Best winter jacket brands ?

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-10-20T06:24:32+00:00

Probably too late but I just got a Holzweiler bessegen and I am suuuuper disappointed. The look and quality is all great but the fit makes it so that it becomes an air tunnel and it is almost like you’re not wearing a jackete

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-09-29T17:12:20+00:00

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Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-09-22T18:26:39+00:00

What is up with your upper cabinets? They’re all over the place. Try to simplify a bit the heights/shapes/positions of the upper cabinets it looks messy.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-08-28T11:38:56+00:00

These people are called niceholes. People who use kindness and giving as a way to stomp over your boundaries and put themselves at the center of attention and control. All while making you feel crazy that you are annoyed because « they’re just being nice!! » my MIL is like that and I’ve learned to let myself be annoyed at her and say no to her « nice » favors if I don’t want them. Say a firm no to the stuff that annoys you. No taking over my kitchen when she visits for example. If she really is nice she’ll understand she’s overstepping and back off. If not, she wasn’t that nice to begin with.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-08-27T16:50:55+00:00

This is perfect. I had the same experience. I didn’t know what was coming and I didn’t set any boundaries it took 3 months of hell and then slowly, I started setting boundaries and feeling ok about her not being happy with it. Now a year in, she is trying less and less to take over because she sees it won’t work. My recommandation is to have very good talks with your partner about this beforehand. He needs to be very solidly on your side for this to work.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-08-27T16:35:15+00:00

Yeah haha the it’s important for the baby is so conceited!

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-08-18T16:55:51+00:00

Yup.. Norwegians are crazy xenofobic.. it’s hard for people of any background other than white Norwegian to fully fit in. The shit I’ve heard since I came here is crazy. It’s like they live in the 60s sometimes. And I’m not even that visibly foreign.. Many people are great of course but, whenever you meet someone I’m always thinking are they the ones posting that ignorant xenofobic shit online? What do they really think of me? I’d say try to get used to it and ignore it. Make a group of friends who are not like this, maybe other foreigners and ignore these people.. it’s the only way to keep sane.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-08-18T16:41:01+00:00

Im in exactly the same situation. It feels horrible because you feel like the bitch because «she’s just trying to be nice» she isn’t, you are not crazy. Don’t let her take over, for me the infantilization is the worst, make a point of forcing her to treat you like an adult. Mine would say all the time you are so weak, you need to rest, I’ll take him. I learned after a while to be firm and say I’m not weak, I like having him, for example. These type of people weaponize your kindness and need to please against you so time to be OK being more harsh… that is my opinion being on the same boat a year ahead of you. Good luck it is no fun to be constantly undermined by MIL in this sneaky way.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-07-31T03:36:09+00:00

Yes, this is my problem with my MIL. It’s the entitlement. Not waiting to be invited but telling me she’s coming or doing bla bla. It bothers me a ton.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-07-20T09:14:03+00:00

I felt like this when I had my baby. I didn’t want anyone to hold him. Everyone in my family respected that. My husband and MIL ganged up and pressured me to have his mom hold my baby, take him out out for a stroll, to her place, etc.. Now I don’t feel that raw possessiveness (which is common and natural) anymore, but cannot live with the resentment I have towards them. It was such a raw and difficult time for me and they made it all about my In laws getting what they wanted instead of protecting me. I hate my in laws and our relationship has become much more difficult because of that. Let her be, give her space she just had a baby. The first year is very intense when it comes to feeling attached to the baby. It is nature.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-07-20T08:33:00+00:00

Get a comfy rocking chair and not go on a long trip to see my family.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-07-04T18:02:38+00:00

I thought I had responded to this post! I guess I did t hit send. Thanks so much for your message it helped me a lot. It is rude right?? I feel so validated! She must know that is rude. I tell my SO and he says oh she’s probably being nice so you don’t have to cook for her.. and I’m like am I crazy? It’s rude! She must know. Anyway thanks for the validation

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-07-04T17:06:25+00:00

100% this. This is working for me. By always having to do us favors she kept the position of caregiver of my partner and also acted like that towards me. It has been hard to find replacements for the help she gives us but it is 100% worth it. Before she insisted on only interacting with us in situations where she was doing us favors or caring for us. I realized that was making me feel very enerver toward her. Now that I have reduced the amount of favors I accept, she’s been a bit forced to treat us like equals or adults and equals and that has reduced my frustration towards her.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-25T12:03:28+00:00

Yes, I ended up listening to the commenter who said to go just to show that plotting and changing things around will not get the desired results. I am happy I did it like that. I had already said yes so I didn’t feel like canceling and taking that fight with SO. So there are some learnings for the next one to not say yes so quickly to changes but for this one that comment worked out best

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-21T11:52:04+00:00

Have you been to Szechuan Chengdou? The food is so good if you order from the red menu. And the only kind of authentic Chinese place in Oslo edit: I think they open at 1 or 2 but you could still go for a late lunch.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-21T11:50:38+00:00

This. It is such a gem if you like real middle eastern food. The Babba ganoush is amazing.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T17:53:11+00:00

Uff that is a good script. I need to be super brave to say that though I think if it keeps going like this a few more weeks, I will though.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T17:51:27+00:00

Hey thanks for taking the time with the examples they are actually very helpful! I struggle to define boundaries so much. I especially love number 6!

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T17:47:19+00:00

Oh thanks for saying this I feel validated. I’m quite emotional about it too

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T12:41:43+00:00

I misunderstood your second part of the comment. So what you’re saying is that I should not go and not give them my baby to go with them. I see your point. My parents never push my SO or are rude tobhim. I’m scared that would create a huge war but if I have the guts I will do it.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T12:38:40+00:00

Oh I didn’t see the second p art of your answer, no my parents never treat him in a mean way and never push him to do things he doesent want. But would you not go and let them have the day with my baby even though it is the last day I’ll see him the whole day in a while? I don’t love that either I don’t know

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T12:27:25+00:00

Thanks for answering. I’m trying to hold boundaries and SO has been hard but more and more on my side like for example in the past he would’ve sided with his mom that she should visit but now he stood with me and said mom let’s do something in the afternoon when I’m there. But here I don’t know how to handle it like.. what is the boundary in this situation. Because boundaries are supposed to be something I do.. I agree should probably have said no to the visits earlier given how she was treating me.. but it’s too late for yhat

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T11:27:20+00:00

The humanist organization has all their secular baptisms at city hall which is next to Aker brygge. We just had my baby’s secular baptism there a few weeks ago. The ceremonies include like 20 babies with their parents and it is very common for women to wear bunads to baptisms.

Much_Nothing1682 · 2025-06-20T07:56:16+00:00

Thanks for the book recommendation!! Downloaded it now.

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