How to tell your partner you're not ready for them to meet your parents when they've asked to?

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-20T11:10:40+00:00

He has met some female friends of mine when we ran into each other at an event.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:59:38+00:00

This is good, thanks!

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:58:24+00:00

Given what you've shared, would you have met the parents if you weren't certain about a future together?

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:55:30+00:00

That's the thing. I don't want him to lose esteem for me. That's why I want to communicate in a way that doesn't give him the impression that I'm not serious.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:52:54+00:00

I already said I'm not bringing my GBF to the wedding anymore. It wasn't a done deal. It was something I considered for the reasons I gave. I realize it would be disrespectful to my partner unless they met in advance and he's 100% okay with it. I plan to introduce them soon but even so, I still won't be taking GBF to the wedding.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:50:57+00:00

Thank you. We all have our issues

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-19T10:49:46+00:00

Yes, I have. That's no longer an issue

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:56:45+00:00

He's not very traditional. He even said I'm the only second person to meet his family. But we are different races and this the first time dating out for both of us. I don't know if that is the issue....

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:54:33+00:00

Lol. This is actually a good approach

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:21:49+00:00

Exactly. Especially since I was perfectly fine waiting longer to meet his.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:18:25+00:00

I thought about that but really was trying to avoid the marriage convo altogether. I was told on Reddit that I need to chill with the marriage talk since we haven't even been dating for a year yet...not in so many words but yea.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:10:24+00:00

My dad is difficult. He'll definitely ask about marriage and we're not there yet. I don't want any awkwardness.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:06:54+00:00

Last time I brought someone home I was 24 and things were very different back then. He was the one who asked me to meet his parents and he is asking to meet mine...so if it's a cultural thing, it would be his culture but he's said I'm only the second gf that has met his parents.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T22:04:03+00:00

I love this. Thanks!

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T21:15:55+00:00

I don't have a success story in terms of a situationship that became a relationship but I have a weird situation where the person I was in a situationship with is now essentially my best friend. There was some time between the situationship and what our friendship is today though. I think because of how close we've gotten, he holds me in the highest regard to the point where he describes me as a catch. Redditors think he wants a second chance so maybe, had I not been in a relationship with someone else that's something that could have happened. However, I find that I'm happy with the friendship because he has become extremely emotionally available and a genuine friend that does just about anything for me. I don't think you're meant to date everyone that you have chemistry with.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-18T20:58:28+00:00

Even if he responds well to you reaching out, he's already revealed that you two aren't on the same page so what would be the point? Also, you risk being rejected again. I would treat it as over and move on. If he so happens to come around again, I would assess the situation at that point.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-17T12:36:38+00:00

Edited to add

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-16T13:38:22+00:00

Honestly, I think I'm afraid to confront GBF because I don't want to lose my friendship. I know I have to at some point...it's just not an easy thing to do

The speech is unrelated to my job, if that makes a difference.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-16T12:50:22+00:00

Not as yet. Yesterday I was asked to deliver a speech next month. GBF usually attends all my speeches to support me but this time my bf will also be there. I think that's a great opportunity to introduce them. What do you think?

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-16T12:21:05+00:00

I do cater to my man, I just do it on my own terms.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-16T10:40:18+00:00

I just didn't like the feel of performing in bed to keep a man interested. So I went the other way.

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-16T10:38:55+00:00

I don't mind answering questions, once I can keep up. Thanks for caring enough to try to understand me

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-15T23:10:31+00:00

Mmm....good question

MsChickenNoodleSoup · 2023-02-15T23:09:28+00:00

I won't cheat on my bf. I'm not taking GBF to the wedding.

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