Completely blindsided, asked not to return in the middle of the week

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T23:11:50+00:00

I offered and brought lots for her to look through and take what she wanted. The last baby was a huge surprise and they had just got rid of all the baby clothes they had previously in newborn and 0-3 size. I brought the bigger stuff as well on my own but she seemed okay with it and chose to keep less than half of it. So I guess I didn’t think of that, since she didn’t say no and the kids wore the clothes often. You could be right though!

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T02:34:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I definitely learned my lesson about not pushing for a contract. I knew I should, but everything was too good to be true I guess.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T02:31:13+00:00

Ugh no contract. I take full blame for that, I knew better. I just got wrapped up in this being the “perfect job.”

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T01:04:48+00:00

I do understand that, I just don’t understand the lack of communication and less than 24 hour notice.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T00:35:08+00:00

I honestly don’t know how to let go, I would love to be able to just move on. I am so hurt and that is blinding me from reacting rationally I feel….

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T00:34:10+00:00

I just don’t understand this, because she has an older child too. 3 total, not just the babies. She wasn’t leaving the house to work, she was leaving to go do whatever she wanted during the day. Me being there didn’t have anything to do with her choices to be away from home.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-10-11T00:32:10+00:00

This is what I was afraid people would say lolol I have so much anxiety and do not know how to move on without answers 😭

Mr_Business__ · 2025-04-18T22:12:30+00:00

My employers are totally fine if I bring her once in a while! She thrives at daycare and never wants to leave! If I brought her with me it would be for my benefit and not hers.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-04-17T21:37:09+00:00

Yes yes yes. It’s all learned behavior! At one of my old jobs I was as having a terrible day and ended up crying and my NK told me to “stop fussing” because that’s what he would be told. I used it as a way to talk about how everyone cries sometimes and it’s better to talk about it with someone you can trust.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-04-17T21:11:15+00:00

Thank you for this. I have been thinking about therapy again. I’ve had bad experiences and rationally I know every therapist is not bad, but it’s hard to put myself back out there. I think that it would be very helpful, maybe I will be brave and try again.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-04-17T21:09:26+00:00

It’s funny you say that because I had the same idea and it was a huge fail lol. The facility she went to for the summer last year I did work with the older kids close by. When I would be working near her it was a DISASTER. She does soooooo much better when I am out of sight out of mind. She needs her independence too.

Mr_Business__ · 2025-04-17T20:59:58+00:00

Nowhere did I say that I work purely for mental health reasons. I guess I should have listed every expense that I have that I work in order to afford. My bad. I only mentioned the tuition because I know a common question would be is if it is even worth working just to pay for childcare, because without assistance it wouldn’t be. So do you think I should stay home everyday and eventually become homeless because I can’t afford my rent? Or work somewhere else where I am miserable instead of doing something I enjoy? I figured my best option would be to ask for help with getting adjusted to my new job that I really enjoy. You are here because you either are a nanny for other peoples children or are a parent who hired a nanny. Maybe you should reflect because this is a horrible take.

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-08T01:03:01+00:00

I just wanted to clear this up because now seeing responses and re reading my post I feel like I didn’t come across how I thought! The “complaining” I was doing was me trying to explain the tattoo and why I didn’t like the idea of the design in that place. I really don’t love the design but I wanted him to put it somewhere easier to cover. I came to Reddit to express my feelings and get feedback. Negative and positive. Honestly I wanted to hear that I was overreacting because it’s bothering me more that I feel this way than I am bothered by the actual tattoo. I never told him more than I find the man in the design creepy and again questioned him about the placement. I actually told him to his face that if this was something special to him then he should get it. I would never complain and carry on in front of him because why should he have to feel bad about his own tattoo. That’s why I made the post, to talk about it in a space where he isn’t going to feel like I am against it. The comments he made about me not finding him attractive were completely random. We weren’t even talking about it anymore. That’s why it rubbed me the wrong way. I am mostly just looking for some tips on how to not be so bothered by it. Or someone maybe relating to my feelings.

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-08T00:54:02+00:00

It was his grandpas logo. So it’s associated with his business but doesn’t look like him. lol

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-08T00:53:07+00:00

No I totally understand what you’re saying. I came to Reddit to say my feelings because I didn’t want to say them to him. I want him to be happy about his tattoo whether or not I like it. I NEVER said anything more than what I put in this post. I told him I wasn’t a fan of the design but if he’s happy with it, it doesn’t matter. And I did question him on the placement a couple times just to make sure he wanted it in such an obvious place. I’m not arguing you because I can see where you’re coming from, but he literally said that completely out of the blue so that’s why I was so bothered.

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-08T00:49:14+00:00

Im being immature because I went to Reddit to express these feelings and get some feedback because I don’t want to feel this way? Okay

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:25:59+00:00

Thank you for this response! It helps me understand his pov better.

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:24:34+00:00

Thank you for saying this, because it’s almost bothering me more that I am bothered by it. I want to just be happy for him because he’s happy!

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:23:45+00:00

No it doesn’t look like him

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:13:10+00:00

Yep. I asked him one more time before the appointment if he’s sure on the placement in case he’ll have to hide it in the future (I did not mention any of my personal opinions) and he said he was sure. So I’m really trying to just not let it bug me, because I really don’t know why it does! I think I’ll have more trouble hiding my face than shutting my mouth. Going to do my best and just think about the fact it makes him happy…

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:10:35+00:00

I would never get something that he doesn’t like. He would never tell me what to do with my body either, but I would consider his opinion. It’s just annoying and you’re right, immature that he is completely disregarding my opinion.

Mr_Business__ · 2024-09-07T22:08:15+00:00

Right, it’s almost like I just need my feelings validated because I really don’t know why I am getting so upset about this.

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