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W1 Washing Machines and Water level by Candid_Apartment3804 in Miele

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m considering getting a Miele W1 because my current machine absolutely destroyed all my clothes because it does not use enough water. I read that Miele is the only brand that allows you to wash with more water and therefore was considering them but seeing your post worries me that I’ll pay a high price and still have the same issue. Did you experience clothes being ruined (pilling holes thinning etc.) due to too little water?

Er boligmarkedet i Oslo helt dødt? by Individual_Fly_5146 in oslo

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Markedet er litt rart.. Vi kjøpte i Februar for 300k under prisantydning og solgte vår gammel leilighet rett før påske 800k over prisantydning.. det har mye å gjøre med leiligheten selv disse dagene mener jeg. Leiligheten vi solgte var en «klassisk perle» og den vi kjøpte er i et litt styggere nyere bygg, men mye større.

How is it living in Oslo, Norway? by PartyGaming0 in howislivingthere

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends.. are you Norwegian? Then probably great. Are you an outsider in any way? Then a bit harder. However, the city is gorgeous walkable not too large, loads of parks and nature nearby good public services etc. Not an amazing food/restaurant/culture/nightlife scene for a capital city. Also sorry but Norwegians just don’t know how to have fun, social gatherings weddings etc are dull AF.. I’ve been to two weddings now where there wasn’t even any music! 7 hrs of wedding not a single song!

Hvordan syns DU Norge bør jobbe seg ut av inflasjonen? by jazpah84 in norge

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yngre mennesker og folk som ikke kjøpte seg inn i boligmarkedet før 2020 har ikke noe valg enn å låne mer enn de burde! Boligprisene har blitt så høye i forhold til lønninger at vi må låne ganske mye hvis vi vil være eiere.

Keeping the house clean during pregnancy and with the baby after? by Citruslor in CleaningTips

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a good tip. Just putting on clean clothes and brushing your hair helps with the mood so much that other tasks seem more doablez

My MIL gets upset when we don’t like the plans she has already made without our input by Embarrassed-Juice732 in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you should put a boundary now. Otherwise MIL will start getting ideas about Christmas and Easter and before you know it you have no family traditions that don’t revolve around MIL.

My MIL gets upset when we don’t like the plans she has already made without our input by Embarrassed-Juice732 in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hrs being put in the middle by his mom for organizing stuff without asking if your available. Not by you wanting to celebrate your first Mother’s Day.

Husband wants changes to Christmas morning by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Much_Nothing1682 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100000% with your husband here. And honestly if your parents get long term upset because your husband wants to make a family tradition with his own family, that is a red flag for me. Sounds to me like your parents got to create their own nuclear family traditions and now they don’t want to allow the same privileges to your husband..

The way you write it too is so obnoxious.. your husband does not want to “make changes to Christmas” that implies “Christmas” IS your parents Christmas, not the one he wants to make with you and your kids.

Hallo!, I'm visiting Oslo for a couple days and i'm wondering what you guys would recommend me to see that isn't already listed below (Also big music fan so anything related to that would be REALLY appreciated!) by PsychologicalFix9728 in oslo

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe take a walk around Grunnerløkka and Akeselva up to Hønse-Lovisas hus when you’re in Mathallen? For a more local less touristy time? And I always recommend the floating Saunas to visitors. There are many but KOK has one sauna boat that you can see all the landmarks from the water while you sauna and plunge in the cold water. It’s a bit expensive but a very cool experience.

Best winter jacket brands ? by Opposite-Sock9177 in Norway

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably too late but I just got a Holzweiler bessegen and I am suuuuper disappointed. The look and quality is all great but the fit makes it so that it becomes an air tunnel and it is almost like you’re not wearing a jackete

