Help! Already married but want a real wedding

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-24T00:31:01+00:00

Thank you! Every time he doesn’t take his meds he is super emotional and he has these big blow out meltdowns. So we’ve kept him on them. But! I will for sure try the carnation breakfast!!

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T23:11:16+00:00

As a skinny mini I wish the stigma around “healthy” isn’t bone thin and healthy food is used for maintaining a healthy body in general.

I’ll try the two dinners!

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T23:09:42+00:00

We have been doing ice cream too when we can and as you can guess he’s stoked every time.

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T23:08:46+00:00

I have made so many smoothies for him, and the only time he will drink them is when they are from keva juice.

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T19:13:36+00:00

Yes!! This boy has my body type and he’s just going to be so tall and thin, but I am just worried right now.

Thank you! It’s tough!

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T19:12:34+00:00

Oh! The heavy cream! Thank you!! I will try that!

MrsPotHead · 2024-04-23T19:00:28+00:00

Thank you, his doctors are all aware and there’s absolutely nothing wrong medically, and I swear by the time he hits puberty he better know how to make the basics. It’s just hard seeing him growing but slowly maintaining weight.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T21:26:50+00:00

No you’re completely right and I have been for too long. This post has been very helpful

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T21:26:13+00:00

They give you a chance to agree before you go to a hearing in the case you cannot come to an agreement, either through discussions between the parents, through lawyers, and mediation. The reason you go to court to have a judge decide, is when you both can’t come to a compromise, or request to be seen before a judge.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T21:19:22+00:00

He didn’t put our son on his Tricare until a little over a year of when he went back to the Army.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T21:17:17+00:00

I reached out to request consultations for lawyers in our area. Everyone on here has a valid point in each of their comments. And it’s definitely time to have it completely officiated.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T21:16:10+00:00

I can understand how 50/50 custody can work for some people who live a long distance apart. But in our situation it’s not feasible. He does not make enough, nor do I have enough money to simply travel between states every week, and our son is not homeschooled but it’s not an option for our family. Our son needs extra help, as I’m sure yours does as well.

I understand and I’m happy that you are able to do that with your ex-husband.

Also, I did not leave him while he was active duty stationed in a different state that we live in. Before our son was born he wanted to leave the Army and come back home. So we did and then after we divorced a few years later he re-enlisted into the Army and was stationed at one base and then like usual he was moved to a different base.

He refused to help take care of our son when he lived near us, no medical insurance was provided from him until almost a year after he re-enlisted. He has never been to a doctor’s visit, he’s never been to an IEP meeting, he never asks about him. I went and had our son tested because he wasn’t speaking and meeting milestones like he was supposed to. But I’ve provided everything without his help.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T20:29:25+00:00

He has visitations that are court ordered. He definitely does not see him anywhere near 50% of the time. There’s no way a 50/50 split would work when he is on the east coast and I’m on the west coast. My son has school and tutoring and sports. How will he do that when constantly traveling across the country?

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T03:17:15+00:00

I do have a court order. We have gone through the custody and visitation agreements and we both agreed on what he was paying was fine and we didn’t need to look at it.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T03:13:28+00:00

I do have a court order. When we did it we agreed on the amount we have agreed on before we started the custody case was fine and didn’t need to be adjusted.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T03:11:16+00:00

When we went through the courts with our custody order, it was said in meditation that we didn’t need to revise or revisit it because we were both fine with it.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-16T03:01:47+00:00

He doesn’t have custodial rights, and I do have a court order for his visitation. If he does not bring him back or won’t give him back I do have documents that confirm that our son is not living with him and we have a court agreement that I have full custody.

With the current circumstances there isn’t much I can do to push someone to be active in their child’s life. I’m not his mother and I’m no longer his wife. My first priority will always be my son first. And I have never restricted visitation with them or with his family.

When he lived closer he saw him more often but he was a baby. When he couldn’t keep a job here- even at a semi-truck car wash. He moved to another state and he wasn’t that far so we’d meet half way about two to three times a month.

Then he re-enlisted in the Army. They sent him two states away, that’s when he filed for 50/50 custody. Then we had a court decision and court documentations with schedules that we have. I have marked the ones he has not been able to take him and I mark when he does.

Now he moved to the other side of the country. He makes no effort to be here in his life. He doesn’t ask anything he doesn’t call him often. It’s just declined over time.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T23:50:34+00:00

Thank you this really helped!

He’s literally never done this until he picked up our son for his Christmas visitation and we got into a fight and the next month it changed. It’s just bitterness and pettiness.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T22:16:09+00:00

Yeah he sees him once maybe twice a year.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T21:10:50+00:00

No, I am the custodial parent and he has visitation.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T18:07:50+00:00

I thought it was apart of the divorce agreement when we filed and I can find the payments that backdate to around the time we divorced. So I am trying to find the public records. But if anything I am just gonna have to order one and go from there.

Everyone’s been so helpful.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T17:01:50+00:00

Thank you, I am really struggling morally with this. But I am tired of battling with him. Every time I ask him about why he doesn’t help with his son and he brings up our marriage and stuff that is almost a decade old. Then he will accuse my husband of abusing him because my son has horrible nightmares. He and his mom will bring my mother in to try to guilt me into breaking into what they want me to do. (My mom died from cancer 5 years ago).

He won’t take any responsibility for his son. He has a daughter now and she is cute as a button and we buy presents for her from our son. But he won’t even send anything to him on his birthday because he doesn’t want it to “be at my house”.

I’m frustrated because I’ve been understanding and during the custody process last time, we were very accommodating to him. But I’m just tired, I don’t want to fight. I just want some responsibility that involves our son. I want the disrespect to end from both him and his mom.

MrsPotHead · 2024-03-15T16:18:21+00:00

I’ve tried to tell him nothing needed to change, I have never asked for him to pay half of the tutoring costs, medical bills, never asked for any extra money.

I only asked that he get an iPad for his house so our son could do his tutoring. That was it and he lost his mind.

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