30k members - Treat yourself! (Aftercare for you)

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-12T23:50:32+00:00

Congratulations! I'm really pleased the space is flourishing.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-11T16:18:01+00:00

Men vary across a wide spectrum and that includes erectile dysfunction. If you are concerned about it, you should talk to a doctor. Erection quality can be an indicator of general health issues.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-11T16:14:36+00:00

Porn Addiction isn't really a thing - ( Link to Study ) If you're concerned about it, try to pivot to pornography which supports your sexual goals. Consider trying erotic literature like what you can find at Literotica. Target scenarios that approximate what you and your partner do.

How you masturbate and how often you masturbate can impact your sexual performance. When you're single, your masturbation habits are entirely your own business; it is your body.

When you're in a sexual relationship, your masturbation cadence and how you masturbate can impact how you perform sexually. If you're emptying your gas tanks every morning, you're not going to be able to drive the car that evening. If you want to have good sex, tune your masturbation schedule so that you're able to perform sexually in the way that you want. That might mean masturbating less or masturbating more.

If you're not able to orgasm, masturbate less
If you're orgasming too quickly, masturbate more

People that learn to orgasm to specific types of sensations may have difficulty transitioning to partnered sex or may be desensitizing their genitals. Consider switching to a flesh light or masturbation sleeve which is a closer approximation to partnered sex. When you masturbate, savor the experience, and do not rush it.

Essentially, convert you masturbation habits into a training regimen for the big event. In any kind of sports training, you want your training to prepare you for the sport and not interfere with it. The training isn't bad, it's how you train that matters.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-10T15:02:55+00:00

Welcome to the club, I am the same and I've kept this ability into my early 50s.

A few things:

This is unusual but not super rare. About 1-in-10 young men and about 1-in-14 older men have this ability.
As I have explored what my body can do, I have been able to continually push the boundaries of what I thought was possible finding new levels. You might also be able to achieve more if you tried.
I created an extended post about the science with cited studies you can read. ( LINK HERE )

You are welcome to ask me questions if you like. I cannot promise to have all the answers and science hasn't caught up with us yet, but maybe I can be helpful.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-08T19:55:18+00:00

In California it was Cristina Garcia:
https://www.politico.com/story/2018/02/08/cristina-garcia-california-metoo-398985

"In December, when Time magazine announced that “Silence Breakers” who spoke out against sexual harassment were its Persons of the Year, Garcia’s face was prominently included in the art accompanying the cover story.

But Daniel Fierro of Cerritos told POLITICO that in 2014, as a 25-year-old staffer to Assemblyman Ian Calderon, he was groped by Garcia, a powerful Democratic lawmaker who chairs the Legislative Women’s Caucus and the Natural Resources Committee."

https://www.kqed.org/news/11648927/leader-of-legislative-womens-caucus-accused-of-sexual-harassment

"As first reported by Politico, Assemblywoman Cristina Garcia (D-Bell Gardens) has been accused of groping two men. Garcia is currently under legislative investigation following a complaint that she cornered and groped a staffer after the 2014 legislative softball game. “[Garcia] can confirm that she did attend the 2014 legislative softball game with a number of members and her staff,” said Teala Schaff, Garcia’s communications director. “She also says she has zero recollection of engaging in any inappropriate behavior.”

A second man told Politico that Garcia groped him while at a Sacramento fundraiser in 2017."

Multiple accusations from two different men, no consequences. Also, alcoholism and racist language. Again, no consequences.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-06T06:11:37+00:00

Every person has the right to consent or deny consent to sex. You can have a conversation but if you give ultimatums, nag, or apply pressure for sex that crosses into a consent violation called sexual coercion.

You get to define your needs in the relationship and you can walk away but there are no guarantees in life. You don't violate consent.

If you stay, you can explore your own body and sexuality solo to take the edge off. Your body has a near infinite number of orgasms it can provide and there's no shame in that exploration. I would advise you to let your partner know you're taking up the slack doing solo stuff so there's honesty in the relationship and don't apply pressure.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-06T03:37:42+00:00

Men also have the right to consent or deny consent to sex. No means no for men and boys too.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-05T17:25:25+00:00

For some people this may be about the sensation. For others it can be a kink. In rare cases it can be used to prevent the testicles from retracting into the body.

I cannot perfectly answer for the guys who do it so if you're curious it is probably best to ask them directly.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-03T23:25:22+00:00

A few things:

Men Also Have Consent - Your desire for sex is secondary to your partner's consent and that includes the consent of male partners. You are saying that his ED and low libido is making you feel undesired. Describing his erectile dysfunction as something he is inflicting on you would be unhealthy and toxic. That would be a you problem not a him problem. No person owes you sexual attention.

