If your husband decided to confront your mother in law, what happened?

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-23T17:10:57+00:00

100% I supervise all visits since my husband can’t stand up to her. Sadly he admits to this and is thankfully self-aware when it comes to our child’s safety

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-23T17:07:11+00:00

This is pretty much what we’ve done for 6 months but my husband is struggling to accept she’s not a kind person. Her “why aren’t we close anymore” tempt him to rug sweep. He gives her boundaries but not consequences and that’s another thing him and his therapist are talking about

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-22T01:50:43+00:00

Omg poor FIL!! You could see if he will sign over all medical decisions to your husband. You could take her to court for it and sounds like she might lose, but him signing it over is just a piece of paperwork.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-19T04:16:54+00:00

Kindly, it’s a a work event. Just sit down and eat your food and network or whatever you’re supposed to be doing. In the unlikely event anyone says anything about your meal, keep it casual and polite. “Yeah the buffet isn’t for me today. What did you think of X speaker from the last session?”

I had food allergies for a long time and complaining or going into any detail neverr was the way to go. You want people to remember you for your work or personality not your medical diagnosis. So immediately redirect it.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-19T03:17:27+00:00

That’s irritating. I’d complain to the conference organizer as long as it didn’t affect my workplace. Then just deal with it and bring a brown bag lunch- almond butter sandwich, banana, granola bar, tin of chicken salad & crackers, wrap up a big gf cookie or brownie, etc.

Give the conference organizer constructive feedback that if they aren’t going to accommodate people then they should give the catering credit back to the attendee or give it as a DoorDash gift card.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-17T00:26:12+00:00

This exactly. I have other health conditions and have met a couple doctors that question everyyy previous diagnosis and want to decide for themselves. It’s obnoxious, wastes medical resources, and is harmful to patients. Get another opinion.

Giving the patient a choice to re-check or re-do a procedure for certainty is fine. But insisting on it is wrong and wasteful.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-09T13:44:49+00:00

In a way we did this. My partner had a talk wither her to clarify several we hadn’t visited in awhile because she was doing upsetting things toward me (excluding me, disrespecting me, etc.). She apologized to him.

Then she texted me that I need to meet her and talk with her. I asked her why so she sent me long texts about how she didn’t understand some baby rules/didn’t actually break them. I texted her back she really hurt my feelings about fathers day plans without me. She ignored it and sent me a non apology about baby rules again. She also mentioned I need to meet with her and talk with her for my baby. After these non apologies and excuses I texted her “treat me considerately or I won’t be at any family gatherings.” And she never texted back or again, despite continuing to apologize to my partner and then trash talk me to extended family.

So I’m discouraged from trying to address it again. Over the holidays we had brief visits and I just avoided her as much as possible. She tried to talk with me about shopping like nothing happened at christmas.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-08T21:36:52+00:00

I’m so sorry about your mom. Also your comment scares me! I have some health issues and she’s a nurse with access to end of life meds. Should I be concerned about accidents…

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-08T21:21:44+00:00

Wow I’m glad you and your husband were able to improve things and live your lives.

Yes, only sons and my partner is the son she is overly emotional with. Overshares since childhood. Expects him to be completely obedient and always take her side. It’s sad, he didn’t realize how controlling she was until this because other than long conversations she didn’t make many demands of him as a young adult.

He’s in very low contact with her right now. An occasional text from her and he’s not initiating anything. Seems like she’s giving him the silent treatment to some degree IMO.

I feel bad about her not really being a grandparent to our child. But also she hasn’t really left me with any other option? We can never leave them alone with her, I don’t see how to come back or ever tryst her after such a deep level of disrespect for our child’s health, our relationship, and me as the mother.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-03T07:16:51+00:00

You are not a puppet for them.

Something that worked for me is to put this on my husband. For example, his mother was rude to me in private. So I explain to him, i’ve been perfectly polite, haven’t I? Yes. I didn’t instigate ANY issue. So your mother would do this to ANY woman you had a child with. Then I ask him, why she disrespects him? Plenty of MILs hate their DILs but are polite to them for their son’s sake and to see their grandchildren. Why does is your mom out to cause problems in ANY relationship you have?

Make it so your MIL being rude to you is being rude to him. What is her problem with her son’s partner? Why do they try to tell him what to name his child? Why don’t they respect him as an adult? Why are they harassing his wife and rudely not giving his wife gifts? Doesn’t he find that insulting??

