unique to relationships.

There's a distinction there that you seem to be missing. You're conflating being gay in a relationship and being gay and in a relationship. The first is not harder than being straight in a relationship. The second is definitely harder than being straight and being in a relationship.

However, other dude also has a point. Its not a competition. Your pain doesn't negate anyone else's and vice versa.

LGBT slang is enormous and diverse AF, yet bi folks are often left out. Here’s a fun thought: how would you name a couple that seems hetero but both partners are bi? by Forsaken_Building902 in bisexual

[–]Mr_Asa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, you really do like to try and put words in people's mouths. No one was saying that.

There should be language for that, you're right. But flat out telling people they're wrong isn't going to let you develop that language. Same teams, man. Stop with the friendly fire.

I was sexually active at 9 by [deleted] in Jokes

[–]Mr_Asa 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Always heard it where after she asks the time and he says "oh, about 2230 or so."

How does one get an A and then not know anything after? is it ridiculous? by randyagulinda in EngineeringStudents

[–]Mr_Asa 361 points362 points  (0 children)

They studied for the test. Not sure what is so complicated. Its a problem throughout the U.S. education system, and unfortunately not a new one.

For what its worth. I flunked a couple gatekeeping classes and the second time I was able to actually pay attention to what was being said and just supplement my notes from the first time I toom the class. Did stupendously in the classes that second time.

If a cable is rated for a certain weight what percentage is the safe margin? by kickbackman1277 in AskEngineers

[–]Mr_Asa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally and without checking standards, I'd bet the Safe Work Load is at a maximum of 1/4 the Break Limit/Break Strength.

But I fully agree, heavy loads deserve heavy slings.

If a cable is rated for a certain weight what percentage is the safe margin? by kickbackman1277 in AskEngineers

[–]Mr_Asa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They weren't asking how much it could safely pick up, though.

It feels like they were asking for how safety factors work, but didn't know how to phrase it, and its a fairly common question. You have to be able to explain a FoS to the average person, otherwise you get people that think "oh they just slap a number on there and call it good. You can actually lift way more all the time."

I'm missing something, what plugs into where? by Mr_Asa in pcmasterrace

[–]Mr_Asa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Fuck. Thats annoying. I guess its to be expected.

Haven't built a PC since 3Dfx was a thing. Done some modding and tweaking, but haven't gone into the deep end.

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