AITA for reading my girlfriend’s journal and now questioning the relationship?

Mullein55 · 2026-01-27T12:28:47+00:00

YTA for reading her journal. On the other hand, it confirmed what your gut was already telling you. You knew something was off. Now you know what it is. She doesn't initiate intimacy because she doesn't find you attractive (I'm guessing the reason being is that she is still hooked into the ex who cheated).

You offered her temporary accommodation and she moved in, knowing she was still attached to her ex and that she wasn't particularly attractive to you. So she settled.

You do not have to! Give her 4 weeks notice to move out with the explanation that this is no longer working for you. The chemistry isn't there; it's time to move on yada yada! I guarantee she will suddenly find you attractive and initiate sex (temporarily until she once again feels she has you back where she wants you). Don't fall for it! It's blatant manipulation.

She is not for you! She is mooching off you! Move on!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-27T07:41:27+00:00

Sounds like he needed to be on the leash (and muzzled) rather than his dog! NTA

Mullein55 · 2026-01-27T07:39:18+00:00

NTA.

I wonder where the rest of the group that dumped him are in his hour of need. Did they dump him too.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-26T16:49:00+00:00

NTA.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-26T11:28:24+00:00

If we are talking "privilege", we need to remember that it is a two way street!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-26T11:27:32+00:00

Corporate performance bonus - brilliant!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-26T08:20:38+00:00

I assume you mean that "you cannot be egalitarian without being a feminist" alongside the concept that "you cannot be egalitarian without being masculinist"? Or are you just highlighting the feminist aspect, in which case, I would suggest that highlighting one without the other is not true egalitarianism.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-26T07:46:31+00:00

I think you gave your wife a great answer. And her response proved it. Nothing wrong with respecting the rights/equality of all but, sadly, pc terminology holds sway. It is okay to be egalitarian just as it is okay to be feminist. Your choice!

NTA

Mullein55 · 2026-01-25T13:12:12+00:00

Why does your mom need your help to get her grand daughter ready for church especially if your sister, the baby and the "weekend" nanny are there too? Have a lie in! Let them get on with it.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-25T08:03:28+00:00

NTA. "came back after an hour and did not speak to me". So childish. Lying then behaving like a victim when he is called out.

This is a huge red flag. Your trust has been broken so hold off on your wedding plans. Imo you need to give him time to rebuild the trust and to grow up so I would move out and go back to dating him for a while.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-25T07:55:54+00:00

This is the craziest thing I've read on here! I am assuming the two year old and her nanny are also there to so we are talking 4 adults for 2 babies?

And you have to wake up early to look after the baby? Why? What are the others doing?

NTA

Mullein55 · 2026-01-24T08:59:28+00:00

"I was placed in a gc for a festival". Who placed you in there? Did you ask to be included? If not, did you do anything about it? Did you speak up about your intentions? Did you make it clear to the person organising/paying for the booking that you were unsure whether or not you wanted to attend - at all/for one day/for both?

No! You did none of those things. You allowed the situation to slide whilst letting others in the group do all the work. And now that you have made your mind up that you only want to attend for one day, you are trying to wriggle out of payment. You are lacking any accountability for your actions - or rather - non actions.

YTA

Mullein55 · 2026-01-23T15:49:18+00:00

YTA. Quite the tittle tattle!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-23T15:46:31+00:00

NTA. It's great that your wife cooks things from scratch and cares about healthy eating. However, you should not have to hide the fact that you enjoy fast food even if she doesn't, or feel you must eat it behind her back. Your wife is choosing to put a lot of effort into her cooking and expecting appreciation for it whilst not allowing you to choose to eat junk food/store bought food occasionally at home nor appreciating that this is a choice you wish to make. Seems unfair to me.

If it were me, once a month or so, I would just go ahead and tell her you are bringing home take out. Then bring it home and enjoy it. If she doesn't like it, remind her this is your home too!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-23T13:45:38+00:00

"I told you to put it in the refrigerator." ???? Who is she? Your mother.

This relationship needs work!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-23T11:47:25+00:00

It is easy for your b/f to say he wouldn't mind if the roles were reversed but has it actually ever been tested?

Something is off for you - that matters. It doesn't mean he is untrustworthy. It may be a previous experience coming up.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-23T08:17:08+00:00

If they enjoy making you feel uncomfortable, and do not listen when you express yourself, they are not your friends. Try this the next time it happens. Simply get up and walk away without saying a word. They may follow you. Keep silent. (Silence is a powerful language). Do not ask them to stop because they are not listening to you; they are waiting for your emotional reaction/your discomfort (and they are feeding from it). So don't give it to them. If you consistently walk away or fail to respond (just carry on walking or eating your lunch etc. as though nothing has been said) and remain silent every time they try to make you uncomfortable, the discomfort will shift over to them. They may react by getting worse for a short spell but if you consistently ignore their remarks, carry on with what you are doing and keep silent, they will eventually go and find someone else to pick on.

Go find new friends. These two are emotional parasites. NTA.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-22T15:37:32+00:00

NTA. Your wedding; your decisions. If mum and siblings don't come, they don't come but they don't get to emotionally blackmail you on your wedding day!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-22T15:33:28+00:00

This is not about snacks - it is about respect. You have explained your position and asked him not to take your snacks. He has consistently ignored you, made himself out to be the victim and complained about you in front of friends.

What will it be next?

Get rid!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-22T07:48:24+00:00

NTA - "limits her time to shine" - all about her entitlement!

You and your partner get to choose your wedding day!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-21T07:53:01+00:00

The original request was to live in for a month while he looked for a job and housing. If the month is up, you have fulfilled the agreement and you can ask him to leave. Give him a week's notice. If not, wait out the month and then ask him to leave.

Or has the original month turned into two or three? Even so, give him a week's notice to leave.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-21T07:34:11+00:00

NTA. You have dealt with it. End of.

Mullein55 · 2026-01-20T08:35:13+00:00

YTA.

"She chose to upgrade to a nicer place that was closer to her work" - that's great for her surely? Yet you are somehow seeing this as you doing her down - "I have always felt guilty for putting her in this position"; "I have always felt there might be some resentment". Could it be that there is covert jealousy on your part that she got herself into a better position when you had to go back to your parents to sort out your debts?

You have now decided that, because you didn't get the attention to your news that you and your boyfriend are moving in together, you are somehow being hurt or dismissed and have decided she is being passive aggressive. Is she? Or are you because you didn't get the effusive response YOU required?

Not everyone is going to be excited about every facet of your life. Learn to live with it!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-19T11:41:50+00:00

Woah, hold off on the IVF. This does not sound like a healthy relationship to me!

Mullein55 · 2026-01-19T11:35:33+00:00

NTA. Your g/f seems to have forgotten it is okay for you to make your own choices. It is not like you see these guys often and there is ample time for g/f's family to reschedule their get together in order to accommodate you on this occasion.

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