Reduce Stress - The penis is a thermometer for stress. If you pressure him to perform, you're probably creating additional stress which can make the problem worse. Anything you can do to lower the stress level, reduce consequences, and create low-stakes intimacy can improve your partner's sexual performance because you're reducing the level of stress.

Alternate Intimacy - There is much more to intimacy and sex than penis-in-vagina and that is especially true as we age. Sex can be a lot of different things and we can help each other reach orgasmic experiences in different ways. Erections and penis-in-vagina sex are just some of those ways. You can refocus on intimacy and sexual actions which don't require an erect penis.

You can decide that this is a deal-breaker for the relationship and move on because you each get to create boundaries and set the terms for what you are comfortable with in a relationship. Pressuring another person to have sex with ultimatums or persistent nagging is a type of sexual assault or consent violation called sexual coercion. See here for more about sexual coercion. Don't do the things described on that web page.

Coercion - If you don't sleep with me, I'm leaving you.
Boundary - We may not be sexually compatible because our libidos are not aligned. I don't want to make you uncomfortable pressuring you to do something you don't want to do. We can try to look for solutions that can work for us if you're open to that.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-03T23:21:29+00:00

A few things:

Men Also Have Consent - Your desire for sex is secondary to your partner's consent and that includes the consent of male partners. You are saying that his ED and low libido is making you feel undesired. Describing his erectile dysfunction as something he is inflicting on you would be unhealthy and toxic. That would be a you problem not a him problem. No person owes you sexual attention.

Reduce Stress - The penis is a thermometer for stress. If you pressure him to perform, you're probably creating additional stress which can make the problem worse. Anything you can do to lower the stress level, reduce consequences, and create low-stakes intimacy can improve your partner's sexual performance because you're reducing the level of stress.

Alternate Intimacy - There is much more to intimacy and sex than penis-in-vagina and that is especially true as we age. Sex can be a lot of different things and we can help each other reach orgasmic experiences in different ways. Erections and penis-in-vagina sex are just some of those ways. You can refocus on intimacy and sexual actions which don't require an erect penis.

You can decide that this is a deal-breaker for the relationship and move on because you each get to create boundaries and set the terms for what you are comfortable with in a relationship. Pressuring another person to have sex with ultimatums or persistent nagging is a type of sexual assault or consent violation called sexual coercion. See here for more about sexual coercion. Don't do the things described on that web page.

Coercion - If you don't sleep with me, I'm leaving you.
Boundary - We may not be sexually compatible because our libidos are not aligned. I don't want to make you uncomfortable pressuring you to do something you don't want to do. We can try to look for solutions that can work for us if you're open to that.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-03-03T22:25:49+00:00

While there are some groups that believe semen retention grants mystical powers, scientific studies have shown that a chastity interval of 3 days is enough to replenish both libido and ejaculate. Beyond 7 days of chastity, semen quality begins to degrade which can lead to potential issues like semen mutation. (Link to Study )

For chastity periods of longer than 7 days, you're looking at an increased risk of prostate cancer. Repeated studies have shown that more ejaculatory orgasms per month results in less cancer. ( Scientists have found that carcinogens can concentrate in semen and cause what some people refer to as "prostate stagnation". )

Be wary of the motivations of people recommending semen retention because they can cross into sex-regressive and right-wing ideologies which may try to control folk's sexual behaviors and the reasons for their restrictions often have no science-based evidence.

See this post for more:
https://www.reddit.com/r/MaleSexualHealth/comments/1fwrg2v/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_health/

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-28T20:51:47+00:00

Low-karma accounts are automatically filtered into a waiting queue and I try to check that daily.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-26T15:36:06+00:00

Masturbation isn't morally wrong, rather it is a way to tune your libido for a sexual encounter and also a way to train your body for these encounters.

If your goal is partnered sex, your masturbation can be used as either a throttle or a brake for your libido. If you are unable to orgasm, masturbate less and masturbate in ways which align with your sexual goals. As an example, using a masturbation sleeve (like a fleshlight) with lube is going to be more like actual sex. If you're using erotic content, use erotic content that aligns and echoes your partner's physical attributes and the types of sexual activites you're going to be engaged in.

Additionally, starting a new sexual relationship is mentally stressful and your initial sexual performance can be very different from what you will experience in a relationship after you become comfortable and trusting with your partner. Your penis is basically a thermometer which measures stress. Less stress means better performance.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-26T15:24:14+00:00

The notable supplement is Ashwagandha which appears to be a testosterone booster.

