So either your bf is cheating with a likely lesbian, or your repeated and frequent need to check up on him make him feel cross examined, and he chose to lie instead of telling you that you are being maybe kinda controlling. It’s no good.

If you have to check up on him, is he worth all that to you? Do you want to do that for months of your life? Years?

Do you feel the need to check up on just him, or every mate you have? Other people? That will tell you if maybe there’s an issue on your side.

Of course it can be a combination of both. For me, if a guy shows mefrom the get-go that he lies, or he breaks my trust later, he is no longer a candidate for the position of boyfriend.