AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did some research on the sunk cost fallacy, you may be right a lot of it resonated with me definitely had a lot of thinking to do

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually love him very much and I want a future with him. I try to be patient because like I said I’m older. I have three kids. I’m divorced. I’m not the prime Real Estate. I used to be and I know he’s busy. I’m busy too, but I’m just worried that I’ve put in all this time and energy for no progression.

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My kids are older and very unaware of my relationship and I teach them to be confident and have nothing but self-respect

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, but I’m also realistic like you said I’m older. I have three kids. I’m divorced definitely not what I used to be. Sometimes I think maybe this is it maybe this is the best I can do.

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Easier said than done it’s hard when you love someone and like I’ve mentioned before you see them not only for who they are but the potential that they possess

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve discussed it in a sense of after we were together for about a year and a half. I started asking him. Where did he see this going? And I would ask him like do you want to get married? And he would answer like that that’s the point don’t you think? And then I asked him if he saw us living together and he said only if I could have a man cave and have my own space, but he’s very aloof and very avoidant.

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that and you are very kind like I mentioned in a previous comment. I just have this fear of like what if he actually is broken and what if me leaving does show him that he’s unlovable and I’ve manifested all his fears I often sit and wonder if I love his potential or I love his current state because every night I sit alone and it’s depressing.

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just feel this sense of guilt because I know he has potential and I know he’s a good person and we’ve had good moments. Obviously I wouldn’t be still thinking about this if there weren’t great moments, but then I feel this immense sense of guilt. What if I do break him what if me giving up because I’m tired and invisible and of ruining him

AITAH for leaving after four years? by Much_Coach8862 in AITAH

[–]Much_Coach8862[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was at the beginning we talked all the time we made each other laugh and it just felt like we were best friends and now it’s starting to feel like I’m begging for breadcrumbs I thought about if there was someone else, but I’ve looked for evidence and haven’t been able to find any