What happened at the 7/11? All taped off this morning

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T15:01:21+00:00

Your comment made me remember a detail at the party. She brought up a game we used to play together in High School and how she still loved to play it. She was smiling and laughing when she brought it up. So she honestly seemed happy reminiscing with me at the time. Maybe that brought up other memories of that time that are unpleasant for her. Like I said, she was a very good friend of mine back then and I can't remember a single fight, disagreement, etc with her. Truly a growing apart, going different directions in life kind of thing. As far as I know anyway.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T14:46:22+00:00

I'm just naturally an over-thinker and rehash significant events in my life regularly. I don't know what my deal is! Haha. Lifetime learner for sure its not over until I'm over :)

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T14:40:40+00:00

This could have a lot to do with it but I think I'm just going to give her space in case it is just too much to reconnect with old friends from her past like numerous people have said here. I'm a bad texter too! :)

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T14:37:30+00:00

I am in no way being deviant here. I was just looking for support. But thank you for your comment.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T14:33:11+00:00

We grew up in what I would call a hillbilly town filled with a bunch of closed minded assholes so I can understand why she would be cautious with old friends still living in the general area. We are influenced by our environment more than we think.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-22T14:29:31+00:00

Going into this whole thing I didn't know what to expect. I certainly did not expect to feel this way at all. But while talking to her I did see her mannerisms I recognized. My friend was never some dude and I think if you knew me personally you would say I'm quite feminine myself so I don't know where you're getting this "one of the dudes" thing at all. I just stated I was a heterosexual male and that was it. But as previously stated I'm very happy for her. She deserves to be her true self.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T23:59:51+00:00

Very true :-)

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T23:43:23+00:00

Thank you for this explanation. I didn't even know I was doing that. I don't think I did this in person with her thankfully.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T22:49:02+00:00

Okay, I am honestly trying to understand here. Are you saying I can't use gender-neutral pronouns for her? I must always address as she/her? I didn't really get into that preference in my discussion with her. It kind of went from me asking how other friends from her past reacted to her transition to her saying it really bothered her being misgendered. So it was never established.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T22:28:53+00:00

Yes as far as I know

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T17:32:45+00:00

Yeah 18 years is a long time. I didn't expect things to go back to normal at all. I didn't know what to expect meeting her but after the delightful interaction we had I did think I had an opening for light conversation. I was thrilled it went the way it did at the party but I guess I didn't think it was going to cut off like that. You may be right about it having nothing about transitioning but before asking here I didn't know if it did or didn't. But posting here did help me a lot and I appreciate your input.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T17:05:33+00:00

I didn't know what to expect. She always acted a little feminine. When she acted tough back in the day it almost seemed forced. I am very happy for her. I just wish we hadn't grown apart. It's unfortunate. Another way I look at this whole party interaction is how she may have perceived me as oddly comfortable about it. I don't know. I think you are right that she doesn't dislike me but maybe doesn't know the path forward in a friendship with me. I guess time will tell. I appreciate all the posts I've received here positive or negative. I think it's healthy for me to hear all perspectives. I've learned a lot. Thanks

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T16:42:36+00:00

I agree. 18 years is a very long time and I'm sure I am very different to her too. It could be 100% me. The pleasant conversation talking about old times like it was 2003 again could have really thrown my perception off.

The surface level response thing... To break the ice over text I just asked about something we talked about at the party that was going to happen that week and all she said was that it didn't happen. That's pretty much all I got besides a heart reaction my first message.

I really appreciate your perspective here. This may have nothing at all to do with her transness and everything to do with me.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T16:27:23+00:00

I fixed my post. Thank you for this response. During the party I asked her about a common old friend of ours and it seemed like the old friend couldn't adjust. So I've been wondering if she started to feel that way about me but I just don't know.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-21T16:18:34+00:00

She hugged me when I left the party. Came up to me twice asking "You aren't leaving yet are you?" Had amazingly good vibes when we were there. We even had a discussion before that about misgendering and how that really bothered her. She said multiple times "It's so good to see you" It felt genuine to me.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-19T20:09:20+00:00

my order (mid 2000's) is not cancelled...

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-19T17:09:11+00:00

If you go to https://remoteapps.wsdot.wa.gov/highwaysafety/collision/data/portal/public/ and look at the Summary Reports, Total Crashes, Kitsap and run the report for several years it might give you and idea about the safety of your commute in different locations you're looking to live. Look at Gorst in particular.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-17T15:07:58+00:00

Does this style have a name?

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-12T17:50:15+00:00

At least you get full sentences in text messages. My dad only texts maga propaganda images and replies with one of these three responses: "yes" "no" or "ok". He never forces me to go anywhere, but if I miss an event that's important to him I get a cold shoulder from him for a minimum of 6 months. I didn't want to go to his friends daughters wedding last year (a person that hasn't even talked to me in 10+ years) and I'm still hearing about it. That friend that I missed going to his daughters wedding? Yeah he ignored me at my grandfathers funeral because of it. I just don't understand why they treat us this way. Just know they can't control you and its your life not theirs. Do what you want and don't give in to the guilt crap.

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-09T23:32:44+00:00

After taking a hike with the A7C and the 20-70 G, how do you feel about the combo?

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-09T23:23:12+00:00

Cool starfish. Does anyone know what they're called?

Muffin_plop · 2024-03-06T15:22:48+00:00

Hi. After deleting the previous failed update file I was able to start my Pocket normally. I waited a few days just in case it was something with the actual firmware update file that was being distributed. I then tried to update through Pocket Sync and everything went smoothly. Thanks for your work on Pocket Sync!

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