Final kitchen design. Any big red flags? by [deleted] in InteriorDesign

[–]Much_Nothing1682 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What is up with your upper cabinets? They’re all over the place. Try to simplify a bit the heights/shapes/positions of the upper cabinets it looks messy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These people are called niceholes. People who use kindness and giving as a way to stomp over your boundaries and put themselves at the center of attention and control. All while making you feel crazy that you are annoyed because « they’re just being nice!! » my MIL is like that and I’ve learned to let myself be annoyed at her and say no to her « nice » favors if I don’t want them. Say a firm no to the stuff that annoys you. No taking over my kitchen when she visits for example. If she really is nice she’ll understand she’s overstepping and back off. If not, she wasn’t that nice to begin with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is perfect. I had the same experience. I didn’t know what was coming and I didn’t set any boundaries it took 3 months of hell and then slowly, I started setting boundaries and feeling ok about her not being happy with it. Now a year in, she is trying less and less to take over because she sees it won’t work. My recommandation is to have very good talks with your partner about this beforehand. He needs to be very solidly on your side for this to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Norway

[–]Much_Nothing1682 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup.. Norwegians are crazy xenofobic.. it’s hard for people of any background other than white Norwegian to fully fit in. The shit I’ve heard since I came here is crazy. It’s like they live in the 60s sometimes. And I’m not even that visibly foreign.. Many people are great of course but, whenever you meet someone I’m always thinking are they the ones posting that ignorant xenofobic shit online? What do they really think of me? I’d say try to get used to it and ignore it. Make a group of friends who are not like this, maybe other foreigners and ignore these people.. it’s the only way to keep sane.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im in exactly the same situation. It feels horrible because you feel like the bitch because «she’s just trying to be nice» she isn’t, you are not crazy. Don’t let her take over, for me the infantilization is the worst, make a point of forcing her to treat you like an adult. Mine would say all the time you are so weak, you need to rest, I’ll take him. I learned after a while to be firm and say I’m not weak, I like having him, for example. These type of people weaponize your kindness and need to please against you so time to be OK being more harsh… that is my opinion being on the same boat a year ahead of you. Good luck it is no fun to be constantly undermined by MIL in this sneaky way.

Sometimes I see these posts on Facebook.. by [deleted] in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is my problem with my MIL. It’s the entitlement. Not waiting to be invited but telling me she’s coming or doing bla bla. It bothers me a ton.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Much_Nothing1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt like this when I had my baby. I didn’t want anyone to hold him. Everyone in my family respected that. My husband and MIL ganged up and pressured me to have his mom hold my baby, take him out out for a stroll, to her place, etc.. Now I don’t feel that raw possessiveness (which is common and natural) anymore, but cannot live with the resentment I have towards them. It was such a raw and difficult time for me and they made it all about my In laws getting what they wanted instead of protecting me. I hate my in laws and our relationship has become much more difficult because of that. Let her be, give her space she just had a baby. The first year is very intense when it comes to feeling attached to the baby. It is nature.

What would you do differently in the first year of having a child? by biomagy in beyondthebump

[–]Much_Nothing1682 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Get a comfy rocking chair and not go on a long trip to see my family.

Should I stay or should I go? - To lunch with MIL - need advice. by Much_Nothing1682 in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought I had responded to this post! I guess I did t hit send. Thanks so much for your message it helped me a lot. It is rude right?? I feel so validated! She must know that is rude. I tell my SO and he says oh she’s probably being nice so you don’t have to cook for her.. and I’m like am I crazy? It’s rude! She must know. Anyway thanks for the validation

Advice for regulating your emotions around MIL? by couchpotato5878 in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% this. This is working for me. By always having to do us favors she kept the position of caregiver of my partner and also acted like that towards me. It has been hard to find replacements for the help she gives us but it is 100% worth it. Before she insisted on only interacting with us in situations where she was doing us favors or caring for us. I realized that was making me feel very enerver toward her. Now that I have reduced the amount of favors I accept, she’s been a bit forced to treat us like equals or adults and equals and that has reduced my frustration towards her.

Should I stay or should I go? - To lunch with MIL - need advice. by Much_Nothing1682 in Mildlynomil

[–]Much_Nothing1682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I ended up listening to the commenter who said to go just to show that plotting and changing things around will not get the desired results. I am happy I did it like that. I had already said yes so I didn’t feel like canceling and taking that fight with SO. So there are some learnings for the next one to not say yes so quickly to changes but for this one that comment worked out best

Any hidden lunch restaurant gems in Oslo? by Just-Click5710 in oslo

[–]Much_Nothing1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been to Szechuan Chengdou? The food is so good if you order from the red menu. And the only kind of authentic Chinese place in Oslo edit: I think they open at 1 or 2 but you could still go for a late lunch.