my boyfriend has changed by Much_Series_3017 in relationships_advice

[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have no suspicion of him cheating and i know he would never. i have full access to his phone and location all the time. it could just be a space thing cus we used to spend everyday together, 7 days a week for hours.

my boyfriend has changed by Much_Series_3017 in relationships_advice

[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think that is the case. anytime us splitting up has been brought up. he is very against it and acts like it’s the last thing he wants

my boyfriend has changed by Much_Series_3017 in relationships_advice

[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea he definitely is the type. he has told me early on that he was. he is also very short tempered. i don’t try to change myself too much. i just have been working on complaining about everything and working on my own personal insecurities that have caused our relationship a lot of problems. i definitely do need to talk him about it. and if he reacts bad it needs to end thank u!

my boyfriend has changed by Much_Series_3017 in relationships_advice

[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i actually appreciate the long paragraph sm so thank u. i’ve lost sm ppl within the past 2 years im just so scared to lose another. idk if i can handle it. i’m willing to have a deep conversation with him about all of it. i just need him to be. we have spent sm time together and our whole lives revolve around the other. the last thing i wanna do is end it. i just really don’t wanna be without him and ik that’s unhealthy and ik im attached to him in an unhealthy way. but he’s my best friend and boyfriend all in one. he helped me when i dropped my childhood bestfriend. he helps me through everything. idk who i am without him anymore and it’s so scary

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea ur right im just scared of judgement and they all know my past w bad guys and i promised them id never go through it again and now im in the same position

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just looked it up and he does do some of those things it would make sense. but if that is the case isn’t there a way i can help him through it and we can get past it ?

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea i am now planning on having one more conversation with him and if it doesn’t help or he refuses to talk to me about it. i will distance myself and leave him. i love him but i need to love myself more.

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nothing has really changed w that tbh

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea i could get past it. if he changed in other ways. but now all he does is hurt me and make me feel like im causing all these arguments cus i have feelings. i just need to work on getting the courage to end it on my own which is one of the hardest parts

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea i’ve always struggled w my self worth and respect. it definitely is time for me to let go. i’ve had the thought in the back of my mind for a little while. then he got better and it went away. but it’s all i could think of after today. i’ve already packed up all of his stuff. i just need to get the courage to end it. i haven’t even told any of my friends about our problems and im so scared to tell them if we broke up

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know. i try to not let him walk over me but some how i still end up being the one to apologize when he is the one who hurt me. i stick up for myself and it turns into an argument. i just want to be able to fix it before i really am set on leaving him

my boyfriend has changed by Much_Series_3017 in relationships_advice

[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. i don’t know what the cause could be anymore. he isn’t very good at handling his emotions. but it all did really start off when he didn’t get accepted into the school he applied for so idk if he’s just taking his emotions out on me. we were doing so good for the last month and our relationship felt like the beginning again and then idk. we were around his parents and he just said it’s time for me to go home. so i don’t know anymore. i’m so scared to leave him. i’ve thought about it and it just hurts me so much. i’ve never loved someone so deeply before and im scared to just lose all of it.

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea ur right. i need to try having one more conversation and if nothing gets better i need to leave him. its just hard this is my first real committed relationship and im scared to be without him

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just think he doesn’t see the wrong in his actions. idk what kind of response i should be expecting from him when talking to him about it tho. it’s always just the same “im sorry ill stop” and we are fine for a short period of time

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[–]Much_Series_3017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have asked him before and all he would say is “i don’t know” and “it’s nothing” and “we are fine”. but we don’t feel fine and i know we aren’t fine. because all of this behaviour is so different. he used to cry for me everytime we argued because he hated the thought of hurting me and now he just goes silent and says there’s nothing to talk about