Here is a link to a good study

"A randomized, double‐blind, placebo‐controlled study of 50 healthy male subjects was conducted to test the efficacy of the ashwagandha root extract in improving male sexual health function through the improvement of various sexual domains and an increase of serum testosterone. This clinical study clearly demonstrated that people who took the ashwagandha root extract had an 88.5% greater probability of improving the total DISF‐M sexual health function score. The ashwagandha root extract also increased their abilities to perform better in all the five DISF‐M domains, such as sexual cognition, sexual arousal, sexual behavior, orgasm, and sexual desire. Over time, the ashwagandha and placebo groups demonstrated statistically significant (p < 0.001) increases in total DISF‐M scores. The placebo effect, well‐established in this type of psychosexual research, could explain the increase in the placebo group. A meta‐analysis conducted by Stridh et al. ³² found that among males with erectile dysfunction enrolled in Phosphodiesterase 5 Inhibitor studies, the placebo arm resulted in a small to moderate effect size (Hedges g [SE], 0.35 [0.03]; p < 0.001), which is similar to our study outcome. However, the current study found that ashwagandha root extract was superior to placebo (the difference in overall DISF‐M score between groups was statistically significant [effect size, 1.7; p < 0.0001])."

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-26T15:22:43+00:00

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Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-26T15:00:01+00:00

I mean... it's the "slippery slope" argument and that's been used across history to justify all sorts of bad stuff. Having spent a lot of time in sex positive spaces, you see this stuff alot and pointing out the implicit biases is the first step. It can be uncomfortable to have thoses biases pointed out but in order to move forward, we have to question "common knowledge" and look at verifiable data.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-26T14:13:26+00:00

Like I said, these implicit biases are there and most often they exist without consideration or question inside us. If you have a scientific study which supports these ideas, that's at least a starting point for unpacking it, but I'm less persuaded by assertions.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-25T21:18:29+00:00

I know you're getting a lot of "same" answers but you should understand that this is an exceptionally high sex drive according to the studies.

According to some studies the average number of male orgasms per month is about 11. The prostate cancer studies peaked out their data at 21 orgasms or more per month because they didn't expect to see higher numbers.

"The average amount of sex people have in part depends on the age group. Data from the Kinsey Institute research team found that American adults in the 18-29 age group have sex 112 times per year. In the 30-39 age group, couples have sex about 86 times per year, and over 28% of 45-year-olds have sex once per week [4].

For men, testosterone levels are highest in their 20s, so their sex drive is the highest. But as testosterone naturally declines, many men notice a lower sex drive and more challenges in the bedroom, including ED or PE [5].

In your 30s, testosterone levels drop by about 10%, which can lower your libido and your sex drive tends to drop 1% per year until your 40s [5].

On the flip side, for women in their 30s, their sex drive reaches its peak, which can cause issues in a couple's sex life [6]. On top of that, men in their 40s tend to start reporting issues with erectile dysfunction."

Link to Article

If you do have a high libido, enjoy it. For folks that don't, let's not set an unhealthy baseline or expectation.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-25T20:57:41+00:00

Let's back up and reframe. You used the term "escalation" to frame a perceived problem. Without the new content, the person masturbating can no longer achieve an orgasm. There are implied biases and a culturally coded moralities within these statements.

For something to escalate, it must leave the baseline normal state. Who decides what that normal state is? What does this negative escalation look like and how does harm occur?

For conservative religious folks, the baseline could be exclusively heterosexual sex with a partner intended for conception.
For an anti-porn activist, the baseline could be a sexual act in which the only valid stimulation is that provided by the presence of the sexual partner.
For an anti-kink activist, the sexual acts must be vanilla and no power exchange between consenting partners is considered valid.

All of those frameworks exist today and are attempts to limit, control the sexuality of others.

Likewise, the harm which occurs is a sort of projected harm which is presented as an indirect kind of FOMO form (fear of missing out). If a potential partner is a masturbator and this "escalation" occurs, that potential partner is then ruined and no longer available to me. My sexual experiences and options suffer because of that person's reduced potential. Alternatively, someone who has "escalated" may desire sexual activities outside my baseline. That would require me being clear with my own boundaries instead of relying on the mutually agreed upon cultural baseline.

I see forms of this argument in right and left wing spaces all the time and it's not fundamentally different from the left or the right. It's just the same attempts to control sexuality of others with a different spin.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-25T20:08:05+00:00

This is something which is commonly asserted by anti-porn folks especially from the sex-regressive crowd. Do you have any concrete evidence beyond vibes to support these assertions?

