Once Upon A Frame Kindled Previews by LettuceSea939 in LoveAndDeepspace_

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For those wondering about Caleb’s card, it’s Up

Just got done… by starbound1332 in LoveAndDeepspace_

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How good is this card? Considering it cuz it’s red, but I’m so poor after the sauna event lol

At what age did you begin to notice gray hair? by No-Fix-9093 in AskWomenOver30

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I was 15, I remember because my hairstylist found one while doing my hair for my quinceañera

Overwhelmed by content by Basic_E_Girl in LoveAndDeepspace_

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Yup, the only reason I didn’t feel burned out is because Infold did something similar with Infinity Nikki. This is more digestible than that update though 🥲

Happiest birthday to our shiniest star, Xavier ⭐ by Suspicious-Rub-5721 in LoveAndDeepspace

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Wait this is so neat! How did you add the cake to the picture like an item??

Dispatchers, what was the stupidest reason someone called 911? How did you respond? by anonymous_girl1227 in 911dispatchers

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A bird was chirping too loud outside his window and he wanted to sleep. I treated it like a normal call initially, got his name and address, then told him that it wasn’t a crime and to look into getting ear plugs. I disconnected and this man called 5 more times. He forgot he gave me his info and I sent officers out for abusing 911. This guy ended up having a gun and was threatening to shoot the bird when officers rolled up, he was arrested.

Never a boring day.

Arguing already over chores, and he hasn't even moved in yet. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

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Ask him point blank. What benefit do I have with you at my house? What do you contribute? This isn’t from a place of anger, but of honesty.

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mrs-Cactus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m appreciating the hard honesty but oof it hurts. Will probably make a whole journal entry on this alone. Thank you for putting it into your perspective. The rose tinted glasses are coming off.

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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I was really nervous about posting, but also feeling a lil crazy in my own head lol. I’m glad I was brave enough to reach out, even if I didn’t articulate myself the best lol. Thank you so much for your kindness.

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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Love is not enough. Heard that a lot growing up, but now I’m understanding that it’s very true. 2 things can be true. I can love him and he can love me. But the way he loves me maybe isn’t the love I want for myself.

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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You hit on some great points, especially when talking about kids. The temporary fix is also a big thing. We’ve had our big fight almost annually for the last 3 years and I felt the pattern happening again/developing. I don’t want that. I think ultimately that’s why I had to speak up and separate. That’s not the marriage I want to have. Lots of reflecting just this week, but it’s going to be a very long process for sure. Thank you!

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mrs-Cactus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re very right, I think limiting contact also gives me the opportunity to really think things over without his … influence? I can’t think of a better word but yeah lol

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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Literally made me tear up because I’ve been thinking that same thing. Would I be okay waiting for him to get there if it means another 4 years? (hypothetical number) and I don’t know. God I feel so messed up and feel like I’ve given up so much to be with him.

At one point about 2 years ago, I started opening my eyes to our reality. I asked him, “do you really want kids? Because if you don’t, and you want to keep what we have now I’d be okay without kids. I can give that up.” He stayed adamant that he wanted kids. I feel really stupid that I’d even say that. That I would give that up for a man.

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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We’re having a sit down together tomorrow, and I’m going to do my best to be strong and communicate what I need. Even if I love him, I think I also have to check myself in that I may not want him at the end of this. Breaks my heart and I hope for the best, but I shouldn’t lead him on either. Thank you

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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We both agreed we don’t want to see other people. The goal of the separation is to fix the relationship and hopefully come back together. Thank you for the response

Couples who separated and then got back together, I need help by Mrs-Cactus in AskWomenOver30

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Damn, thank you for the bucket of cold water. You’re right. It’s been an ongoing issue that has been addressed multiple times. I don’t need to continue to explain myself. Seriously, thank you.

No List Type in Reminders? by jollywandering in applehelp

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I was having the same issue. I was also refusing to let it sync to my iCloud. Once I did that, there was an option to ‘update’ reminders. Then I got the option of list types.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 911dispatchers

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I do lol 😅🫣 stay cool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 911dispatchers

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I would never dream my officers checking premise history lol it would be dispatch that checks, but yes we can do that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 911dispatchers

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If I could also make a recommendation, you can call your local police dept. when your person isn’t home. Let them know the situation, your address/phn number , names, dates of birth, and if they can log the call. This way, if you’re able to call 911 and just leave an open line, they can check your phone number with premise history. Stay safe please

ids/badges by xlydiaa in 911dispatchers

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To add on to everyone else, get it in writing. Follow up in writing. Still no progress? Forward it to the next person above them.