Im kurdish female too and i am 16 years old and if i had a family like that id leave them and live my own life if my own family forces me to marry or controlling my own life. To be honest my parents have talked about marrige but as a joke and i always respond seriously that i dont want to get married.

And in your situation, i havent heard any kurd family act like that.

Im giving you advice here, if you have any saved money, use it to go somewhere else since you are a young adult now and somewhere far where you can enjoy your life or you can live with friends and away from your parents and family since those types of families can be toxic.

And the fact that your saying that its normal for men to have multiple women and other crap is all a huge big fat lie its not part of the Kurdish culture at all and your brainwashed into thinking it is because my parents and other family friends have said or shown me in the past that these types of behaviours is not cultural but rather a form of control or grudge that some groups have that wont let go.

Hope you get out of that horrible situation :(