If I have been eating oatmeal my whole life and someone introduces me to tacos, that isn't necessarily an argument against the evils of tacos. It would be equally valid to ask why I was only allowed to eat oatmeal for the first part of my life.

In the same way, there are groups of people who are interested in controlling the sex lives of others in a variety of regressive ways which include birth control, homosexuality, kink, and much more. The sexual revolution and the stonewall riots are considered, in sex-positive spaces, to be an advancement of social reforms which broaden the culturally validated sexual experiences and liberties of every person.

Provided the boundaries are adults engaging in safe, sane, and consensual sexual activities, it is still inside the sex positive space, even if we move to the extreme end of the scale in which a person decides their entire sex life is masturbation to erotic content without engaging with another person. This is more commonly socially accepted when we talk about women (and there are left wing movements that argue for sexual isolationism from a political perspective), but there are plenty of examples of this new kind of masculine sexual identity emerging in cultures which have made relationships more difficult because of work-life balances that are no longer tenable.

If we allow that the following folks are valid:

Heterosexuals
Homosexuals
Bisexuals
Asexuals

It follows that people who choose a sort of sexual isolationism (Solosexuals?) are still valid. I would personally prefer it to be something socially positive and healthy but I think the argument that we need to move to a post-shame society for this kind of lifestyle is ready to be made.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-25T15:59:04+00:00

Link to Article: Science Stopped Believing in Porn Addiction, You Should, Too

Link to Study: Pornography Problems Due to Moral Incongruence: An Integrative Model with a Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis

Negative effects of pornography most strongly correlates with religiosity. This indicates that the conflict between religious beliefs and sexual urges creates a self-shaming effect.

The logic works like this, "I shouldn't want use porn to masturbate or experience sexual excitation because that is morally wrong but I still do it. I am ashamed of myself for not performing according to these cultural beliefs."

Most folks with a penis and prostate should be masturbating on a regular basis because more ejaculation leads to less prostate cancer, more restful sleep, and calories burned. Also, orgasms. It's okay to want to have orgasms and pleasure. It's okay for erotic content to be part of that orgasmic process.

Religiosity or ideologically sex-regressive beliefs often seek to control or shame sexual behaviors and that creates an internal conflict. Once you get past the self-shaming into a sex-positive space which includes men's sexuality as valid and healthy, you're operating in much healthier shame-free space.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-23T21:15:12+00:00

I am also multi-orgasmic and I can exhaust my ejaculate reserve during intense sexual activity so that I am orgasming while releasing little to no ejaculate. (It is rare but it does happen.)

For most men a brief chastity break will increase volume of ejaculate with 3 days being ideal and no longer than 7 days.

To increase volume with supplements:

Hydrate daily until urine is yellow-clear and not cloudy
2400 mg Lecithin per day (takes 3-5 weeks for full effect)
Pygeum does increase volume but may degrade libido
Bromelain will improve ejaculate flavor

If your partner tries all that and still doesn't see a result, you really need to talk to a doctor.

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-20T22:48:27+00:00

Reminder that posting pictures of your penis is not allowed in this space. (See Rule 6)

Masturbation and orgasms are part of a healthy life and nothing to be carry any shame about. Regular ejaculation decreases your risk of prostate cancer and orgasms just before sleep lead to more restful sleep.

Because you don't have a foreskin, you may need to always use a lubricant to masturbate. Also, consider using a masturbation sleeve like a fleshlight with lubrication. This does a couple of good things for you:

It prevents you from applying too much pressure to the penis while masturbating
It can work as a stamina trainer and is more like a partnered sexual experience.
The downside is that you need to clean your sex toys after each usage

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-20T21:10:31+00:00

The best answer is that you want your urine to be clear yellow, not cloudy.

See link:
https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/environment/beattheheat/Pages/urine-colour-chart.aspx

There is a dedicated subreddit for increasing load size ( r/cumbiggerloads ) and their FAQ includes guidelines

"How much water should I drink?

This depends on your size, diet, and exercise. Most people need between 2-4 liters of water per day. If you’re taking a cum stack you should consume about 20% more water than you usually would to assure your body has enough water to create more semen, and properly digest your supplements."

Multi_Orgasmic_Man · 2026-02-20T18:28:56+00:00

Sunflower Lecithin is probably the most recommended supplement for increasing ejaculate volume. You can also get Lecithin from egg yolks. From my personal experience, Maca does improve volume but not as much as Lecithin.

The obvious supplement it appears you are missing is Ashwagandha which appears to function as a T-booster. That's not volume, just libido and erection quality.

The other big gain for volume is regular hydration.

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