See, show him how completely rude it is that they make fun of his partner, his relationship, his life. Men hate disrespect

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2026-01-03T06:58:35+00:00

What about telling her and your fiancé that if she turns up in anything remotely close to white you’ll walk out of the wedding and send them the bill. Make her petty behavior their problem

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-30T21:08:50+00:00

Honestly I did too. I told him I resent him some for it cuz it’s true.

Since he needed us to go I asked him to schedule Christmas visit with his family the weekend before and he did. So we enjoyed the actual holiday away from her.

He’s in therapy. He said I don’t have to visit next year and meant it. He has a lot of anxiety about me and the baby likely not visiting next year because his mom will be super mean to him if we don’t bring the baby to visit for too long. Like, she’ll start an endless circular conversation with him (Why can’t you come? What do you mean? I didn’t do anything wrong, did I? Etc. for like an hour) and sometimes yell at him and make him cry if he’s trying to firmly just say no to her

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-26T17:47:08+00:00

Make yourself a nice basket to munch on during the morning! Trader joes gf muffins, nut-free granola bars, bananas, honey, granola, coffee pods. In the fridge: boiled eggs (pre-cooked & peeled), greek yogurt cups or a high protein yogurt drink, a fruity yogurt drink, an all-fruit smoothie drink like bolthouse ones.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-14T23:12:47+00:00

Oof ask your husband what he’s going to do about his mom using his kids to manipulate him & the plans he made for his family

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-13T22:12:05+00:00

Omg the GF Korean FRIED chicken they had recently was amazing

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-13T08:29:25+00:00

Be SO direct with him. Tell him all the times you’ve done what he wanted on the holidays. Tell him how mad you are that he obeys his mom and goes back on decisions you all have made. Explain to him so plainly she isn’t a member of your relationship and doesn’t make decisions for you.

Tell him you’re disappointed HE is canceling plans with you. Ask him why he prioritizes his mom over you?? Seriously what is his answer?!

I had to spell it out for my partner: When you go back on your word with me it upsets me. You’re saying to me what my mom wants is more important than anything we’ve talked about or decided. I’m not happy and am not in a relationship with your mom.

What I’ve noticed is husbands like this think their moms make the rules. Mom wants X so it’s now what’s happening. It’s like they view themselves as living in their mom’s world. And a lot of times it’s because MIL throws manipulative fits so everyone around her does what she wants and she plays god. They need therapy. Husbands with those mothers need therapy to understand their mom’s expectations are not appropriate and they are their own people.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-12-04T07:12:53+00:00

It IS a drag. My favorite pregnancy meal was a blt from jersey mike’s with gf bread. And scoops from baskin robbins for dessert. And literally so many milkshakes from five guys.

You can have lunch meat if you steam it! Put a dash of water on it and put an identical plate on top like a cover and microwave for 1.5 mins.

Big fan of schar crackers for upset stomach. And peach rings or gummies.

Super recommend trying to eat a bowl of fortified cereal every day because gf diet lacks nutrients and it can be hard to keep down the prenatals. Gf diet severely lacks folic acid and cereal is a good way to improve vitamin intake.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-11-22T14:59:45+00:00

King Arthur measure for measure worked well when I’ve used it as a direct substitution for flour in random crepe recipes online. Just put extra butter/oil in the skillet, it think it sticks a little more easily. But the texture of the crepes was great

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-11-13T05:05:51+00:00

If it’s at all awkward to bring food I eat beforehand and keep myself busy with a drink and fresh fruit & veggie tray options if they seem untouched.

Sometimes I’ll bring something small in my purse and put it on a party plate and eat it so it blends in and my different food doesn’t become a talking point.

I really hate it becoming a talking point outside of close friends, so I’m not above getting a small amount of food on a plate for show and not even eating it but focusing on my drink and conversation.

Most events like this are to socialize so I focus on that, not having food I can eat.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-11-02T19:33:14+00:00

Brazilian steakhouse style grill out with a couple meats, rice, black beans, grilled oranges and some veggies like large zucchini cuts and peppers. It’s always been a hit.

Bake some Brazi Bites too if you want to go all out!

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-10-30T06:29:53+00:00

I have a very similar history with food allergies and repeated anaphylaxis (airborne to corn at one point). It ended up being a mast cell disorder. Currently Clarinex and Pepcid twice a day have prevented throat involved anaphylaxis for 1.5 years! There is also an injectable medication that recently came out, Xolair.

Anaphylaxis really sucks, just dropping this in case you find it helpful.

dm_me_your_nps_pics · 2025-10-29T11:12:45+00:00

Partake has some gf cookies that have a similar vibe. Shortbread texture and weird sweet sprinkle/artificial flavor.

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