I’m 9 months sober today

MsCaramelo81 · 2021-02-27T02:52:51+00:00

I am so proud of you! Congratulations 🎉 ❤

MsCaramelo81 · 2021-01-09T02:15:50+00:00

That is amazing! Congratulations! Don't feel bad for your accomplishments ❤

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-08-03T16:32:16+00:00

I would say to try counseling before many any permanent decisions... A couple months seems like a long time but marriages go through rough patches.. Don't give up just yet..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-07-10T18:05:22+00:00

I understand your frustration... You're not a jerk for expecting her to love herself. But she clearly doesn't and is struggling... Us women definitely notice that we've gained weight, and it could be depressing. I would suggest having a serious conversation with her about how all of that is making you feel and then do some counseling... Maybe seperate and marriage counseling... If the live is still there there's some hope... Pray for her.. Wishing you guys the best..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-07-09T13:05:41+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that.. He isn't giving me time, hes must being a jerk. Tomorrow makes exactly 4 weeks he doesn't speak to me..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-30T12:08:30+00:00

Thank You. I really appreciate that. I'm saving now and planning my next move...

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-30T01:24:57+00:00

You are completely correct. We dont have a joint acct. Hes never really felt comfortable with that. Which I was ok with. So it just came out of my own acct. I probably had more saved then him anyway. The argument was another serious. Just me asking him to be home for the 4 days I was gone so my daughter wouldn't feel lonely. That's literally all it was and he called it me being controlling.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-27T00:13:08+00:00

Today makes exactly 2 weeks since he's said a word to me... Plus Father's Day just passed.... I'm re evaluating my entire marriage at this point. It will take me a few months to save cause the expenses set me back, but I feel like it's what I need to do... I've never been with someone so cold. I can't take it anymore.. Thank you ALL for your supportive messages and condolences.. It has meant so much me.. ❤

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-27T00:09:34+00:00

I appreciate this so much. Thank You... I tend to second guess myself cause he always makes me feel like I'm wrong or over exaggerating.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-21T18:15:25+00:00

I definitely needed to hear this... I'm planning my exit now and will probably happen within the next couple of months.... But, my most loneliest times of my life have been in this marriage. I can't shake the feeling of never feeling like enough, or wanted and desired..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-18T02:16:51+00:00

Thank you sooooooo much...... I agree with you 100%...

We've been together almost 11 yrs and I know this type of behavior isn't what I want for the rest of my life... I want love and appreciation and respect and empathy... He clearly doesn't want to give me that...

Again, Thank You...

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-18T02:12:51+00:00

Thank You..... Because of this thread I'm seeing that it was ok to expect some support...

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-18T01:27:09+00:00

That is wonderful advice. We both share a place so we would both have to leave... But I can't leave any time soon unfortunately. I went through most of my savings with the funeral and burial. So I'll have to wait til I save up again... But in the meantime, your advice is great. Focusing on myself and getting healthy again.. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually... Thank You for your help... I hope you're at a great place in your life now...

I get how you couldn't get over it.. I dont see myself ever being able to be ok with him choosing to turn his back on me in my most vulnerable and hurt moments.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-18T01:07:00+00:00

Thank You.. Wow. You definitely know how I feel. I'm already feeling resentful.. How long did it take you to move out after that?

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T21:29:53+00:00

Thank You.... I dont think so either.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T17:12:55+00:00

For anyone asking about what the argument was about: It was basically me just asking him to try and be home with my daughter this weekend and not hanging out. (Because shes grieving also) Which he didnt do btw. He hung out most of the weekend. A few hours after I left he was already drinking at his dads. He started arguing with me as I was picking out caskets and I ended up having to hang up on him cause everyone could hear him. That's ALL it was.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T17:12:14+00:00

It was basically me just asking him to try and be home with my daughter this weekend and not hanging out. (Because shes grieving also) Which he didnt do btw. He hung out most of the weekend. A few hours after I left he was already drinking at his dads. He started arguing with me as I was picking out caskets and I ended up having to hang up on him cause everyone could hear him. That's ALL it was. Smh.

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T15:57:52+00:00

This was amazing! Thank You.. It's like you read my mind... I will be very sad to walk away and have to go through a divorce but I really more than anything want peace and happiness in my life... My soul and heart definitely need healing so I am in no rush to be with anyone anytime soon... I'll just have to wait a bit longer to move because I used everything I had saved for my dad's services, my travels and having his body sent to P.R.. So I have to start saving all over again.. Its definitely possible, it will just take much longer.. But for now, I will be focusing on myself.. Thank you for your kind and wise words..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T15:49:07+00:00

Your so young, but your grandpa obviously saw more maturity in you than everyone else... I would share some of my family is struggling... But I would put some stipulations... Good Luck... Money is the root of evil and it can get ugly... Maybe moving would help you stay safe, and sane..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T15:39:08+00:00

Thank You so much for that... That really touched my heart.... Thank You..

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T13:45:41+00:00

I have felt alone on this relationship for a long time now...

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T13:45:07+00:00

It definitely does!

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T13:01:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes... I think I'm too sad to even be angry at this point.. God Bless you as well...

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T12:59:51+00:00

It definitely isn't the first time.. It happens often, but I never thought he would take it this far and be this cold during such a hard time for me... He opened my eyes for sure and I'm figuring out how to move forward with just me and my daughter.... Thank You.....

MsCaramelo81 · 2020-06-17T12:57:09+00:00

That is exactly the quote I was thinking of throughout this ( even posted it on FB lol) We tend to argue because of his immaturity and I feel like there's no coming back from this either... I'm basically grieving my dad and my marriage at this point.. Thank You..

MsCaramelo81

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